Neighbours kids keep looking over our fence

No

She’s only a kid, probably wants to see the dog. I honestly wouldn’t mind and I’d say hello. We all seem to live in bubbles nowadays

You have literally made up these scenarios based on no evidence though!

You can see by the vote and majority of comments that most people would be unhappy with this intrusion and don’t want a nosy child peering in the garden trying to wind the dogs up.

OP doesn’t need to train her dog to stop someone looking over her fence when the solution is to get the child to stop.
There is nothing at all to suggest that OP doesn’t walk her dog and she shouldn’t have to take it inside to stop a child misbehaving.
Why should the dog be made to go inside for something that’s not his fault when he wouldn’t bark if there wasn’t a random face popping up over the fence which probably startles him?

You have come up with two imaginary scenarios to make OP into the unreasonable person which is just bizarre and you seem to have decided this is a sweet neglected little girl when she is being rude by deliberately ignoring OP when she asked her to stop looking over the fence, she clearly knows she’s in the wrong as she runs away to avoid being asked to stop.

We can only go off what is actually in the OP to comment or all posts on AIBU are just pointless.

AIBU to ask my husband to clean the kitchen after he makes a meal?

He is having an affair and cooking for the other woman when you are at work and is deliberately not cleaning up to annoy you so you’ll leave him.

AIBU to ask my friend to pay back some money she owes me?

She can’t pay you back as her husband is financially abusive and she doesn’t have access to her own money and borrowed it for food because he starves her.

So many people seem to think that life is the same for everyone based off their own experiences and if someone has a different point of view they must be wrong.
You might think that OP is rude and not the child (because children can do no wrong) but that doesn’t make it fact.
Just because you would choose to interact with the child it doesn’t mean that’s the right thing to do. If we are making up scenarios how do you know OP doesn’t eat young children or feed them to her dog and encouraging her to interact with her neighbours daughter could lead to her peril and ending up on the BBQ?!

You do love an arsehole don’t you.

Yes ,it's basic manners and decency to consider someone's feelings(especially a child who is probably completely unaware of the social cues ) and not go out their way to be hurtful or rude . It's really easy you don't have to be a arsehole even when something is mildly annoying.

Tough it's the real world and children exist ,some ppl do t like dogs and one .ay have to chat with her one day if her dog causes a issue ,it's called being a adult

If this question had arisen some years ago, it would have gone like this -
Child peers over fence
House owner tells her to stop staring at her
Child cries and runs in to Mummy, saying the nasty neighbour has been 'howwid' to her
Mummy says 'well don't stare at her over the fence

Sorted!

Shows the mentality of some ppl .

As classy as being a arsehole.to a 5 year old ,you get the version you deserve

Sounds like it's a game to her now. Perhaps have a word with the parents, and ask if it's the dog she's interested in? Suggest you introduce her to the dog, if the dog is friendly AND she's not frightened. If it's not the dog, is she just curious about new neighbours? If so, just ignore her, and hope she'll soon get bored if she doesn't get a reaction from you.

Creosote isn't the same anymore, they banned the old stuff donkeys years ago.

My son used to do exactly this. Standing on the wall looking over the fence. He would then come in to house and nag us to get a dog, non stop!! He never stopped talking about the next door dog. My neighbours did put up a higher fence, he just stood on something higher. They never asked us about stopping my child looking over the fence, otherwise I would have acted.
My next door neighbours dog had puppies - we purchased one - he never looked over the fence again!!!!

Classy

Same but those days are long gone. It’s for everyone else to suffer and tie themselves in knots to appease the behaviour. When I was a small child I wanted to call my Guinea pig George. I was told no because the bloke next door was called George and my mum didn’t think he’d want that called out over and over (in case he thought we were pestering him). Imagine that!!!

There is an assumption that if you have an issue with a neighbour that having a polite chat with them will clear the air and hopefully result in positive change. I tried this with my neighbours and got told to "fuck off, we don't speak to women, so fuck off" from two large and intidating men who like to spend the time getting drunk and yelling. Not everyone is reasonable, pro-social and willling or able to see that their behaviour negatively impacts on others

You would break the law, and try and give a 5 year old cancer? Because they looked over the fence sometimes? You need help.

Yuk.

I'd creosote the fence, regularly... failing that start naked gardening / warn your neighbours your nudist cousins are coming to stay all summer / that you are hosting perineum sunning workshops in the garden etc!

I think the OP did talk to the neighbours though...

It's actually officially listed as some of the things that can be enforced for privacy if persistent and impacting others, parents shouldnt let children play and look over fences into gardens including things like bouncing on trampolines so they can see over. Normal playing noise and all of that is ok of course, but you can take action for privacy if it happens consistently.

It's ok, she won't shrink!

Do you not understand the setting off the dogs bit? The neighbours will be complaining next with the dogs barking...

And yes, she's 5. 5 is old enough to understand the parents saying 'please don't climb on the table and wind up the dogs and mainly because it's unsafe to climb on the table when we are not with you (or at all)".

I think 5 may be old enough to learn about getting sprayed with a hose though and not to do it again!!

You’re doing your children a disservice if you don’t teach them manners. No one here will actually turn a hose on them but a lot will want to.

Have you ever considered she wants to see the little doggy? She is a kid, I know its unsettling but kids do weird stuff and its not really anything voyeuristic is it?

Have a chat with her parents, explain you are worried she will fall when she stands on the table and that it sets your dog off.