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Neighbours kids keep looking over our fence

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lilybit2025 · 07/04/2026 11:18

As the title suggests. Young girl around 5-6 keeps looking over at our fence. Did it a handful of times yesterday until I turned around and said 'hello can I help you?' And she's doing it again today. It sets our dog off and drives her insane yet she still does it.
I find it incredibly intrusive and I don't know if our neighbours know she's doing it and she's only a child but we do not have children and aren't particularly fond of them either.

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aquashiv · 08/04/2026 08:15

She's a kid, she's nosey. Smile at her, you old grump. If it were adults, get your bum out.

Tuinton · 08/04/2026 08:13

Onleemoi · 08/04/2026 08:12

Yeah, you’re focussing on the one or two posters who said they don’t like children and saying people should tolerate poor behaviour if kids are young. If people parented properly neither would be an issue.

I think you need to learn some comprehension skills.

Onleemoi · 08/04/2026 08:12

Yeah, you’re focussing on the one or two posters who said they don’t like children and saying people should tolerate poor behaviour if kids are young. If people parented properly neither would be an issue.

Lurkingandlearning · 08/04/2026 08:07

lilybit2025 · 07/04/2026 11:26

She's is standing up on a table and looking over. Every time she sees me see her she ducks down and runs into the house, so it's impossible to tell her to stop! Think it's a word with the parents

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So she gets on a table, looks over the fence. The dog barks, you look round, she goes inside her house, your dog stops barking.

That sounds like a game that will soon become boring.

If It doesn’t, maybe approach it from another angle with her parents. Ask them if they find the barking annoying. Then explain why he is barking and ask if they could move whatever she is climbing on away from the fence.

Tuinton · 08/04/2026 08:06

Onleemoi · 08/04/2026 08:02

Have a go at the adults letting their kids down not the ones noticing it.

Are you actually reading what I'm saying

Onleemoi · 08/04/2026 08:02

Have a go at the adults letting their kids down not the ones noticing it.

Tuinton · 08/04/2026 07:56

Onleemoi · 08/04/2026 07:36

It’s the behaviour people don’t like. Help your kids out by teaching them how to behave.

Right but that's related to individual children. So it's still ridiculous to say you "don't like" children.

In any case, whilst in this case I agree the child's behaviour is unacceptable, people's tolerance to what is completely normal and age appropriate behaviour for children is very low.

LilyBunch25 · 08/04/2026 07:53

Tryanalogue · 07/04/2026 21:07

Control your dog.

A cat can look at the Queen.

Don't be daft. You're saying its down to the OP to "control their dog" because a child is climbing up to nose over the fence? No.

Tuinton · 08/04/2026 07:53

TwoBagsOfCompost · 08/04/2026 07:32

Is this a genuine question or just too many words to say that you “wish you were still able to tell it like it is without PC gone mad”?

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I'm the daughter of a refugee, I think you are barking up the wrong tree 😂. It was a genuine question. I think it's utterly absurd to think you can say you "don't like" an entire group of people.

Maxme · 08/04/2026 07:49

Obviously barbed wire and a motion sensor with sirens.Or as the days get warmer you must develop an interest in nudism.

SillyQuail · 08/04/2026 07:36

Our neighbours have a dark that barks every time one of us is on our driveway. Sometimes our kids look through the hedge to try and see it. I think your barky dog is the problem, not a kid being curious. She'll stop being interested before long but your dog will still be a nuisance to them if it barks every time someone looks at it

Onleemoi · 08/04/2026 07:36

It’s the behaviour people don’t like. Help your kids out by teaching them how to behave.

TwoBagsOfCompost · 08/04/2026 07:34

BeardofHagrid · 08/04/2026 07:17

She’s an innocent child. She’ll get bored eventually, just let her do it.

Innocent until proven guilty.

TwoBagsOfCompost · 08/04/2026 07:32

Tuinton · 08/04/2026 07:08

Wonder if it's acceptable to say you don't like any other massive generalised group of people in the same way people seem to think it's acceptable to say they "don't like" children.

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Is this a genuine question or just too many words to say that you “wish you were still able to tell it like it is without PC gone mad”?

Tuinton · 08/04/2026 07:32

BTW I agree this isn't OK, I just find it completely bizarre that it's deemed acceptable to just say you "don't like" children in a way that wouldn't be ok about any other group of people.

Onleemoi · 08/04/2026 07:31

And if she doesn’t get bored? What age do kids need to be before you’re allowed to be annoyed by them?

BeardofHagrid · 08/04/2026 07:17

She’s an innocent child. She’ll get bored eventually, just let her do it.

Onleemoi · 08/04/2026 07:17

Stop worrying about mners having children or not and start thinking about why you’re trying to blame the op (and her dog!) for this situation. Parent your children properly and people won’t be so pissed off by them.

Tuinton · 08/04/2026 07:08

TwoBagsOfCompost · 07/04/2026 22:04

We are many and we are strong.

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Wonder if it's acceptable to say you don't like any other massive generalised group of people in the same way people seem to think it's acceptable to say they "don't like" children.

Steeleydan · 08/04/2026 07:00

Pherian · 08/04/2026 00:00

Have you tried speaking to her parents.

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Read the thread!! Parents are in denial, their little precious wouldn't do such a thing

Isittimeformynapyet · 08/04/2026 05:39

Pherian · 08/04/2026 00:00

Have you tried speaking to her parents.

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Have you tried reading OP's updates?

Hohumitsreallyallthereis · 08/04/2026 04:03

Given the hold is barking at your dog, and her parents not parenting, I’d say something along the lines of piss off too.

MintSnail · 08/04/2026 03:32

Trellis

Imaginary86 · 08/04/2026 00:36

Bollixtothat · 07/04/2026 17:25

Get a big hose and water your garden ! Would be a shame if you accidentally soaked her! She knows exactly what she’s doing and she’s enjoying winding you up.

Yes I’m sure a 5 year old girl is that manipulative 😂 there are posters on this thread that sound more immature than the 5 year old

SummerFate · 08/04/2026 00:03

Pherian · 08/04/2026 00:00

Have you tried speaking to her parents.

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Holy fuck.