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Neighbours kids keep looking over our fence

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lilybit2025 · 07/04/2026 11:18

As the title suggests. Young girl around 5-6 keeps looking over at our fence. Did it a handful of times yesterday until I turned around and said 'hello can I help you?' And she's doing it again today. It sets our dog off and drives her insane yet she still does it.
I find it incredibly intrusive and I don't know if our neighbours know she's doing it and she's only a child but we do not have children and aren't particularly fond of them either.

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MissRaspberryRipples · 08/04/2026 23:52

iwishtoo · 07/04/2026 13:26

Being a noise nuisance....

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Nowhere in this post is the OP stating that her dog barks all day every day. It's the neighbours child setting the dog off and to add in that the kid after being asked not to keep doing it she is now purposely doing it and also making barking sounds at the dog so she is clearly doing it now to taunt the dog. The parents would soon be bashing on the door if that dog went for their kid and hurt her though I bet

weusedtobeapropercountry · 08/04/2026 23:46

Control your bloody dog.

MissRaspberryRipples · 08/04/2026 23:35

lilybit2025 · 07/04/2026 14:52

Hi all - she did it again whilst I was upstairs. This time barking at the dog and making our dogs lose her shit. I've just gone round to the parents and asked them to stop her looking over. They of course have said she isn't doing that. Time to move 😂

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Can you put a cheap camera overlooking the garden and show her parents the footage next time she does it? They can't deny it then at least but I can imagine they probably won't care and won't do anything to stop her. You can at least let them know you're not lying about their precious princess though

ClarkeFangirl · 08/04/2026 23:29

SummerFate · 08/04/2026 22:14

Have you considered reading the existing replies? Or one of the countless threads on this topic?

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1.All the replies I'd read were directly addressing the situation the OP described. I was not aware that other posters asked a version of the same question.

  1. Sorry, one of what countless threads?

I don't really understand your comments, tbh.

SummerFate · 08/04/2026 23:08

Steeleydan · 08/04/2026 22:35

Are you for real?

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Obviously not. It’s very clearly sarcasm.

KookyKoala007 · 08/04/2026 22:53

SummerFate · 08/04/2026 17:45

If you don’t have children and don’t like children. Why on earth are you on Mumsnet? This feels really Clickbaity.

And I suppose posting this for approximately the 93rd time on the thread isn’t clickbaity?

By the 93rd time of the same thing being said surely only an idiot would take the bait?

…..oh

KookyKoala007 · 08/04/2026 22:50

feistyoneyouare · 08/04/2026 17:45

It really isn't clickbaity, and people without kids are on MN because not all of MN is about parenting. 🙄 Have you not been on MN long?

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About 20 years- I remember when it really was for parents and we used to lobby parliament. Now these boards seem just for folk who want the Reddit experience without dealing with all the people for whom English isn’t their first language 🤷🏽

Steeleydan · 08/04/2026 22:35

Onleemoi · 08/04/2026 15:13

Yeah, just train your dog not to bark at perceived threats in its own garden, buy the kid chocolate, make friends, arrange play dates, offer to babysit, driving lessons when she’s old enough, write her into your will. And stop being grumpy, and take your dog for walks too. Ffs op.

Are you for real?

HotRootsAndNaughtyToots · 08/04/2026 22:17

I'd carefully position a sprinkler and turn it on whenever she peered over.

SummerFate · 08/04/2026 22:14

ClarkeFangirl · 08/04/2026 21:18

I'm curious: what brings you to Mumsnet?

Have you considered reading the existing replies? Or one of the countless threads on this topic?

ilovesooty · 08/04/2026 22:06

puggywuggy · 08/04/2026 22:03

Why are you on mumsnet if you don’t like or have children?

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Haven't you read any of the answers on the thread?

puggywuggy · 08/04/2026 22:03

Why are you on mumsnet if you don’t like or have children?

Noodles1234 · 08/04/2026 21:19

Small children are often curious, thing is as adults we don’t like this invasion of privacy.

id plant something, if you plant bamboo check Google for the right type and ONLY plant in a pot with no holes as can get invasive. That or laurel or red Robin etc, but these are a little thicker. Or, you can get rollout bamboo panels etc, just make it higher than your fence and explain to your neighbour why you are having to do it.

ClarkeFangirl · 08/04/2026 21:18

I'm curious: what brings you to Mumsnet?

scalt · 08/04/2026 20:45

And now somebody on this thread has referred to children as “little shits”. Mumsnet bingo.

Onleemoi · 08/04/2026 19:43

If the kid stops staring over the fence, the dog stops yapping.

The fault lies with the parents from every angle.

Wtafdidido · 08/04/2026 19:32

Im sure your yapping dog is much more annoying to them

Mintteaplease · 08/04/2026 19:30

Notyouagaindear · 08/04/2026 16:10

Ive found this thread a bit disturbing - multiple posters “joking” about potentially hurting this little child with nails, spikes, barbed wire, spiky plants etc.

Can you imagine telling your annoying boss to “go away” or saying “piss off” to someone on a bus who won’t stop trying to make small talk? Or what about soaking an elderly person who keeps pestering you in a cafe - it’s ok as they “won’t shrink” according to a PP. Of course you wouldn’t - yet it’s apparently ok to do these things to a 5 year old.

Absolutely, scary

Onleemoi · 08/04/2026 19:02

I was once a kid. I have a mum. Surely I qualify?

BMW6 · 08/04/2026 18:54

SnappyFinch · 08/04/2026 18:16

Why are you on mumsnet if you don’t like or have kids?

I couldn't edit my post to add - I'm on MN because it covers a great many topics that have fuck all to do with kids.

HTH

KilkennyCats · 08/04/2026 18:49

SnappyFinch · 08/04/2026 18:16

Why are you on mumsnet if you don’t like or have kids?

Just because someone may have kids themselves doesn’t mean they like all and any random kids they happen to pass in the street (or that pop their heads over their fence, as the case may be).
What a strange viewpoint.

BMW6 · 08/04/2026 18:44

SnappyFinch · 08/04/2026 18:16

Why are you on mumsnet if you don’t like or have kids?

Mumsnet isn't a hive mind fan club of all kids!

Some kids misbehave, some are absolute little shits.

Shock for you - I don't even have any kids 🙄

ruthgordon123 · 08/04/2026 18:41

lilybit2025 · 07/04/2026 11:18

As the title suggests. Young girl around 5-6 keeps looking over at our fence. Did it a handful of times yesterday until I turned around and said 'hello can I help you?' And she's doing it again today. It sets our dog off and drives her insane yet she still does it.
I find it incredibly intrusive and I don't know if our neighbours know she's doing it and she's only a child but we do not have children and aren't particularly fond of them either.

Is that you Meghan?

SnappyFinch · 08/04/2026 18:16

Why are you on mumsnet if you don’t like or have kids?

hazelberry · 08/04/2026 18:05

SummerFate · 08/04/2026 17:56

Well if that was her intention, it worked, didn’t it? Every woman and her dog have leapt on the thread to question it.

Yep it worked.

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