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Neighbours kids keep looking over our fence

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lilybit2025 · 07/04/2026 11:18

As the title suggests. Young girl around 5-6 keeps looking over at our fence. Did it a handful of times yesterday until I turned around and said 'hello can I help you?' And she's doing it again today. It sets our dog off and drives her insane yet she still does it.
I find it incredibly intrusive and I don't know if our neighbours know she's doing it and she's only a child but we do not have children and aren't particularly fond of them either.

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lilybit2025 · 07/04/2026 11:22

marcyhermit · 07/04/2026 11:20

Which summer?
A few weeks ago or yesterday?

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She was doing it a few weeks ago peering over and it's only this year it's started happening in the last couple of weeks

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lilybit2025 · 07/04/2026 11:21

KilkennyCats · 07/04/2026 11:20

How high is the fence that a 5 year old can see over it?
If you want privacy you’re going to have to make it a bit taller, I’m afraid.

It's a normal sized garden fence. I think she stands in a table to peer over.

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rubyslippers · 07/04/2026 11:21

When she pops up just say please don’t do that as it makes my dog bark a lot which isnt nice - keep it light
if it carries on just speak kindly to your neighbours about it

marcyhermit · 07/04/2026 11:20

lilybit2025 · 07/04/2026 11:19

Yes, a few weeks ago I asked her to stop as it makes our dog bark. She's still doing it. First summer this has happened as she's old enough to be outside and tall enough to stand on things.

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Which summer?
A few weeks ago or yesterday?

KilkennyCats · 07/04/2026 11:20

How high is the fence that a 5 year old can see over it?
If you want privacy you’re going to have to make it a bit taller, I’m afraid.

carnivalcat · 07/04/2026 11:20

I’d go round and ask if they could have a word with their daughter about peering into your garden. Not only does it impact your privacy but it’s unfair for your dog to feel unsafe/distressed in its garden.

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lilybit2025 · 07/04/2026 11:19

marcyhermit · 07/04/2026 11:18

This is going to sound crazy, but have you tried asking her not to?

Yes, a few weeks ago I asked her to stop as it makes our dog bark. She's still doing it. First summer this has happened as she's old enough to be outside and tall enough to stand on things.

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Trusttheawesome · 07/04/2026 11:19

You tell her to stop looking over into your garden. Obviously.

marcyhermit · 07/04/2026 11:18

This is going to sound crazy, but have you tried asking her not to?