Neighbours kids keep looking over our fence

If telling the child not to, and asking the parents to stop her, doesn't work then the OP can look at extending her fence or planting something for privacy.
But try speaking to the neighbours to resolve it amicably first.

No don’t invent an excuse that deflects from the problem. Dog or no dog she’s being rude. Probably she doesn’t know this but she has to learn that it’s rude to stare and be nosey. And the fact that she’s standing on something to do this highlights that she shouldn’t be doing it.

Years ago she’d have been told “oi, Miss Nosey. Mind your own business”.

Although you’ve had a lot of people say it’s not acceptable and to tell the parents, realistically you can’t stop her standing on a table/ climbing a tree / bouncing on a trampoline in her own garden.

Is your fence a 6 ft fence? If not, then i would look into either replacing or extending it.
Or...... Just knock and speak to your neighbours and let them know and that you would prefer their child to not look over your fence.

Try speaking to her parents first. Failing that, plant prickly things along the fence line. Some lovley holly and hawthorn should act as a deterrent 😂

Simply train your ddog to not care.. It's took me 2 short afternoons only to stop our dpuppy barking at ndn lawnmower and the fucking yappy ddog they have. Yesterday they had another yappy fuck and dpuppy didn't even react.. *stealth boast!

I was also going to suggest you had a mishap with the hose. And stop telling her so nicely to stop looking over the fence - she might take notice if you’re more assertive and make her realise she’s making you angry.

Spray her with a garden hose 😉

Obviously, you need speak to her parents. I mean, it's the obvious answer unless you want to faff about putting trellis on the top of your fence and growing climbers up.

Just tell her off

Probably at 5 she can’t lift a table next to the fence -ask neighbours to put it away

Please dont do this. Its such rubbish. 1. Op has everything right to ask the parents not to lwt their child peer into her garden, disturb her dog, or disrupt her privacy and 2. She's just leaving the door open for parents to day, "oh, its fine, we actually have a really stable table there and even if she fell, its very soft.

I wish people would just be honest. As a pp said, its all about tone. You can be friendly and polite but still make your boundaries clear.

Oh come on!
An Easter egg? Op doesn’t need to bribe the child not to constantly stick her head over the fence.

What I would have done was to have gone round with an easter egg as a friendly gesture and when i handed it over to the parents I would have mentioned about the fence issue.

It's not WHAT we say, it's the manner in which we say it.

I doubt you can do anything about it at all.

Also not a great idea to stand on a table. I doubt her parents are aware. They are not watching her.

You could frame it, to the parents, as safety concerns about the table and dog i.e. she could fall off the table if the dog startled her by barking. You can say it makes you worried.

'Please don't look over the fence, you need to stay in your own garden. If you keep doing it I'll have to tell your mummy and daddy'

I had this, except they were climbing over to get their football back. That wasn't going to continue!

I wasn't nasty, just told him not to do it again and to knock on the door.

Yeah, that’s unacceptable, not to mention unsafe.
I wonder to the parents actually care, though, they must have noticed her doing it? I’d have a word with them, they might think you don’t have an issue with it.

“Hi, your daughter is popping her head over our fence and making our dog go nuts. I’m sure you’ve heard it. Can you have a word with her about boundaries and privacy? Thanks”
Thats all that needs to be said. In a light, breezy, but no nonsense tone.

is she leaning over the fence or just standing on something & can see in? Realistically to stop the latter you need a taller fence.

If she's 5 then telling her once a few weeks ago isn't going to mean she never does it again.

Instead of 'hello, can I help you' (young children don't understand passive-aggression) you should have reminded her yesterday that she mustn't lean over the fence as it upsets the dog.
Then, if it carried on after a clear instruction, pop round and speak to the parents.

@lilybit2025 dont ask her tell her firmly, go away also works oh and speak to your neighbours about the invasion of your privacy

Yes, ask her. Andnif she persists, have a friendly word with her parents.

Nephew does this and SIL thinks its "lovely" that he's so friendly to the neighbours. I have often wondered if the neighbours would agree. I suspect not!

Get a bigger fence!

agree with this. The girl needs to learn boundaries and what is appropriate/inappropriate. That would be better coming from her parents who can sit and explain to her