Neighbours kids keep looking over our fence

Im quite sure that’s the case. I didn’t expect people to like my child when she was young and really couldn’t have cared less whether they did or not.

Ignore her. Read a book, listen to your radio very low or garden. For a week or so sit with your back to her and train your dog not to response. If nobody is looking or remarking about her she will get bored and she will see no interest in trying to get a response.

Does you dog bark at other times?
Like every time someone comes to the door
How often a day do you walk your dog or it just parked in the garden.
I’m not sure what any of this has to do with the issue with the child? 🤷🏼‍♀️

And why should the OP introduce the child to her dog, doesn’t matter what the child wants, she doesn’t have a right to play with a dog, should the OP then have a responsibility to watch the child whilst she plays with the dog?

A dog will bark at someone peering over a fence whether they know them or not, whether that be a guarded bark or excitement.
The issue isn’t with the dog, it’s with the child who peers over the fence. It isn’t up to the OP to engage or entertain her neighbours child.

And this isn’t anything to do with anyone being uptight, this is down to rubbish parenting.

Set up a water sprinkler pointing at the fence so she gets soaked when she peers over.

She’s only 5 or 6, which is still very young to really understand boundaries like privacy—especially if she’s just peeking over the fence. It might simply be that she’s curious or enjoys watching your dog; young children are often naturally drawn to pets, particularly if they don’t have one of their own.
It does seem quite harmless, and she’ll likely lose interest or get distracted by something else soon. Personally, something like this from such a young child wouldn’t bother me.
That said, if it’s making you or your dog uncomfortable, it’s absolutely reasonable to address it. You could have a polite word with the parent—perhaps frame it from a safety perspective—and they could consider moving the table away from the fence as a simple solution.

Jesus, people saying to spray the 5 year old with a hose. Be a big girl - you know, an adult - and do as other posters have said and go talk to her parents. Nicely. They are your neighbors. You’re being unreasonable to expect a five year old not to look over your fence, probably at your dog. Even if you are the neighborhood, kid hating grouch.

People talking about “boundaries” - do you own the airspace? Be an adult, talk to the parents, introduce the child to the dog, use some charm. Like the poster who suggested an Easter egg and got chastised
for “bribing” was suggesting. And if the kid keeps peeking over the fence, ignore her and take the dog inside and she will learn you are boring and lose interest.

Here’s a tip - it doesn’t help your position to say “I don’t like children”. Children are people - what other group of people are you comfortable saying you dislike? Talk about rude.

Could an adult standing in the next garden see over the fence? If so, if the girl is just standing on a table and not leaning over the fence/banging on it/calling to the dog, I can't see how you've got a (table) leg to stand on. People have a right to stand anywhere and face any direction they like in their own garden. The only solution would be to erect a taller fence.

Implying the op doesn’t walk her dog to detract from the neighbours not parenting their child. Only MN.

That reads like a euphemism for "grow a pair" but I don't think you meant it that way

trellis on tope of the fence

Does you dog bark at other times?

Like every time someone comes to the door

How often a day do you walk your dog or it just parked in the garden.

I am siding with the 6 year old right now. See the kids parents if its still getting on you and your dogs nerves. Perhaps introduce the dog to the child then it will not bark. Probably wants to play with the dog like a normal kid not some uptight adult!

Filming a child in their own garden, I would regard as s lot more problematic.
At the end of the day this kid is annoying, but she is not breaking any laws.

I’d say that the shit parenting of the OP’s neighbours is pretty relevant to her, actually.

It's the parents job isn't it?

I was wondering that. Out of the hundreds of chat sites available why choose a parenting one to post criticism of a kid.
More interested in starting a bunfight than getting advice I would wager!

They of course have said she isn't doing that.

if it’s like that then you of course can say you didn’t squirt a hose at her…..

Water pistol. Works on cats 😉

Put a camera up in your garden facing the fence. tell your neighbours you have done it, then show them the evidence which it would be hard to argue with.

A quicker way I’ve gotten rid of two neighbours like this in the past was “to get a phonecall” each and every time they approached me, stay “on the phone” til they got the message and fucked off and continued to do this every time. I was younger and more timid than I would be now, sooner or later each one got the message and in turn got offended which meant they then ignored me completely.

Arguably parenting is relevant to everyone actually. We are all affected by the way others bring up their kids, either now or in the future.

The OPs is experiencing what she is from this 5 year old girl because of someone’s lack of parenting.

But anyway this particular thread isn't on one of the parenting topic boards anyway so I trust you are okay with Op posting here.

This sounds like an ideal approach to make.

Start sunbathing nude. With any luck the neighbours will be the type of people who think their child will be irreversibly corrupted by the sight of a naked adult.

Chat? The OP shouldn't have to interact with her if she doesn't want to, which she clearly doesn't.

Why would anyone be in the slightest bit offended by the thought that others couldn’t stand their children?!

I absolutely hate this. My kids are buggers for doing it as well. First time it's a reminder about privacy, second time it's back in the house, which also drives me nuts as it's much better for them to be outside in the fresh air and sunshine!