To be so upset by what my aunt said and did when I went to visit

Ok, so you weren't allowed in the kitchen. What was stopping you from going food shopping? Fruit, nuts, yogurt, sandwich ingredients should be widely available in most places.

Failing that, I'd have moved out/cut the trip short. As you've unfortunately found out, there's no prize for sitting there like a martyr listening to an eccentric relative going on and on about your figure, your hair, your diet ecc.

Horrible woman with no filter.
You now know not to rrspond to her again, nor visit again.
Put it doen to experience, albeit a bad one!
But one you won't ever repeat.

Most people have come across someone with no filter.

We do a wide swerve and avoid them going forward.

I wasn't allowed in the kitchen
There are no ready meals in the shops

Wasn't allowed...how exactly. Was the kitchen under lock and key? Was there an armed guard at the entrance? Was someone trying to physically restrain you? Or was it just that people were a bit upset if you tried to cook there?
Did shops not sell any fresh fruit and vegetables you could eat raw? No salads? No cafes to have a meal in? Nothing you could have made a sandwich with in your bedroom? No street food (pretty weird for a "developing country" if that's the case).

I agree with PP that if the food was that bad that you think you developed a long term illness, why wouldn’t you just come home?

You're a grown adult. None of that explains why you ate all the fatty food and didnt organise your own.

Here you go - if the fatty liver was from the food, it must have been months of it

www.boltpharmacy.co.uk/guide/how-long-does-it-take-to-get-fatty-liver

Hard agree.

I highly doubt you got fatty liver from two weeks of chips.

YABU for blaming her for that.

You need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and change your lifestyle. Forget the botox and fillers. Your problems are not external.

The word ‘trauma’ has been so overused and misused that it’s become meaningless. If everything is trauma, nothing is. It’s like ‘vulnerable’ in that regard.

You say your relatives "knew what your aunt is like", so presumably she's always been odd and she's obviously not going to improve with age! And nobody gets fatty liver from 3 weeks of chips and snacks. Apart from that, why couldn't you buy food for yourself. Why were your relatives "bringing" you food. OK, so you couldn't use the kitchen or uber eats but surely there were shops and eateries so you could cobble something together. Where the hell were you? Even Tristan da Cunha (the most remote island in the world) has got a shop and a pub!

Whatever caused your fatty liver would have had to be present for months potentially so I don’t think you can lay that at her door for giving you chips every day.

Why didn’t you go out (or even go home?)

She was incredibly rude and I think if she invited you she should have either catered for you or allowed you to use her kitchen to cook for yourself. I think this is a lesson learnt the hard way to not visit her home again and keep visits shorter if you are not sure what the welcome will be like.

I don’t understand what you are talking about. You could have gone to a local store/market/grocer and got some fruit and vegetables, tinned soups etc. You could have refused to eat the chips. You could have gone to a hotel or cafe at any point. The levels of passivity it takes to sit seething eating plate after plate of chips that you do not want as an aunt insults your appearance is mind boggling.

you can 100% believe what you like but it doesn't make it true.

She sounds a bit unfiltered but you're behaviour is weird, so passive. I mean, going to stay with someone for that long is always a risk. Better to book your own accommodation and just visit. Not everyone is a good host as you discovered.
But I wouldn't give her so much head space. You're blaming her for things which have nothing to do with her. A few weeks of chips won't give you fatty liver - that's years of poor diet - so sorry, but that's on you. At least your're fixing it now.
Move on. I wouldn't go and stay with her again. You live and learn.

She made you feel ugly so you're researching plastic surgery?

She made you food you didn't want, for three weeks, and you ate it anyway?

Sorry but you know you're allowed to live as you want as an adult and don't just have to be a passenger going along with what other people say and think?

Are your passiveness, self esteem, confidence, extreme reaction issues solely related to this visit or do you struggle elsewhere?

Are they recent (perhaps menopause related) or have you always been this way?

Hah, I hadn’t notice the “I endured three weeks”.
Would you have stayed even longer if the food had been to your satisfaction, op?!
She was obviously desperate to move you on.

I'm sorry but if you can't take control of a situation such as this aged 56 then when will you be able to? Your fatty liver has been declining and getting fattier for years.
French fries for 3 weeks might make you feel a bit sluggish, but no impact on your liver.
How much alcohol have you drank over the last 35 years...? Diet, over a lifetime?
Take some responsibility for yourself.

Wow. What are the chances? Facial boils and fatty liver. All from eating too many chips for 3 weeks!

😂This place sometimes. 😂

She sounds awful. Put the trip out of your head and focus on yourself now.

Traumatised? Seriously? I mean the aunt sounds like a bit of a knob, but come on.