To be so upset by what my aunt said and did when I went to visit

And the fatty liver …. Is she justified to blame the aunt for that?

Then you should have left as soon as it all started to go sideways.

Maybe consider doing the Freedom Program. You would be less of a passenger in your own life.

Not only does a few weeks of chips not cause fatty liver disease, a few days of chips does not cause boils!

What’s wrong with some posters here. Appalling results in poll! OP was invited to stay. It was an expensive trip. She was a thoughtful guest and took presents. Her aunt was rude and unwelcoming and a poor host. I’d have been very disappointed too. Guests shouldn’t have to go out looking for food!

No but assuming she wasn’t chained up, she didn’t need to stay as long, especially as she was offended enough to consider fillers etc

There are loads of places on the planet without delivery services - ludicrous comment.

I've also stayed for months in rural South Africa where there are not really any shops or food deliveries, but you can buy an avocado, eggs and some oranges from local stores or food stalls. It's just not true that for three weeks the only option for meals was chips!

No it wasn't her fault, and yes she had spent enough money on getting there, but sometimes you just have to cut your losses and make the most of a difficult situation. I love staying with my in laws in East Africa, but I'm confident at saying yes and no, even when they try and force feed me (with the best, kindest of intentions I hasten to add, not like this case).

I have been to both India and Pakistan. There are fruit and vegetable stalls/carts all over the place, and street food in most areas too. Even if it is the most remote part of the most remote rural village, there were obviously means to procure food since her aunt had a stocked fridge of chips/potatoes! In three weeks, you can take a bus/bike to the nearest store and stock up on things you like to eat or move out to a place you are able to cook for yourself. Even on tiny remote islands where there are hardly any provisions, you can always find ways to eat as a tourist so someone who is from the place surely can get produce in to cook a meal!

She’s already spent enough money. Not her fault the host wasn’t welcoming or thoughtful.

Thinking of my Irish and Italian relatives and Nigerian/Ghanaian friend's, they fit your original description. I'd have to ask if the Aunt was well and show over the top concern, to find out what's going on. Tbh, they'd have to be ill or in financial crisis to not feed you. I'd be discussing this with wider family to find out what went wrong.

Tactless and rude, though!

I think a lot of mumsnetters have guessed that op is not white British and her family is from a developing country and are being purposefully obtuse.

Yep, although 'obtuse' isn't the word I'd use.

Why didn't you just go and stay in a hotel then, speaking as someone who often visits relatives abroad I get it, but on the other hand you're old enought to stand up for yourself.

And what if there wasn't anywhere to book? If her relatives live in a place with no shops or restaurants, it's not very likely there are Premier Inns either.

This. And to go out and make your own food would be seen as incredibly rude.

I think a lot of mumsnetters have guessed that op is not white British and her family is from a developing country and are being purposefully obtuse. Or they are just very small minded.

Regardless, a lot of the replies on this thread are so rude and so out of proportion. Some of you need to take a good hard look at yourselves.

I would imagine she went somewhere like some African/ Asian country where there are no western-style shops and no deliveries (as she says) and where people are supposed to be looked after when they are guests. Some of these places have no restaurants and nothing where you could buy ready-made food, as as she was not allowed in the kitchen she would not be able to eat anything.

In any case, inviting someone over and not feeding them is kind of shitty, no matter what country/ culture.

Nothing to stop you going to buy some different food! I think staying somewhere for more than a few days is far too long-I’d have booked somewhere for myself so I had space and wasn’t imposing.

It's considered extremely rude in virtually every culture on earth to just start cooking in someone else's kitchen without their explicit consent.

I'm guessing the country is somewhere like India or Pakistan - I think some Mumsnet posters think there's a Tesco Metro on every corner all over the globe but there very much isn't.

OP - just chalk this up to experience. Your aunt is rude and has no filter, and it sounds like she just couldn't be bothered to be a decent host to you, for whatever reason. Maybe she's jealous of you for living over here? Who knows, but her rudeness isn't your problem. Just don't waste your time or money going back again!

Your aunt was rude and very inhospitable. Perhaps she didn't want you to stay and hoped you would move on to some kinder relatives.
I agree with others that you didn't get fetty liver overnight, but you probably put some weight on and it won't have helped.
YANBU to be upset, it must have been horrible. I hope you find a way to put it out of your mind and move on soon.

And I don’t think what the aunt said was unkind. Certainly not enough for you to have work done!