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Holiday at the time of grandchild’s birth

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Ferguson0909 · 07/04/2026 05:22

My son is having a second baby in June. They will also have a 23 month old. There is a three day festival in another country I want to go to at that time. I was going to make it into a two week holiday.
they live 350 miles away so I would have to stay in a hotel. They have no other grandparents help.
Would I be unreasonable to go?

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PilesofGuilt · 07/04/2026 05:25

Do they want you to help? Have you asked them? When do they want help? At the birth, after he's gone back from paternity leave? Before the birth if he's still working to help with DC1?

You need to speak to them.

FruAashild · 07/04/2026 05:25

What is the plan for looking after the 23 month old while your son and DIL are in hospital?

PeloMom · 07/04/2026 05:25

Have you promised them to go help out with the older child? Or you assume they expect you to be there?

PeachySmile2 · 07/04/2026 05:24

It’s very sad you’d rather be at a festival than be around for the first few days of your grandchild’s life. You will not get that time back.