AIBU to speak out after another parent assaulted my son?

If I was going to bet on how this will out play out… I would put my house on absolutely
nothing happening, the police dismissing entirely and the OP remaining a pariah amongst the parents until her child leaves in year 6

If you were there, why would you need CCTV? I’m surprised that they let you look at it because it’s evidence in a possible crime.
I’m guessing that presumably, the CCTV doesn’t actually show what happened hence lack of police action. Why have you got a solicitor?

she sounds crazy op.
hope the police take it seriously.
maybe a good idea to get this thread taken down if there’s an ongoing investigation.
good luck. Hope your son is ok.

No, I don’t agree, I think if he was being a shit the other parent would very robustly say so! I cannot think of any situation when I would get physical with even the worst 7 year old unless thy were attacking my child. Or my dog 🤣

It strongly suggests to me everything about the woman. An absolute witch.

I don’t think a child not sharing is a good reason to grab them, to be clear, as I’ve said - I only do it myself (or would expect anyone else to) when it’s a matter of safety.

But he politely said no, and there was no verbal altercation between him and the other child, no escalation, no arguments, no nothing - and she just grabbed a perfectly calm and reasonable child?

Yeah you’re right, she’s unhinged.

But the whole thing just sounds nuts.

Who grabs a calm and settled child, why would my son even have his own things at someone else’s birthday party, he wouldn’t have taken them to begin with, where were you when he didn’t want to share his personal items with another child, could you have verbally chipped in before this deranged woman grabbed anyone.

I don’t think grabbing a child to remove an item they don’t want to share is reasonable, and her reaction sounds at best over the top, but there are so many questions about this situation.

Try reading RawBloomers post!
She has summarised it all perfectly, and the Mum has confirmed it.
Maybe yours is, but not all boys are "A Little Shit"!

I have to say, I wouldn’t be happy with another adult “shaking some sense into my son.” I would however be fine with them grabbing him for someone’s safety, or to take something from him that he definitely shouldn’t have.

Where I’m struggling with this though, is that if my son was being a Little Shit, or somehow endangering himself or others, I’d have been close enough to deal with that myself.

I got hold of my son’s wrist literally today, there’d have been no need for another adult to do it.

OP has written what happened.

Yes the only reasonable scenario is if a child is bouncing off the walls or antagonising other kids and another parent needs to grab them to shake some sense into them or take an item off them. Have seen this happen quite often in school, especially amongst 7-8 year old boys. Sometimes it's literally impossible to get a boy to stop or slow down with verbal instructions.

It's very unfortunate that he got injured but it's extremely unlikely that he was "assaulted" by another parent out of the blue, whilst sitting still and minding his own business.

So, at a party at an animal park that your 7 year old son attended, your son had something of his own that another child wanted, when asked for it your son said "No" and the parent of the other child grabbed it off him hurting his wrist. You didn't realise at the time that it had caused damage, but the next day your DS admitted he was in a lot of pain so you went to the doctors/clinic/A&E. They did x-rays and scans, there was no fracture but there was soft tissue damage.

You've reported to the police and they are proceeding with an investigation but it's taking time (due to the animal park being in another force area).

You have spoken to the mother who assaulted your son and the host of the party. They are all minimizing what happened and (presumably because of the police investigation that threatens to criminalize the other mother) are turning on you and encouraging their children to bully your DS?

If I've got that summary correct, YANBU at all and I would be fuming and wondering what I could do too. But realistically there isn't a lot that will help. I would get a copy of the police report if you can and take it to the school to explain what 's been going on and that the mothers seem to be encouraging their children to bully DS. I would ask them to keep an eye out. I would encourage DS to make other friends and maybe enroll him in some clubs that are not mainly populated by his school peers. If it comes up in conversation with other parents I would outline what happened very basically and matter of factly and say that you can't say more because the police are involved (but practice this as, from this thread, it seems like you might have a hard time with it). If you are in a small school, I would think about whether a move might be a good idea - this needs careful consideration, but it may be the only way to get your son out of a difficult social situation that he cannot influence.

You need to let the police do their job - there is no other way to hold the other mum accountable, but I would put a bit of pressure on them. Other force or not, if they haven't even got around to interviewing 10ish weeks on, that's really too slow.

I hope your DS is recovered now and that things work out.

It does strongly suggest to me that OP son’s was being what is called in the trade “A Little Shit”.

Of course he shouldn’t have been hit, but one the rare occasion I have seen an unrelated adult intervene, it was sorely needed.

Why would people be saying bad things about you if it’s as you say an unprovoked clear-cut case of assault witnessed by others and you say your son did nothing wrong? Why would an adult assault a child for no reason unless they were a psychopath?

Her comment “I’m the adult.” is weird too.
Because being an adult doesn’t mean she gets to hurt children and it also doesn’t mean she is more important just because she’s an adult. Is she from the year 1900?

Jesus christ, just read your updates. Let the police deal with this one, don’t say anything else to any other parent. I think you should inform the school as well though.

I don’t get what you wanted from the host. It wasn’t even at her house. You say you wanted her to know but that you were “upset” on the call with her and she’s turned against you so I do wonder if you got angry at her?