To be ground down and exhausted by DS’s constant talking?

My son is like this and has been since the moment he learnt to babble as a baby. They would call him the chatterbox at all the baby classes. And it’s been a never-ending stream of consciousness since then. He’s 8yrs old now. The upside is that he has an amazing range of vocabulary and is very sophisticated with his speech. His twin, on the other hand, was the quietest baby and toddler ever. She does have her moments of chattering now, but I often think goodness, poor you having to listen to him 24/7 since birth.

Could the noises be him stimming?

My (I expect AUDHD) son doesn’t stop talking either - in the car it in incessant and blows my mind. It’s hard but he can’t help it and it’s on his fixations. My sibling has AuDHD diagnosed and is the same.

Are there any activities he’s really interested in that keep him occupied and not talking that you can then have a moments peace?
Friends you can get out with so he’ll talk to them for a while (this is great for DS as they can jabber away)?

I wonder if my ds has adhd. If he has what's the medication and does it work

My 6yo is like this and we have just filled out the forms for ADHD and ASD assessment. Kids can just be chatty too though. For my kid I think it's because her thoughts come in thick and fast and she will forget them if they aren't blurted out.

As she gets older I:

• remind her of my needs ("mummy's brain needs quiet now")

• redirect her when she is just talking at me to entertain herself, I tell her to find something to do - I do this alongside quality time so she hopefully doesn't feel rejected

• gentle reminders about repetitive talk and questions. I felt mean doing this but I want to help her notice when she's doing this to hopefully stop her losing friends

• generally work to reduce her anxiety level as this seems to make it worse

Mercifully as she gets older she does seem to be maturing and the chatter is more interesting at least!

I really agree with this especially the intelligence.
My 5 year old is like this and very bright. Mind never switches off!

Yes we don't allow talking at the cinema but we would definitely all be dead if we had to hide behind a wardrobe.

Already read the negative comments about the armchair ND diagnosers. But. This is exactly like my AD2(10) who is diagnosed with autism and ADHD. I have learned over the years that AD2 has no interior life. In fact, she is mystified by the fact that other people have running narratives in their brains that they do not feel compelled to express verbally. Every single waking minute of every single day. If it’s in my AD’s brain, it needs to escape via her mouth. Also, at intolerable volume. I’m a massive introvert so I find the incessant verbal assaults hard to bear. Without wishing to cause any offence, I often reflect on how Anne Frank and the families in the attic managed to stay so quiet and undetected for so long. When I was a kid, we had lots of sponsored silences at primary school. My AD2 would never manage this.

It’s not okay to let him talk through a film. One of my children couldn’t behave at the cinema so we went home and he wasn’t allowed back until he promised to be quiet all the way through. I’m a tough nut with my kids, I’ve worked in schools and seen the children with permissive parents ruin everything for everyone else. The well behaved children hate them.

My ds does this. His sibling has been diagnosed with ADHD and I assume he also has it. DH finds the talkativeness very challenging. The 30 minute school run walk can be full on monologue.

I tend to just up the stakes on silliness.and will equally witter away to him (yes I know. I probably need a diagnosis myself!) So "what country do we live in...England" would be met with "well only England if you believe we all live in the same dimension because actually in the jam dimension maybe we live in raspberryshire"

Back in the day we were just told to shut up - simple and effective 🤣

Oh god my two do this - and the eldest is 17 and NT!

They both start conversations with me where they want my undivided attention at the same time! And they refuse to just speak to each other! Until I tell them they have to that is.

Loop earplugs and sertraline. I wish I was joking.

She’s still like it at 9, just does not stop. She gets way too much screen time because it’s the only thing that shuts her yap.

I had "another one"

Turned out to be twins

😱😱

I do love them, really

DS7 and DH both talk absolutely nonstop. I thought DH was the most talkative person I’d ever met until we had DS!

DS talks from the moment he wakes, until he falls asleep and sometimes chatters away in his sleep too. Loads of questions that he doesn’t wait to hear an answer for and lots of streams of consciousness. And all at an extremely loud volume. It. Is. Exhausting.

He is now diagnosed with adhd and autism. DH not assessed/diagnosed and doesn’t intend to be but I’d bet the house on him being ND.

My 11 year old DS is the same. He has ADHD and is medicated in term time but we’ve had a break for the Easter holidays as he hadn’t put on much weight in the last 3 months. Oh my god. He’s so annoying. I do tell him to be quiet which I feel guilty about when he’s in bed but it can be so relentless. He’s not as bad on his meds and his non ADHD sibling is nowhere near so I would definitely keep that in mind for your DS.

I personally don’t think it’s typical behaviour. I’m relentlessly chatty and definitely have ADHD.

My DS was like this. Turns out he has adhd

I have a nearly 11yo like this, it’s a shame we can’t get them together to talk at each other.

I joke I had a second DC so she has someone else to talk to other than me. But I’m actually not joking.

We’ve recently been talking about the importance of reciprocal conversation and paying attention to what the other person says, rather than just jabbering on about what ever pops into her mind.

I’ve found getting her to talk to the dog helps from time to time, but even the dog hides in the holidays.

One of my children is like this. It’s very draining. It’s worse when she’s anxious and she needs to talk to help manage her anxiety (she’s older than your son). I find some days I’m able to be more tolerant than others, and obviously now she’s older she does spend time in her bedroom and doing school work etc.
Overall though I have generally just had to deal with it as I’m her parent and I want her to always feel she can talk to me. As she’s got older she has become more aware of the need to tone it down with her peers (she has an ASD diagnosis). Sometimes when it’s late at night or I’m feeling depleted I explain that we need to put a 5 minute limit on it or set a time for us to go to bed.

Maybe also try to think how much you’ll miss him jabbering on at you when he’s a moody uncommunicative teenager! It honestly won’t be forever.

Just reading this thread has set my teeth on edge. I feel for you.

Mine is nearly 5 and is pretty similar to this. Like your time example literally happened yesterday. Not listening to answers etc etc. On and on and on.

It does grind me down, but I try not to get invested in too many of the conversations, just lightly answering with a few answers here and there.

Perhaps it's an age thing ....
And then will hopefully pass.

Or it could be an early ND trait, mine doesn't make constant noises, and generally makes sense in his line of thinking.. like he wants to understand EXACTLY HOW EVERYTHING IN THE WORLD WORKS RIGHT NOW... you said some of your son's taking was jabber jabber?

OP before I read any of your thread, I thought ADHD.

Having read your posts, I still think ADHD.

I'm ND (not with ADHD though) and two of my (now adult) DC have AuDHD.

Yes, listening to this kind of endless, repetitive chatter is exhausting and irritating.
I take on board that you have another child who is altogether quieter. So have I - two others, in fact.

The good news is that they do calm down as they get older.

I'd start looking into getting a diagnosis if I were you.

Loop headphones can take the edge off it a bit.

This was my ds too, then he stopped talking at 14 and it was hard getting a word out of him!!