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Do people have no shame any more?

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tachetastic · 06/04/2026 15:38

I don't know if the worst part of this story is the fact that its theft or the fact people don't care.

I was in Tesco this morning buying eggs (the normal type, not chocolate) and a couple were standing by the egg display swapping the eggs from two half-dozen boxes of the fancy premium brand eggs into a box for 12 Tesco own-brand eggs. They weren't even being subtle about it. He was just standing there holding the boxes while she swapped the eggs over. He then double checked that the designer eggs she had put in the Tesco box were all unbroken, and then they put the expensive box containing the cheap eggs back on the shelf and put the cheap box with the expensive eggs in their trolley, and off they went.

During all of this I and three other customers were just standing openly watching them and casting glances at each other.

The difference in price was probably about 50p per box, so about a quid in total. But is that the point? Are the eggs so much better that it's worth a heist, or are people just so pissed off with the CoL crisis that anything they can do to feel that they are getting something for nothing is worth while?

The couple so clearly didn't care that I couldn't see the point in telling them it was theft, but when they left I moved the two boxes containing the cheap eggs to one side and left them open, so nobody would pick them up not realising they weren't the fancy eggs.

AIBU, this is fine and large supermarkets have it coming?

or AINBU, this is still theft and cheeky fuckery of the highest order?

And more interestingly, what cheeky fuckers have you seen lately who could beat this?

OP posts:
rosycheex · 06/04/2026 18:42

I don’t know if it’s the same across the country but our Tesco has wide open doors and self service tills -Aldi has one or two manned tills and a narrow exit where you have to go through the till. Perhaps that is why Aldi is so much cheaper…. much less stolen food and drink

rosycheex · 06/04/2026 18:39

It’s not the supermarket that misses out it’s the other shoppers who have prices higher to cover the cost of stolen food - why do you think the supermarkets do F all

ithinkilikethislittlelife · 06/04/2026 18:30

I’ve said about the brazen theft that I witness almost every time I go to the shops on here before. It’s everywhere.
the two men who bust a side door open in Aldi, one carrying a basket of steaks the other a basket of vodka
the tradie scanning his meal deal in a shop. I go behind him and he’s scanned but not paid.
watching a chap walk into a shop and he opens his backpack and fills it with alcohol and walks out
the kids who walk into a cake shop and help themselves to items they can grab and walk out
once you start seeing it you see it all the time.

Ginburee · 06/04/2026 18:16

I have seen this recently on social media and my husband thought I was joking when I opened a box of eggs to check before buying.
My local high street has a LOT of shoplifting at the moment and I have often seen it. I wouldn't question the people but have mentioned to shop staff and they have to let it slide when it is small stuff as they could be hurt by confrontation.

IsawwhatIsaw · 06/04/2026 18:15

I think shoplifting has effectively been decriminalized.
And our local sainsbury now has so few staff since they put in self service tills that there’s no one to tell . They obviously save money by cutting staff.

IggyPopsPlasticTrousers · 06/04/2026 18:14

I think both of the choices in your post are true, OP.

supermarkets continue to make record profits while we all struggle AND people are getting more outrageous.

the co-op round the corner from me gets robbed EVERY DAY by the same guy. Comes in with a big bag, fills it with booze and walks out.

the staff - both young women - are clearly intimidated and don’t try to stop him. Last time I saw it I tried to grab the bag from him but he just laughed and ran.

Evaka · 06/04/2026 18:08

This made me piss myself tbh. Do they not sound more bonkers than shameless?

OneNewLeader · 06/04/2026 18:08

God that so grim.

QueenOfHiraeth · 06/04/2026 18:07

It may be more prevalent now but it has gone on for ages.

Some years ago I saw an older couple, maybe late 60s, opening packs of strawberries that closed with the little popper closure and taking nice ones out of other packs and adding them to their pack so they were getting more and better. I said "Do you think that's fair? Other people are going to buy those packs". They just ignored me, put the pack in their trolley and walked off
I told an employee and he just said it happened all the time
Standards have fallen in many ways and I agree some people have no shame

Cesarina · 06/04/2026 18:06

I shop in a fairly large Tesco - not a superstore with 2 floors, but not an Express either. Some time ago I witnessed an elderly man and his wife, (I presume), cutting off the stalks of a large amount of bananas so that they would weigh less on the self-weigh machine. They just left the stalks in the base of the trolley. Our store usually has a security guard based by the doors, but I was too flabbergasted to think straight!😳

KimuraTan · 06/04/2026 18:06

Wot23 · 06/04/2026 16:19

so did you report this to Tesco staff before they left the shop?
Up to Tesco whether they acted on your info of course.

If not, I don't think you can claim the high ground re moral stance and shaming

Agree with this. Report and name time and place to staff to get them to investigate. Absolute CFery.

RhaenysRocks · 06/04/2026 17:59

I suppose I might have taken the swapped eggs up to a member staff but not sure why so many people are having a go at the op. So many shops now just don't do anything...they certainly wont challenge or confront and the op probably shouldn't either. Its really sad but its not safe to do so.

Berlinlover · 06/04/2026 17:58

I work in a supermarket and the egg swapping carry on has been going on for years.

Marmalademorning · 06/04/2026 17:58

tachetastic · 06/04/2026 15:52

Well yes. I guess I kind of hoped that me just really openly watching them would give them some sense of shame and make them realise how stupid they looked.

If my kids had been there I would have said something to reinforce the importance of not stealing, but I honestly couldn’t see them stopping and I didn’t know where a conversation would go beyond “that’s theft”. “Yes?” “Well stop” “why?” “Erm. Because it’s theft.”

You should absolutely have said something to the shop assistant. It’s not fair on the people who end up buying the box they swapped the nicer eggs from.

I was in our local Tesco last week, and a man told the shop assistant he had just seen a man walk out without paying for any of his shopping. He got into a massive white Mercedes that had deliberately parked across two spaces. The shop assistant rushed out and called out to them and they just drove off. It was so brazen.

People have no morals anymore. It’s all me me me.

oldtiredcyclist · 06/04/2026 17:58

ilovepixie · 06/04/2026 17:29

What was she supposed to do? She would have got a mouthful of abuse or worse!

I agree and cannot believe that some people have no imagination about interacting with strangers, particularly strangers who are not shy of stealing in public.
It is also difficult for the staff, just recently Waitrose sacked one of their staff, who had worked for them for 17 years, for confronting a shoplifter.

https://www.mylondon.news/news/uk-world-news/waitrose-defends-sacking-worker-who-33720506

Waitrose defends sacking worker who confronted Easter egg shoplifter

Walker Smith, 54, was dismissed from Waitrose in Clapham Junction after confronting a shoplifter who had filled a bag with Easter eggs

https://www.mylondon.news/news/uk-world-news/waitrose-defends-sacking-worker-who-33720506

Sausagemagoo · 06/04/2026 17:56

moto748e · 06/04/2026 17:47

Wait, you can buy 'double yolk' eggs? So every one in the box has a double yolk? Really? Aren't they vanishingly rare? I haven't seen a double-yolked egg in decades.

Double yolkers are common in hens that are new to laying. So young birds are getting their egg production cycles in order will often lay double yolkers. Then they regulate the cycle and you end up with single yolkers. All my girls are too old now to lay double yolkers, gutted. 😞 🥚

RedRiverShore6 · 06/04/2026 17:54

moto748e · 06/04/2026 17:47

Wait, you can buy 'double yolk' eggs? So every one in the box has a double yolk? Really? Aren't they vanishingly rare? I haven't seen a double-yolked egg in decades.

I have only ever seen them in Waitrose. Usually Humble Eggs brand, occasionally Burford, they are big and heavy so you would notice if they were swapped. Never had one without 2 yolks and I get them regularly.

gamerchick · 06/04/2026 17:52

That's been going on for 30 years I've noticed. Boxes of caged being swapped for free range.

Sausagemagoo · 06/04/2026 17:52

AntiqueBabyLoanSmurf · 06/04/2026 16:00

I LOVE that idea - worthy of a TV comedy farce, that is! Just thinking of them actively diddling themselves when they could have done nothing and been blameless in benefiting!

I don't think most supermarkets sell non-free-range eggs anymore, do they? I think having to put the word 'caged' on the box, rather than just hoping people wouldn't think about it, probably showed them up for what a horrible practice it is to be seen condoning to make a bit more profit at the expense of abject misery for sentient creatures.

Edited

Unfortunately even the ones marked ‘free range’ are in fact not and kept in huge sheds. They are not allowed outside at all due to bird flu (in England and Wales) If you check next time in the supermarket, they will have a teeny tiny sign somewhere near the eggs stating that they actually aren’t free range (even though the box says they are) 🙁 although thankfully the mandatory housing will be lifted on 9th April 2026 so you’ll be able to get actual free range eggs a few weeks after that.

Tink3rbell30 · 06/04/2026 17:50

You didn't tell a member of staff?!

moto748e · 06/04/2026 17:47

RedRiverShore6 · 06/04/2026 15:58

I always check the eggs because of this. I buy the double yolk ones from Waitrose but you would be able to tell straightaway with those as they are twice as big as a lot of eggs

Wait, you can buy 'double yolk' eggs? So every one in the box has a double yolk? Really? Aren't they vanishingly rare? I haven't seen a double-yolked egg in decades.

TeflonMom · 06/04/2026 17:46

A couple with a toddler walked up, opened a bottle of calpol off the shelf in Tesco and syringed it into the child’s mouth. Then they put the Calpol back on the shelf. No shame and not trying to conceal what they were doing. I felt bad for the poor child, what would they do if he needs another dose in the middle of the night 😟

nevernotmaybe · 06/04/2026 17:46

shuggles · 06/04/2026 17:40

Ah, I see.

Point of my question remains unchanged though.

If you leave the answer out of your post when you quote me, then of course you won't get the answer from that.

tired247365 · 06/04/2026 17:44

Goodness. I can see supermarkets having to put clingfilm round the egg boxes soon.

Isobel201 · 06/04/2026 17:44

I bought my last packet of 10 eggs and one was missing from the box, I foolishly didn't check just put it in the trolley. Methinks one person might have nicked an egg.