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Do people have no shame any more?

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tachetastic · 06/04/2026 15:38

I don't know if the worst part of this story is the fact that its theft or the fact people don't care.

I was in Tesco this morning buying eggs (the normal type, not chocolate) and a couple were standing by the egg display swapping the eggs from two half-dozen boxes of the fancy premium brand eggs into a box for 12 Tesco own-brand eggs. They weren't even being subtle about it. He was just standing there holding the boxes while she swapped the eggs over. He then double checked that the designer eggs she had put in the Tesco box were all unbroken, and then they put the expensive box containing the cheap eggs back on the shelf and put the cheap box with the expensive eggs in their trolley, and off they went.

During all of this I and three other customers were just standing openly watching them and casting glances at each other.

The difference in price was probably about 50p per box, so about a quid in total. But is that the point? Are the eggs so much better that it's worth a heist, or are people just so pissed off with the CoL crisis that anything they can do to feel that they are getting something for nothing is worth while?

The couple so clearly didn't care that I couldn't see the point in telling them it was theft, but when they left I moved the two boxes containing the cheap eggs to one side and left them open, so nobody would pick them up not realising they weren't the fancy eggs.

AIBU, this is fine and large supermarkets have it coming?

or AINBU, this is still theft and cheeky fuckery of the highest order?

And more interestingly, what cheeky fuckers have you seen lately who could beat this?

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Goatsarebest · 06/04/2026 20:24

No consequences for dishonesty and it starts at the top. When we get lied to, ripped off by self interests, see the rich not paying their taxes, seeing corporations avoiding their responsibilities, getting burgled and no police response, see violent assaults and serious crime not getting punished, ome people mimic the lack of any moral compass and do things like this.

JustbrotherscarlenaNsoul · 06/04/2026 20:23

JacknDiane · 06/04/2026 19:48

I work in retail. We get just over minimum wage. Its in the city centre. The shoplifters are either professional or off their faces. Do you really think im going to approach them when I see them stealing?
Absolutely no way.

Edited

I'm ex retail ,working in a shop should be fairly mundane,do what the boss wants doing,help customers,get paid ,go home.
It shouldn't be ordeal of abuse and violence .

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 06/04/2026 20:22

MyToothbrushDied · 06/04/2026 19:48

I've been thinking about this thread a bit whilst getting fuel and some essentials in Sainsburys and concluded that I have absolutely no issue with the egg swapping couple. If I saw this unfold I would feel understanding, and certainly not shame or embarrassment for them. I would not be bothered if I witnessed stealing at all. I get it.

Understanding of what? They are so poor that whilst they can afford eggs, those aren’t good enough so they have to steal the good ones and pay a lower price?

They are still thieves and can’t even claim they can’t afford to eat.

whatcanthematterbe81 · 06/04/2026 20:20

MrsEmmelinePankhurst · 06/04/2026 15:44

Not the point of your OP, but I’m hoping that somebody else had already done the egg swap with these exact same eggs, so that the CFs actually DID go home with the cheaper eggs rather than the (presumably) free range ones, as the “expensive” ones were actually cheap ones that had already been swapped 🤞🤞

I think non-free range eggs and chickens should be illegal. (Also not the point of your OP, sorry !)

CFs haunt the supermarkets where I live. I’ve seen people brazenly walking out with bottles of wine, packs of chicken breasts, packs of cheese etc… without batting an eyelid. Also at our local Lidl there are all the plants and bags of compost etc stacked up outside the store and people literally help themselves 🤦‍♀️

Haha good shout, but unfortunately they’re very different so they would be able to tell. I’m no egg connoisseur but I do love a Clarence Court and the darker , more speckled shell is a dead giveaway

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 06/04/2026 20:20

nevernotmaybe · 06/04/2026 17:24

You missed some very basic lessons in school in the subtleties of real life, morals, and complex situations when compared to black and white judgments and laws.

We learnt them at primary school kind of ages, surprising to see adults so incapable of it.

Wow. You clearly missed your manners lessons.

Of course there are grey areas but unless you know the person who is doing the stealing you have no way of knowing why they are doing it. Someone stealing formula for example could be doing it to feed their child or they could be selling it on.

If I see it happen, I’m reporting it. The circumstances aren’t actually for me to determine.

MyToothbrushDied · 06/04/2026 20:19

XenoBitch · 06/04/2026 19:53

Understanding about what exactly?
They were swapping cheap eggs for posh eggs.
Nothing to do with starving or poverty. They were being CF.

Then someone else is going to pick up the box of the higher priced eggs that they left that are actually the cheaper ones.

Agree, it would have been better to have just stolen the eggs rather than swap them, but my reaction remains, I get it.

tachetastic · 06/04/2026 20:15

WednesdaysChild73 · 06/04/2026 17:19

Exactly 👍🏻🤷🏻‍♀️

I confess I now wish I had said something to a member of staff, though I suspect most would have said "okay" and done nothing. Not to blame them, but I just don't think it's high on their priorities. But you are right, I should have made that their decision.

I am not sorry for not confronting the couple myself. The best that would have happened is I would have been laughed at, and I wasn't going to follow them round the store or forceably remove the eggs from their trolley.

I guess this just proves people's point that the thieves have all the power. I do feel bad now though.

OP posts:
XenoBitch · 06/04/2026 19:53

MyToothbrushDied · 06/04/2026 19:48

I've been thinking about this thread a bit whilst getting fuel and some essentials in Sainsburys and concluded that I have absolutely no issue with the egg swapping couple. If I saw this unfold I would feel understanding, and certainly not shame or embarrassment for them. I would not be bothered if I witnessed stealing at all. I get it.

Understanding about what exactly?
They were swapping cheap eggs for posh eggs.
Nothing to do with starving or poverty. They were being CF.

Then someone else is going to pick up the box of the higher priced eggs that they left that are actually the cheaper ones.

JacknDiane · 06/04/2026 19:48

I work in retail. We get just over minimum wage. Its in the city centre. The shoplifters are either professional or off their faces. Do you really think im going to approach them when I see them stealing?
Absolutely no way.

MyToothbrushDied · 06/04/2026 19:48

I've been thinking about this thread a bit whilst getting fuel and some essentials in Sainsburys and concluded that I have absolutely no issue with the egg swapping couple. If I saw this unfold I would feel understanding, and certainly not shame or embarrassment for them. I would not be bothered if I witnessed stealing at all. I get it.

magicstar1 · 06/04/2026 19:46

I don’t understand why you didn’t tell the staff.
Last week I was going into my local supermarket and a woman picked up a tray of plants and just went to walk off. A few people just stared but I told her to put them back. She started saying that she was a bit stuck for money and needed them but she put them back. I then told the security guard in case she tried again.

pinkstripeycat · 06/04/2026 19:43

I saw a couple with 2 older children load a trolley full in Morrisons and walk straight out. They swiped a Christmas tree as they left. No one stopped them and loads of people saw them go. They got in to their 2024 7-seater people carrier and left.

The same week, in the same supermarket, 4 male members of staff chased a homeless man around the store as he tried to steal a 2 pint carton of milk. He dropped it down his joggers and it fell out the bottom as it was so heavy. They kept chasing him and 2 of them piled on him before frog marching him out of the store.

meepmeeprr2025 · 06/04/2026 19:40

Just to point out. My son works the checkouts at tesco. Would tell him to ignore. Risk vs reward

Netcurtainnelly · 06/04/2026 19:33

things are getting worse and will do.

There's a bug story at the moment about Waitrose security guard tackling a shoplifter he got sacked

SpringAndSunshineIsHere · 06/04/2026 19:32

JustbrotherscarlenaNsoul · 06/04/2026 19:24

I go to the checkout person I don't mind a bit of chat what I do mind is self service tills I shouldn't be expected to work for free whilst in-store.

Agreed

Rookrook · 06/04/2026 19:29

Maybe shops should be like Amazon Fresh in London.

AgnesMcDoo · 06/04/2026 19:27

I think I’d have told shop security what’s going on

JustbrotherscarlenaNsoul · 06/04/2026 19:24

SpringAndSunshineIsHere · 06/04/2026 19:21

Agree this is shameful.

But I also think large shops are saving £££s by leaving us to deal with those fucking self service tills and charging stupid prices for stuff - it probably balances out.

I go to the checkout person I don't mind a bit of chat what I do mind is self service tills I shouldn't be expected to work for free whilst in-store.

SpringAndSunshineIsHere · 06/04/2026 19:21

Agree this is shameful.

But I also think large shops are saving £££s by leaving us to deal with those fucking self service tills and charging stupid prices for stuff - it probably balances out.

Rookrook · 06/04/2026 19:18

I know we should have sympathy as a lot have drug and alcohol addiction but I don’t really. The ones in our local community have had lots of help etc, but they won’t engage and just want the money and to be left alone!

SpringAndSunshineIsHere · 06/04/2026 19:17

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 06/04/2026 15:44

The price of eggs is no yolk. I'm not surprised they didn't want to shell out.

Egg-strordinary!

Koolaidchic · 06/04/2026 19:16

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 06/04/2026 15:44

The price of eggs is no yolk. I'm not surprised they didn't want to shell out.

🤣🤣🤣

Rookrook · 06/04/2026 19:15

Police won’t attend unless is over a certain amount.
Every week the teenagers have meal deal often with the Costa for free wondering around the store eating, at Tesco.
Greggs is an awful design for stopping the shoplifters, often in queue and someone leans over and steals a couple. A few have even said excuse me, while they lean in. I always tell the staff. They just say there is nothing they can do, plus the state of the shoplifters I wouldn’t do anything either.

OliveGrovez · 06/04/2026 18:50

This was in the media a few weeks ago and it was shoppers in a posh Waitrose in the SE ( Cotswolds or somewhere) doing that.

I think I'd have tried to call an asst over in your position or spoken to a security guard if that was convenient.

ThePoshUns · 06/04/2026 18:45

GingerBeverage · 06/04/2026 17:03

The temptation to record them and post it on social media would have been too much for me.

I shall make sure I do this if I ever come across such appalling behaviour