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Do people have no shame any more?

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tachetastic · 06/04/2026 15:38

I don't know if the worst part of this story is the fact that its theft or the fact people don't care.

I was in Tesco this morning buying eggs (the normal type, not chocolate) and a couple were standing by the egg display swapping the eggs from two half-dozen boxes of the fancy premium brand eggs into a box for 12 Tesco own-brand eggs. They weren't even being subtle about it. He was just standing there holding the boxes while she swapped the eggs over. He then double checked that the designer eggs she had put in the Tesco box were all unbroken, and then they put the expensive box containing the cheap eggs back on the shelf and put the cheap box with the expensive eggs in their trolley, and off they went.

During all of this I and three other customers were just standing openly watching them and casting glances at each other.

The difference in price was probably about 50p per box, so about a quid in total. But is that the point? Are the eggs so much better that it's worth a heist, or are people just so pissed off with the CoL crisis that anything they can do to feel that they are getting something for nothing is worth while?

The couple so clearly didn't care that I couldn't see the point in telling them it was theft, but when they left I moved the two boxes containing the cheap eggs to one side and left them open, so nobody would pick them up not realising they weren't the fancy eggs.

AIBU, this is fine and large supermarkets have it coming?

or AINBU, this is still theft and cheeky fuckery of the highest order?

And more interestingly, what cheeky fuckers have you seen lately who could beat this?

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PenelopeAsks · 06/04/2026 22:48

I’m glad I shop with Ocado

SouthernNights59 · 06/04/2026 22:44

MyToothbrushDied · 06/04/2026 19:48

I've been thinking about this thread a bit whilst getting fuel and some essentials in Sainsburys and concluded that I have absolutely no issue with the egg swapping couple. If I saw this unfold I would feel understanding, and certainly not shame or embarrassment for them. I would not be bothered if I witnessed stealing at all. I get it.

Seriously??? How on earth would buying the cheaper eggs they paid for impact their lives? I can't say I have ever noticed a difference in any of the eggs I have ever purchased.

Honestly I can't believe that anyone could defend this sort of thing.

Thankfully I live in a small town (not in the UK) and this sort of thing is unlikely. For a start there are always supermarket staff in the various aisles putting stock on the shelves or packing shopping, but I have never seen anyone stealing - and I am there several days a week. I'm sure it goes on, but not in the blatant way I read about it on here.

JustbrotherscarlenaNsoul · 06/04/2026 22:26

The security I've saw in Markies are pro active and don't fuck about.
Will vary from place to place I would imagine.

XenoBitch · 06/04/2026 22:22

RedRiverShore6 · 06/04/2026 22:20

What is the point of the security people nowadays, they don't do anything.

A rubbish deterrent. But they are not allowed to do anything, and don't get paid enough to risk themselves anyway.

RedRiverShore6 · 06/04/2026 22:20

What is the point of the security people nowadays, they don't do anything.

Shodan · 06/04/2026 22:10

DP is a police officer. One time we went to a Tesco, intending to go up the travelator. As we stepped on to it, he noticed two young men, each carrying a basket full of bottles of spirits. very definitely not heading to the tills. DP also clocked that the emergency exit doors were open.

He immediately started calling over to the security guard, and when he was ignored, ran back down the travelator directly to the security guard. Unfortunately, even though it only took a few seconds, the two youths had already run out of the handily-open emergency exit.

The security guard literally shrugged his shoulders. Not worth the effort of breaking into a run, or even a slightly speedy walk, even though there must have been a couple of hundred pounds' worth of booze in the baskets.

I think if they won't move for goods worth that much, they're probably not going to even listen to someone telling them about egg-substituters.

grumpygrape · 06/04/2026 21:57

AntiqueBabyLoanSmurf · 06/04/2026 21:46

I personally think that supermarkets will end up using facial recognition at the doors. That way, a thief can get away once, unchallenged, as nobody wants to risk their health or their life in apprehending them; but they can transfer the image from the CCTV that captures them stealing and add it to their 'barred' list - so everybody's face is scanned when approaching the entrance and, if somebody on the barred list is detected, the shutters immediately come down.

They could extend it to anybody they wanted to bar as well, not just thieves - people who return a suspiciously high volume of purchases, those who abuse the staff, those who poo on the floor in the middle of the aisles (adults - and yes, this does happen). As long as they have photo/video proof of the reason in their data banks and there's no suggestion of discriminatory barring based on protected characteristics, who could stop them?

Actually, they're probably more likely to approach it from an 'opt in' angle, whereby all would-be customers have to register to be allowed to come in and agree to have their faces scanned before they're green-lighted to enter - and then lose the privilege if they 'offend' in any way. Kind of like a Clubcard before you can go in to the shop at all, rather than just to get special offers and coupons.

Once one shop did this (amidst initial community backlash, I'm sure), all the thieves would go to other shops that didn't have it; meaning that the ante would be upped and, before long, every shop would either have to have it or get all of the thieves from the whole region coming in every day. It's not how I would like society to be in the least, but I can see it coming regardless.

I agree with most of this and to a certain extent I am now getting more comfortable with supermarket delivery now we are mostly housebound.
Every generation says this but I'm pleased I'm not starting out in life.

Anusername · 06/04/2026 21:55

omg I might have called out on them.

AntiqueBabyLoanSmurf · 06/04/2026 21:46

I personally think that supermarkets will end up using facial recognition at the doors. That way, a thief can get away once, unchallenged, as nobody wants to risk their health or their life in apprehending them; but they can transfer the image from the CCTV that captures them stealing and add it to their 'barred' list - so everybody's face is scanned when approaching the entrance and, if somebody on the barred list is detected, the shutters immediately come down.

They could extend it to anybody they wanted to bar as well, not just thieves - people who return a suspiciously high volume of purchases, those who abuse the staff, those who poo on the floor in the middle of the aisles (adults - and yes, this does happen). As long as they have photo/video proof of the reason in their data banks and there's no suggestion of discriminatory barring based on protected characteristics, who could stop them?

Actually, they're probably more likely to approach it from an 'opt in' angle, whereby all would-be customers have to register to be allowed to come in and agree to have their faces scanned before they're green-lighted to enter - and then lose the privilege if they 'offend' in any way. Kind of like a Clubcard before you can go in to the shop at all, rather than just to get special offers and coupons.

Once one shop did this (amidst initial community backlash, I'm sure), all the thieves would go to other shops that didn't have it; meaning that the ante would be upped and, before long, every shop would either have to have it or get all of the thieves from the whole region coming in every day. It's not how I would like society to be in the least, but I can see it coming regardless.

daisychain01 · 06/04/2026 21:45

tachetastic · 06/04/2026 15:52

Well yes. I guess I kind of hoped that me just really openly watching them would give them some sense of shame and make them realise how stupid they looked.

If my kids had been there I would have said something to reinforce the importance of not stealing, but I honestly couldn’t see them stopping and I didn’t know where a conversation would go beyond “that’s theft”. “Yes?” “Well stop” “why?” “Erm. Because it’s theft.”

Why didn't you get store security involved? You saw what they were doing, a few paces over to the security guard would have at least highlighted what they were doing.

doing nothing is not a good option. Coming on here and talking about it is really limp. And it's told a load more people who didn't know about this scam.

we are all paying for these acts of theft in higher prices.

grumpygrape · 06/04/2026 21:27

I am on the Pedantic spectrum and would point out that Shoplifting isn’t the correct terminology, it’s Theft from a Shop. In the same way that Joyriding isn’t correct, it’s ‘Vehicle Taking without Consent’. Shoplifting and Joyriding seem to reduce the seriousness of the crime in the eyes of some people.

That said, in this case there are two levels of loser, the poor people who unknowingly buy a package stating ‘posh eggs’ but with inferior eggs inside and, if the original act is noticed and the store rectifies it, then ‘we’ as purchasers are all losers because retailers have to factor this into their prices.

Again, that said, please don’t beat up the shop/supermarket staff. All Police and retail owners will tell their staff not to intervene, due to the increase in perpetrators becoming violent and using weapons. I recently saw a TV programme where a security guard was stabbed by a thief taking £20 worth of goods from a B&M. He nearly died but thankfully saved initially by some switched on Police officers and then medics.

Blame the degradation of society, addictions, and organised crime. And no, I don’t know how this has happened nor how to reverse it.

AntiqueBabyLoanSmurf · 06/04/2026 21:26

tachetastic · 06/04/2026 21:17

I WOULD report spouse swapping in Tesco. I do have limits.

Especially if they've been left out of the fridge too long.

🙄

Plus, if the issue with the eggs is that you end up with different ones from the ones you paid for (and the box said you were getting); surely the spouse-swapping equivalent would be in being led to believe that you were marrying one person and then getting home and finding you'd actually wed somebody else whom you never intended?!

The Order of Service said it was the wedding of you and Tom Hiddlestone; but you go home afterwards and find Piers Morgan scratching his balls and eating Wotsits on your brand new marital sofa Grin

canisquaeso · 06/04/2026 21:21

Supermarkets near me now open the boxes to check because of this.

Rookrook · 06/04/2026 21:19

BorneBackCeaselesslyIntoThePas · 06/04/2026 21:02

except all the amazon fresh shops have closed because the technology isnt working

Perhaps the shops will move to a model where the only items on the shelves are empty display models and you take a ticket that you present at check out. They could even pre-load the checkout areas when you take a ticket

Like Beamish, like the olden days, or as my 20 something DD ask can you remember doing that! Cheeky buggers, I can’t admit that the local shop as a child everything was behind the counter! But it was more like ‘ Open all Hours’ tv show

tachetastic · 06/04/2026 21:17

FishFingerCrumbs · 06/04/2026 21:01

People swap spouses and you clutch pearls over eggs. It's cringe.

I WOULD report spouse swapping in Tesco. I do have limits.

Especially if they've been left out of the fridge too long.

🙄

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Rookrook · 06/04/2026 21:14

Thank you I was looking forward to visiting one, next time I was in London. I’m NE England so only read about it online! @BorneBackCeaselesslyIntoThePas

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 06/04/2026 21:03

FishFingerCrumbs · 06/04/2026 21:01

People swap spouses and you clutch pearls over eggs. It's cringe.

Are you okay? What have relationships got to do with it.

redboxer321 · 06/04/2026 21:03

I know of a couple who own multiple properties and have got money coming out of their ears, holidays every month kind of thing, who swap the eggs in the small box for those in the large box and put the small box through at the check out. You're right, OP, absolutely shameless.

BorneBackCeaselesslyIntoThePas · 06/04/2026 21:02

Rookrook · 06/04/2026 19:29

Maybe shops should be like Amazon Fresh in London.

except all the amazon fresh shops have closed because the technology isnt working

Perhaps the shops will move to a model where the only items on the shelves are empty display models and you take a ticket that you present at check out. They could even pre-load the checkout areas when you take a ticket

AntiqueBabyLoanSmurf · 06/04/2026 21:01

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 06/04/2026 20:38

Presumably if there is a H&S rule like that, there is some reason for it. I would absolutely have reported - thieving scum

They probably have to err very much on the safe side - even to the point of paranoia. Yes, these people were thieving scum, but I doubt they were damaging or endangering any of the eggs that were still there after they left.

A bit like if somebody changes their mind about buying butter and then just abandons it in the middle of the crisps, shop rules will dictate that it has to be thrown away if found by a member of staff, as it could have been out of the fridge for ages and/or deliberately interfered with... BUT if you as a fellow customer saw them take it and then, one minute later, put it straight down on the other shelf in favour of a multi-pack of Monster Munch, you could safely return it to the right place in the fridge, if you were so-minded.

TheUsualChaos · 06/04/2026 21:01

It's the fact that they are fine with someone else unwittingly paying the higher price for the cheap eggs which is so selfish.
The supermarket isn't actually losing out on anything, it's the person who buys the other box of eggs. I know it's just eggs but that attitude is so selfish and entitled.

FishFingerCrumbs · 06/04/2026 21:01

People swap spouses and you clutch pearls over eggs. It's cringe.

tachetastic · 06/04/2026 20:59

FishFingerCrumbs · 06/04/2026 20:53

Food should be free for all. 👊

Well I guess that works for berries and nuts but I'm not sure the Burford Brown eggs they were snaffling (or whatever they were) were free for anyone.

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LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 06/04/2026 20:59

FishFingerCrumbs · 06/04/2026 20:53

Food should be free for all. 👊

Okay so you are on the wind up. Got it.

Do you work? Do you get paid?

I am sure you can go completely off grid if the idea of capitalism is so offensive 😂

JustbrotherscarlenaNsoul · 06/04/2026 20:58

latetothefisting · 06/04/2026 20:56

I bought some nutella, got home and there was a hole in the foil wrap and a finger sized hole in the spread 😬

Oh that's vile🤮