It's a big birthday for me two weeks yesterday, I'm 70 and a widow, and originally we'd planned a family holiday in May as my gift. Due to unexpected health problems I am unable to go, so I was a bit disappointed when they all decided to go ahead without me. I still hadn't decided what to do on my birthday, maybe a weekend away in a cottage or similar, but they've changed the date as its cheaper, so now they'll be leaving at 3am for the airport the next morning, so can only see me in the afternoon for a pub lunch. AIBU to be upset by feeling it's all about the holiday and I just have to fit in somewhere.