AIBU for not wanting to cancel our holiday for baby shower?

Find someone else to go with you. He has to go to the party or YOU will be blamed from now until forever.

Aren't baby showers just an excuse for the parents-to-be to ask for presents?

Don't cancel your nonrefundable holiday, if they really want you there they'll change the date.

Never been to a baby shower and a man been there

if it was they important to have dad there she should have asked him if he could have done that date

equally surely step daughter must have known about your holiday if booked it months ago

as you are going away with friends I wish I carry on doing that and say you are sorry to be missing it and can you take her out for lunch when you are back

how long have you been with her dad ? Are you likely to get married ?

do you usually get on

Baby showers are excruciating imo. Holidays are great.

Op a baby shower is nothing to a holiday already booked and paid for. Just tell your dp your not flaky people and it would be rude to bail on friends and planned arrangements just so you can see what gifts have been bought for grandchild it’s more important to be around when the baby arrives in case you need to help them in any way. Of course if the baby shower was on your side of the family I bet it wouldn’t be that important. Entitled princess.

YABU to be partnered up with someone who thinks it’s okay to leave your friends in the lurch having paid for an expensive holiday abroad. And who has raised a child who makes big decisions about unmissable family events without consulting key family members. Is she insisting that he cancel his holiday and let everyone down, or is it his idea? Either way, it’s bad,

I'm confused - so her husbands family have organised the baby shower . They didn't check the dates with you .
Your busy .husband wants to cancel holiday because he wants to support daughter.
I'd say you'll take her out for afternoon tea and spoil her with xyz .
It's a baby shower ...it's 3 hours max of your life . If it was my dad I'd understand

A 'baby shower' is not a real thing in my opinion.
Imported American rubbish.
Explain you have a holiday booked, offer to take her out to lunch instead

Sounds like your DH is very confused and thinks baby showers are more important than they are. Especially for grandparents.

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I’m sure I read this post last week?

Your holiday is booked, go on it.

Did his eldest daughter inform you in advance that they would be scheduling intimate time which may result in a baby shower being mandatory X number of months from said date? If not, I'd say you are in the clear and can go guilt free on your planned holiday. Have a lovely holiday!

This!
I always think that with things like this people find a date and check with those they really want there first. Once that’s confirmed they then roll it out to the others. You form part of the’others’ in this scenario.
IMO, if you would prefer to go in your holiday then decline the invitation. Are you happy for DP to go without you OP?

Absolutely don’t cancel. Baby showers are naff as hell and it gives you a good excuse to miss it.

I think they are the most tedious invention,

No, those are the over the top gender reveals. Then you get to the baby shower so people can buy the "right colour" like it's 19freaking50.

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Get ready for the gender reveal when you've made some other plans, @magicseahorse .

The only baby shower I’ve ever attended ( out of politeness,) was a colleague’s a few years ago. It’s a weird American thing that’s made its way over to these shores.
we played a game by smearing Nutella over a baby’s nappy to make it look like 💩. No way in hell would I be missing a trip abroad for that nonsense.

No way cancel. What a load of rubbish- men don’t normally go to baby showers. In fact it’s normally just female friends to be honest. (And it’s an awful American tradition).

It sounds like it’s been booked to clash on purpose if it’s being organised now. And surely you’ll be back down very soon after to see the new baby? So tell them you’ll see them then.

If your DH won’t listen then go on the holiday without him!

Id go on holiday in my own tbh

Well of course his daughter is more important than a holiday… but that doesn’t mean a baby shower is more important than a holiday!

I would tell your partner that a BS is like a hen party for Mums: they play stupid games and give the Mum to be presents. You can show your support for his Dd in other ways. Unfortunate timing but you have had the holiday arranged for a v long time, it would be unfair to let your friends down and better to take holiday now than after the baby is born when his Dd will really appreciate any support.

And come what may: go on the holiday!

It's a baby shower, not her wedding. No way on God's green earth would I cancel a holiday for a baby shower, not even my daughter's.

It's a couple of hours and a buffet. Far, far better to go on holiday and take her out for afternoon tea or shopping or something when you get back.

I'm sure if your DH attends the baby shower he'll regret cancelling his holiday. I'd be happy having the perfect excuse not to attend!

This

No way would I be cancelling a holiday for a lot of attention seeking crap like a baby shower

Men don’t normally go to baby showers. I wouldn’t cancel a holiday for a baby shower

Go on holiday with your friends as planned. If your DP won't come because of the baby shower, invite someone in his place if that's an option.

Baby showers are hell. I'd rather go to the dentist.

Enjoy your holiday.