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To tell my family I hate my life?

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AnonMam · 06/04/2026 14:09

I think I'm depressed.
I work my ass off for my family. I have 2 kids 9 and 14. They're ungrateful and disrespectful. My husband is like another child but worse.
None of this is what I thought life would be.
I've not stopped all weekend doing things for other people.
Not one person cares about what I want to do (or don't want to do, like all the f-ing housework).
I'm back to work tomorrow after a bank holiday where I've not done a single thing that I wanted to do. Everything is for other people.
I just screamed at them all that I hate my life and have gone to bed.
Now I'm upset and overwhelmed and feeling like a shit parent and shit person.

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Freda69 · 06/04/2026 14:17

You are not unreasonable - you are tired and miserable and we all get like that sometimes. Life is very tough for working mums.
But you can’t pour from an empty pot. Somehow or other you need to carve out a couple of hours for yourself, whether it’s a yoga class or seeing a friend or whatever. Make that your top priority every week.
Also your kids are old enough to do stuff round the house - tidy their rooms, load and unload the dishwasher, clean a car??

GreyCarpet · 06/04/2026 14:15

Sometimes, you need to just make things happen if you want them to.

What would happen if you said, "Right, I'm just off to..."? Who's going to actually stop you? How much of this is because you're expecting them to give you something you're not asking for or doing for yourself?

I mean, it's easy to get caught up in all the housework and stuff but why can't you tell them you're going to go out/have a bath/read a book in the garden/go to the pub/whatever it is you want to do?

Jellybunny98 · 06/04/2026 14:12

Why have you done nothing for yourself? You need to carve out some time for you OP and stick to it. My husband & I try to make sure that every weekend we both get a chance to do something that fills “our cup” as individuals, usually for me that’s a long run or coffee/breakfast with a friend, usually for him it’s the gym/football or meeting his mates for lunch, it’s so important to still have some “you” time!

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