My DH is just a bit of a Neanderthal and it’s frustrating or am I the one who’s in the wrong ?

He's a shit. For once NAMALT is an accurate statement of the case.

Try a different therapist and therapy type. Honestly for long term mental health it will support you better. I find that you need a good 'fit' of therapists to get anywhere and I personally am always more comfortable with more action focused cbt influenced therapy. My husband on the other hand has been seeing a person centered therapist long term and finds that very helpful.

This whole idea of being against someone seeking medical help, it’s not his body or mind.

can you imagine if he broke his leg and you said to him, I’m against medical intervention & you’ll be on crutches and maybe a wheel chair - best leave the leg to feel itself. He would tell you not to be so ridiculous and then it’s totally different from using medical intervention for another illness. It’s not totally different and it’s one reason why 80% of suicice are males not females. Females are much more likely to seek medical help rather than the male attitude of ignoring the illnesses

I'd read some of those inquest reports and then decide.

https://www.bmj.com/content/388/bmj.r67

There is great interest in playing down the risk of SSRIs because the type of treatments that are more likely to work are so expensive and many actions would require a general improvement in our quality of life as a society.

FGS get rid of this idiot, your mental well being will improve no end and you may well find you won't need the anti depressants anymore.
Do it for your d if nothing else, she is learning this is normal in how men treat women.

Put this caveman back and 90% of all your MH issues will be reversed.

It’s really important to be careful about interpreting this kind of data. Correlation doesn’t equal causation. People who are prescribed SSRIs are already experiencing depression or anxiety, both of which are linked to a higher risk of suicide compared to the general population. So higher rates of suicide in people taking SSRIs doesn’t mean the medication is causing it.

There’s a large body of evidence showing that SSRIs can be effective for many people, particularly in reducing symptoms of depression and helping them function day to day (there would have to be or they wouldn’t be allowed to be prescribed). They’re not perfect, and they don’t work for everyone, but for some people they can be life-changing. I’ve seen it with my own eyes.

SSRI’s have their place. Discuss with your GP your concerns re the dark thoughts.
You maybe won’t need them in the long term but please seek support OP.

I'm torn on this.
On one hand, I do believe that the only unconditional love is from parents (and not always, sadly) and yes one should screen out those with obvious issues before committing.

On the other hand, he does sound completely unsupportive and a twat.

I wonder if OP's problems are linked to the fact that she's married to a cunt?

This in spades. Also, do you want your daughter to have this influence from her father? She will grow up thinking that this is the norm and worry that she is less than her father’s view of how people should be and what they should achieve.

From what I've read, SSRIs are more likely to make thise dark thoughts much worse. What i found interesting is the reports on women with traumatic backgrounds and drug dependency who enter prison for the first time. They are often prescribed SSRIs for the first time and go on to self harm within weeks of being in prison on a short sentence for something like shoplifting.

These are women who have faced lots of trauma and abuse, as well as having a drug and/or alcohol dependency, and yet they never self harmed until they were on SSRIs.

The whole "what do you bring the table?" Is touted as wise advice for people seeking relationships. I do think it is problematic but I don't think that someone's sex changes how wrong or right it is.

its incredibly superior for someone with no mental health issues to state such a position on medication with no lived experience themselves. But even so, a decent man with this view would be offering support and asking their wife what else they can do to reassure you and help get you through this.

He sounds awful

http://antidepaware.co.uk/contents/

How did he not seem like it? When did it start to show?

I am not for SSRIs. Research shows they don't work and they often make symptoms worse. There is a man who collates all the inquests of people who have committed violence against others or themselves after starting sertaline. I'll link it in a minute.

I'd also tell a loved one that I think it's unwise to start a LTR with anyone who has a serious mental illness. I think we normalise SMIs too much.

I also think we judge men by their assets as well as their souls. Who would partner with a man who shows signs of being a crap parent (oh actually many of you do) or poor provider (more people ensure this isnt the case)? If you started thread on here asking how you should screen a new date for long term potential, what things would people on here tell you to consider about him? Does he have a good job, own home, car? It's the same thing.

No wonder your mental health isn’t great living with this ignorant pig

He sounds utterly revolting. Why did you marry him? Was he always like this?
To answer your queston - yes unfortunately many men are like this but most are not.
The solution is to steer well clear of the pigs.