AIBU to think my adult life is average rather than privileged?

Volunteering regularly at a homeless shelter or a food bank and talking to the people that use them would definitely give you some perspective.

Yes, or even watches/listens to news and current affairs. All sorts of reports about housing problems, benefits, food bank usage etc

Honestly I think the OP is starting to feel the pinch of the atrocious cost of living nowadays, hence they made a post to get reassurance from all those less fortunate that they are still, indeed, privileged.

Yes, I agree. They don't have the capital, but they're saving you rent and bills, even if there's a contribution required.

The OP is definitely privileged but I am surprised by the majority of the responses here.

It absolutely is.

Also no not everyone is gifted a house deposit, ours came from working a lot of overtime and moving back with parents to save

Living with family in order to save is still help though.

Seriously? You think this is an appropriate post when so many people are struggling with finances right now.
No, I did not have help towards a deposit. Nor did I receive thousands per year in gifts. I earn my own money, not a huge amount, and I budget in order to make ends meet.

My partner and I lived with his parents in our 20’s and put our earnings aside each month to save up our house deposit which was around 25k at the time. We weren’t “gifted” anything. I now earn 36k, my husband earns 55k. We manage with two kids, a mortgage and we are sensible with money so we can afford one or two nice holidays each year.

I consider us fortunate - everything I’ve built up (or we’ve built up) has been done by hard graft and self reliance. If I had a handout of anything - money/property/holidays - I would think I was extremely fortunate!

I think she's just a wind up merchant. Nobody with access to the internet could possibly not get it.

No, they're not OP.

It's just not nice hearing the truth, and it's not what you expected/wanted.

Your views on average/privilege are so off, it's almost offensive/rude. You've just never been told this, and you dont like it. Not liking it doesn't stop it from being true.

If you'd asked this in a public, face-to-face environment, people would be thinking the same thing of you.

I'm saying this from a position where I am nowhere near as privileged as you, and I'm fully aware that I'm in a good position and there are many much worse off than I am. You seem completely unaware of where you are in the grand scheme of things, and I think you need your eyes opened before you go around spouting what's in your post, causing more offence.

@Finchell What I find SO hard to believe is that you seem to have no inkling at all of what life is like for people outside of your little bubble

I'm from a very working class background and worked in NHS admin all my life. I came into contact with consultants who lived a very different life from me, my family and friends. Some of them had nannies for their children, most were privately educating their children, they had lovely holidays, cars and homes in leafy suburbs or villages. I've seen documentaries and TV dramas which have shown various aspects of a privileged lifestyle. When I go to London occasionally there is obvious evidence that many people have spending power which I can only dream of

How is it then that I know something of the sort of life which you and your friends lead (and you are in the minority) and yet you seem to have NO idea at all about the lives of the majority of people in the country? I would love an answer from you, but somehow don't think I'll get one . . . .

Ah, the goady bored poster, such a mumsnet trope.

I’m a pensioner. I don’t have any private pension and I live on just under £14000 per year. I buy my clothes in charity shops. My holidays are a few days in a travel lodge paid for by saving £2 coins. This is so I can visit relatives. My mortgage is paid off and I have a 2013 car and a 7 year old electric bike. My home is clean and comfortable and I consider myself privileged when I see some of the people who live near me ( in a nice place in the south of England) it’s a matter of perspective, I think.

You clearly don’t have poor friends if they are all being gifted houses from their parents and have trust funds from their grandparents though do you?

These rage baiting trolls create such an unpleasant atmosphere on mn. If it sounds absolutely ridiculous it likely is, don't bother posting a response!

Privilege is relative. Clearly in your circles you're mediocre, if not slightly lagging. Whereas compared to people who's parents can't afford to subsidise them, you're very fortunate. If you're an educated adult who someone thinks is worth a £71k salary, I'm surprised you need something so obvious explaining to you.
If you genuinely want to know where you stand compared to the rest of the UK, just Google some key facts. I found in under 2 minutes that 34% of adults age 24-35 are home owners and 30% of those will have recieved parental help to purchase. That sort of information will give you a much more objective view.

What does your butler think?

You are very privileged

Theres a shortage of council housing. People in temporary accommodation ie rooms /studios /flats/houses. Depends what temporary accommodation is available at a time. Yes 5 People can be given just a room sharing kitchen _bathroom with strangers. Places often run done. Mould, vermin. In general awful condition.

Depending where in the uk. People can wait for several years for council/social housing.

@Finchell I feel this post has got to be a joke of some sort but just to give you an example of normal, we saved up our £10,000 house deposit over 7, yes 7 years. We bought a small (but lovely) place in 2018. No financial support from family. It can be done.

I know I’ve been privileged even though things haven’t been easy.

1. no uni debt as I was in a low income family at the time due to parental ill health
2. Bought a house when prices were relatively low in the 90s (did get help towards a deposit but very low thousands not hundreds of thousands, due to the circumstances at the time)
3. married someone with a good salary which allowed us to buy a gorgeous house (cost was supplemented with my small inheritance around that time)
4. I only work part time but am comfortable
5. We got ££££ help towards our wedding
6. we got an early ‘pay out’ of an inheritance of £££,£££ which we have used to do some house maintenance and will use to help our children if they go to uni. However, grandparents/family provide no help towards child care and no flashy presents - children don’t receive gifts/money unless Easter, Christmas etc, Christmas presents are under £30 each.

Gosh.
You are privileged.

You’re a privileged wind up merchant, HTH.

I don’t think it’s hostile generally , I find it supportive. I have two daughters. One is in full time work and earns about £35000. The other has several children and is self employed and lives in social housing. Neither of them has had any financial support from me or my ex, until a recent gift of £5000 from my ex. I give them £30 for birthdays and Christmas. I think my ex gives them £50.
If you compare yourself to them, I think you would agree that you are privileged.