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AIBU to think my adult life is average rather than privileged?

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Finchell · 05/04/2026 21:11

Prepared to be told otherwise and of course I know I have had some degree of privilege. As a child I had a good education and opportunities and I accept that is probably classed as ‘privileged.’ But I don’t think that overall my adult life is, I think it’s pretty standard.

Had 50k towards house deposit (everyone I know had had financial support to buy a house)

Gifted 2k to 3k a year (again over birthday and Christmas etc this would seem usual to my friends)

DD has (small) house on trust from grandparents. I only know one other family who haven’t been in a position to make some provision for their grandchildren, not necessarily a house but cash etc

Earnings 71k, again this is of course not a low amount but in terms of household income it’s not a lot these days.

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LauraJaneGrace · 05/04/2026 21:19

Everyone I know had financial support to buy a house.

Are you taking the piss?

vodkaredbullgirl · 05/04/2026 21:19

🙄

curious79 · 05/04/2026 21:19

I am very privileged but I see, read and know enough to understand that being gifted houses is not normal under any circumstances.

you need to wake up and look beyond your own nose - honestly you sound thick as mud

stomachamelon · 05/04/2026 21:18

I don’t think it’s ‘average’. I hate to think what you would describe my average tbh.

TheHouse · 05/04/2026 21:18

@TeaAndSymumthy

LOL at your comment. Just spat my drink out 😂.

Auroraloves · 05/04/2026 21:18

Finchell · 05/04/2026 21:15

These posts are uncalled for. For context my two best friends, one was bought a home outright when she was 30 and the other was gifted 200k! That’s two people from different walks of life ( they don’t know each other)

It’s the reality check you deserve

Woahtherehoney · 05/04/2026 21:18

you MUST know you are privileged when there are many news stories, social media posts and posts on Mumsnet of people who can’t pay their bills, are worried about the price of petrol, are losing jobs and are on the poverty line.

Finchell · 05/04/2026 21:18

TheHouse · 05/04/2026 21:16

Is there any need to be so clueless about life?

@TheHouse posted on her for perspective. Mumsnet has become very hostile of late

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foodtoorder · 05/04/2026 21:18

You live in a bubble! Not one person I know has had that life or earns 70k a year infact!

BatshitIsTheOnlyExplanation · 05/04/2026 21:18

So let's run through this again.
£50k house deposit
£2-3k per year
"Small house" in trust for DD

Any one of those would put you in a privileged position.

A question: what would you have to receive in order to think you are privileged and not average?

Another question: what do you think average looks like?

TeaAndSymumthy · 05/04/2026 21:18

Finchell · 05/04/2026 21:15

These posts are uncalled for. For context my two best friends, one was bought a home outright when she was 30 and the other was gifted 200k! That’s two people from different walks of life ( they don’t know each other)

This week on “how can I be more ignorant”

Hatty65 · 05/04/2026 21:17

Utterly privileged. I don't know a single person who was 'gifted' a deposit for their house, or who had any money from parents as an adult.

I'm pretty average.

Finchell · 05/04/2026 21:17

Genxhausted · 05/04/2026 21:14

You live in a bubble. I suggest spending some time outside of it so you can get some perspective.

@Genxhausted genuinely, how? I don’t live in a particularly affluent area. I mix with a range of people from different backgrounds. Not sure what more someone can do to not be in a bubble as you call it

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Zanatdy · 05/04/2026 21:17

Oh come on. In contrast I don’t know anyone who was gifted a deposit or has a house on trust. I do earn 71k though; or almost.

TheHouse · 05/04/2026 21:16

Is there any need to be so clueless about life?

CharlotteCollinsneeLucas · 05/04/2026 21:16

Maybe it's average in your circle?

Anyway, what does it matter? Comparison is the thief of joy.

Farawaytreemagic · 05/04/2026 21:16

Finchell · 05/04/2026 21:15

These posts are uncalled for. For context my two best friends, one was bought a home outright when she was 30 and the other was gifted 200k! That’s two people from different walks of life ( they don’t know each other)

aww Boo hoo

Chatsbots · 05/04/2026 21:16

I'm not normally one to agree with posters who say that posts are goady but jeez...

Think you need to get out more, hun.

Finchell · 05/04/2026 21:16

TeaAndSymumthy · 05/04/2026 21:15

I’d like to hear how you think this isn’t privileged?

just because you’re friends don’t find it unusual, doesn’t mean it’s average. The rich don’t hang out with the poor now do they 🤣

@TeaAndSymumthy I don’t make friends based on their financial worth so I don’t know what you mean by that

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SpanThatWorld · 05/04/2026 21:16

By comparison with the Royal Family, clearly not.

By comparison with most people living in a former mining village, massively.

By comparison with anyone in Russian-occupied Ukraine ...aren't we all?

Finchell · 05/04/2026 21:16

TheHouse · 05/04/2026 21:15

poor little princess.

@TheHouse is there a need to be so nasty?

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TeaAndSymumthy · 05/04/2026 21:15

I’d like to hear how you think this isn’t privileged?

just because you’re friends don’t find it unusual, doesn’t mean it’s average. The rich don’t hang out with the poor now do they 🤣

Ipsevenenabibas · 05/04/2026 21:15

SuffolkBargeWoman · 05/04/2026 21:13

You are very privileged.
And either obtuse or a goady fucker.
Only you know which.

Yeah, this.

Finchell · 05/04/2026 21:15

These posts are uncalled for. For context my two best friends, one was bought a home outright when she was 30 and the other was gifted 200k! That’s two people from different walks of life ( they don’t know each other)

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OneTimeThingToday · 05/04/2026 21:15

With the exception of salary (which is probably above average household but not excessive), extrememly privileged.

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