AIBU to think my adult life is average rather than privileged?

Your post is tone deaf in the current economic climate.

71K is a bloody lot actually.

I consider myself a privileged adult. And yet I was not gifted a house deposit, nor yet granted a house in trust. I saved up for my own deposit. You're definitely privileged.

All that money and privilege and you are massively uneducated, ignorant and unable to at least use Google.What a waste!

Have you ever considered that you are perhaps only friends with similarly privileged people and that perhaps not everyone has parents that can just give them 50k for a house deposit?! 🤦‍♀️

Given there’s Council housing why would I think four people would be in a studio?!

In 1980 when the population of the UK was 56 million there were 5.5 million local authority housing units. In 2025 there were 1.57 million with a population of 69million, do you see now why there might be a bit of an issue ?
Add to that the cost of buying a house, 25 years ago I could have bought in my local area in the North, a fairly standard 2 bed terrace for 50k , now it would cost 200k minimum, and when I say bought, I mean as a single person, 3 x salary. Now you need at least two average salaries, plus you need to be able to save whilst paying out at least a third of your wage in rent.

You are welcome. You can look it up yourself but as a starting point:

https://www.merton.gov.uk/council-tax-benefits-and-housing/getting-a-new-home/apply-social-housing/bands-and-waiting-times-social-housing#

A LA at random - they house 2% of the people on their list each year and say 'many people never get an offer'

I have had a similar experience to you - gifted £40k for house deposit, grandparents contributed around £5k for last year's summer holiday. Earn over £80k. I consider myself VERY privileged compared to the vast majority of the population despite many of my friends being in similar situations to me (since I met them at Grammar school and University its not surprising). I am acutely aware that my situation is not average, or the norm

You are very privileged, OP.

i have never had a penny from my mother, and my father died penniless so no inheritance from him either. I was a single teenage mother who rented for 12 years and worked 3 jobs in order to save for a deposit. It was unbelievably tough.

Oh now I’ve read OPs comments on council housing and I realise now that clearly some people are that dumb…

The waiting list for council housing in my area is 3 years.

So yeah, sucks, doesn't it.

These threads should be blocked for being tedious.

When do the kids go back from Easter holidays? These posts are getting more and more ridiculous. Just in case it’s real: most people will be lucky if they ever see £50K at once in their lives, nor does a magical money tree grow in their yard and give them an extra 2-3K a year when they’re already earning £40K+ over the average UK salary. And if EVERYONE you know had help buying a house, then no, your friends are not a varied bunch. Make friends with someone who rents or even flat shares; it’ll be your good deed for the year 😇

Think she’s pretty much said this.

Are you actually serious? My friend group are all university educated professionals, not one was gifted a house deposit.

However, most of us were privileged to be able to live with our parents during our twenties to be able to save for a deposit - I imagine that is the way most people manage to save a deposit. Only one of my friend group were able to go from renting to buying and that was due to inheritance from losing a parent.

I cannot believe you are this dim

You know this is not ‘average’.

Nah, we know too

If the OP isn't just trolling then she's above average in privilege but below average in intelligence - so swings and roundabouts.

Either you are being a goady fucker or are just completely detached from the reality of most people's lives in the uk,

Yes, you are privileged. No, most people in the country don't get a shitload of help from mummy and daddy to buy a house, thousands of pounds of gifts each yeah and fully funded education, not to mention the help your dd has got.

Im 100% certain the answer is "no"

Omg, you’re unreal. Of course people are homeless, inc families with kids. Many more are in totally unsuitable accommodation so a family in a one bed flat.

This reminds me of a scene from the film The Man Who Invented Christmas, someone is complaining to Dickens that WC people dont belong in books, he is a self made man blah blah blah and his wife meekly says 'well papa did gift us a very small paper mill'.

I am firmly middle class and our household income is £150ishk and we along with literally no one else in my MC circles were gifted a house, nor their kids.

Goady stealth boast post.

Christ on a bike.

I consider myself privileged. No one gave me £50k for a house. There is no house waiting in trust for my son. No one gives me thousands a year - I earn it.

You are DEFINITELY privileged. The definition of it. And you need to check it.

Thought you had a degree.

Are you joking? I dont earn anything like you. Im a teacher. I have never received more than about £150 in a year as gifts from family (combined). I have no trust funds or property to pass on to anyone. Your responses to people are 100% princess. Totally clueless and perhaps a bit spoiled. Oh, and totally clueless as to how many people in THIS COUNTRY survive. Do you have any idea about the private rental market?!?!?