AIBU to think my adult life is average rather than privileged?

Those are literally the same figures I just gave you? 7% of the overall population, 22% of medical graduates. 22% is not a majority of doctors.

51% of “the most influential doctors”, whatever that might include, is still not a majority overall.

I meant small compared to what the OP was talking about - not enough to buy an house outright. And, as I said, I’m privileged to have it. Not sure why it needed pickyness tbh.

I don't want to be picky but I wouldn't call £100K a small inheritance. £5-10K would be a small inheritance but nonetheless welcome.

This is brilliant for you and your children and your friends but very far from normal. The only friends DD (32) has who have managed to buy a house are those with inheritances or an unusually high paying job. Birthday presents would be £20-£30. Many of her friends are in flat shares and likely to remail so. What's the phrase? 'Check your privilege?'

They might be from different walks of life, but both those walks were on the privileged side of life. That experience is very much not normal.

@Tigerbalmshark google tells me otherwise.

“Additionally, the 7 per cent of the UK population educated at independent fee-paying schools, make up 22 per cent of medicine and dentistry undergraduates and 51 per cent of the most influential doctors in the profession.”

And of course not going to private school doesn’t mean you are from an impoverished background & haven’t had help with uni fees & house deposits.

I would still think most medicine grads come from a higher socio economic background.

No of course it doesn't. When have everyone said that. If you're parents valued education and supported you are also Privileged according to this thread..

There are children who are abused and used as ash trays. Or parents who prioritise drugs. I consider them to be feckless.

Yes, 20% privately educated vs 7% of all children. Still a minority overall.

@Tigerbalmshark so are the privately educated not over represented in medicine?

@Tigerbalmshark I didn’t go to private school, that isn’t my background. These are people I have met through uni, NCT, neighbours, partners of colleagues, friends, family, DHs friends, school parents etc.

Perhaps it’s because I live in London.

That hasn’t been accurate for about 50 years. The vast majority of doctors (80% of currently entrants) went to state school.

You may know a group of people from a similar background to yourself but that doesn’t reflect the majority.

I'd say that you're very privileged, OP.

I grew up in a council house, with my mum working 14 hour days and still counting the pennies.
When I met dh and we bought our first house, our deposit was £12,000 that we scrimped together without any help from any parents, as they were in no position to offer it.

My Mum passed away a couple of years ago, and I'll be honest, I was gobsmacked that she was able to leave around £4000 to be shared between my brother and I.

I really don't see the point of this thread to be honest, and with your "I think I'm average rather than priviled", you are being utterly disingenuous and showing an absolute lack of class.

Feckless? Coming from a working class background doesn't mean that you had feckless parents.

My parents were not well off, but saw the importance of education and supported me as well as they could.

Three of my great-grandfathers died relatively young: that has a significant impact on any working class family.

The irony of such a badly written post clearly created by AI trying to make this point.

Why not hit up AI platforms instead of Mumsnet or other random online spots? Those places are pretty nasty. I usually go straight to AI when I’ve got a question or problem—it’s way more helpful. Posting on Mumsnet feels like a waste of time. You’re already paying for the internet, so use it to lift yourself up, not drag you down. AI’s actually helping tons of people feel better, especially if you’re using it to learn, research, and grow. Plus, chatting with AI? Zero judgment, zero drama. Mumsnet? Super toxic unless you’re exactly their “type.”

@Plum02 Im surprised at that considering your work. All my doctor/surgeon friends come from very similar backgrounds (except 1), private school, family help with uni, & help with deposits.

It isn’t a “fact” outside of your “circle”. DH and I own a heavily mortgaged £830k house. We’re 35 and 36. We bought it a year ago after saving for 12 years for a deposit while living in one bed flats including ex-council flats. We’re both doctors (now consultants) so on a higher salary than you and also worked lots of extra locum shifts over the years to help save. We have a huge mortgage. Most people I know get a house deposit from saving, not handouts.

I find it really odd that you know what handouts your friends / acquaintances are getting from family. If I was gifted money by a family member I'd keep it to myself, except perhaps with very close friends e.g. if they asked how I managed to move house or something. I have absolutely no idea what my friends have been gifted by their family members and I wouldn't dream of ever asking. It's private info not stuff to be bragging about.

I think you are very privileged, and I say this coming from a position of more privilege.

I struggle to see how the OP is earning £71K in a financial job, when she is
a) incapable of understanding what 'average' is (whether she wants to use mean median or mode)
b) is incapable of following any reports on any news media about how people who are different from herself live
c) is incapable of having a little google to see what people earn is jobs that must be visible to her even in her privileged bubble.

Oh, and I've just been told to check my own privilege on another thread for suggesting the OP might enroll her dc in swimming lessons or cubs

I just think the OP doesn't understand the contemporary usage of the word Privilege, nor to understand what average means.

That, or no a wind up

You may be privileged. But your critical thinking skills are lacking and far below average. So that leads me to doubt your salary 😬

Sadly, some people are just dim.

Wouldn't surprise me! OP is either making stuff up to get a reaction or blindingly oblivious.

(Although I do imagine the OP coming back on not having ever heard of Dickens and being excited that there might actually be workhouses ...)

I reported this as I was hoping it was a troll. Sadly not (MNHQ says).

Well they certainly walk among us.

The quote I used way up thread "Are there no workhouses?" is a quote from Scrooge, when he sees the two wasted children under the ghost's mantle, and the ghost is mocking his earlier demand "Are there no workhouses". Since I googled it lots of stuff about the scene in the book has come up on my feed, so I had a read through, including the explanation that the children were called Ignorance and Want, and the appearance of Ignorance was far the worst because its the most dangerous of the two conditions. Ignorance like the OP's. I'd really have liked them to come back and say yes I was wrong, but the thing is its going to take a lot to convince them isn't it?

Maybe the ghost of MN Present?