AIBU to think my adult life is average rather than privileged?

Why are you trying to pretend someone buying your daughter a house is normal?

troll.

Oh they’re all still here, but even those rich, bragging ones realise that they walk amongst poor people, they’re not ignorant enough to think that they are the ‘norm’.

Most wealthy people realise how fortunate they are - you’d have to be really fucking thick not to see how bloody hard life is for most people right now and home ownership / a private education / property in trust for a grandchild puts you in an extremely small bracket of adults in the UK.

how much do you think single mums on benefits get ?

I live in a similar social circle to you and have been gifted a lot by family including towards my flat and Cleaner and a car. My friends alll get similar help but some much much more - but I went to private school. I know that all of us are privileged in comparison to most humans in London or the country.
however I also know that my income after tax is similar or less than many single mums on benefits (I work 3.5 days but similar full time equivalent salary to you) and I don’t get rent paid or nursery refunded 85% and child maintenance doenst touch the sides. So in terms of my monthly purchasing power I’m not privileged compared to the average family with kids.

Are you serious? My stepchildren saved up for years to afford their deposits themselves. Rent in the north isn’t as mental as down south just fyi. as an educated working class woman who grew up in council estates you’re hugely privileged and it’s not the norm at all. I don’t have any savings, any rich family to fall back on. But I also have no debt. I don’t drive, don’t go on holidays- never been on an aeroplane. I get free school meals for my older children. It’s ok to be privileged-but don’t try making out it’s normal to be as well off as you are because it really isn’t.

I think its bizarre that you would discuss personal details like this at work. Sounds extremely gossipy

Cause you’ll never understand ….

Is this meant to be a joke? Never seen a thread in 18 years so out of touch

You live in a bubble out of touch with reality then.

This is not normal.

You are 100% in a gifted bubble, but obviously know it given your strange boasting post… I make decent money (£53k in Scotland) but worked my tits off for it, I was privileged in that my dad gave me £1,000 towards driving lessons with any extra going towards my first car when I was 17 (16 years ago). Where you are is far beyond the (as you clearly know) average “privileged” person.

Household income - not privileged.

House deposit and regular gifts - definitely more than most people receive, so yes privileged.

Dd house in trust - very much privileged.

No part of what I said could possibly be construed as ' so aggressive'!

tbf i think there's a difference between being aware you're rich/privileged/well off but indifferent to that fact and being privileged and denying it.

In a certain sense I get where the OP is coming from in that i am definitely the "poor" friend of my social circle and classmates, but like the op I'm still in the top 10 or 5 or whatever percent so i know to keep my mouth shut in public debate rather than try to claim that "actually things are quite hard" for me too.

the fact that the people you went to school and college with make 200-500Ka year and their parents can sub them half a mill does not mean that I get to claim man of the people status because you're on 80K a year and only get bumper payments for weddings or houses and a yearly stipend of 3k tax free

just accept you're privileged but that doesn't necessarily mean you're fucking minted, count your blessings and move on

No help whatsoever for anything. Worked all hours, saved for years and lived in squalor to build up enough for a deposit. Then bought tiny flat with a mortgage, got promoted, earned more and bought small house. I thought this was the normal way of doing things!

Yes, you are but you know that aleady.

• Average salary is 35k
• Average first time buyer is aged 35
• Roughly 60% own their home / 40 rent (half of that is privately and half is social housing)

Blimey!!
I know plenty of people like you - constantly receiving help from parents and/or receiving inheritances. This is privilege.
I also know plenty of people who don’t have such privileges.

I earn twice what you do but received only £1k help towards my first house from my parents which I was very grateful for (especially as I was earning much much less at the time) and I receive a £20 present at Christmas and birthdays from them.

It will if they go outside of the hotels to other countries and actually experience countries. If they go to a 5* hotel and say they’ve seen Mexico then no that’s probably not going to help.

Agree with pp, you only have to hear the news to feel like none of this is a given (safety as a nation, democracy, healthcare, etc) there's a war in Europe. There's the US and everything that teeters on a knife edge.

Just being here is lucky, anything else is a bonus.

The OP is a wind up but that doesn't foreclose discussion. There are plenty of clueless people out there.

I don't think travel will broaden the OP's horizons.

You may have more financially than a lot of people, but you have absolutely zero class to post this.

Are you really that naive? This cannot be real - do you not see homeless people on the streets? watch the news?

I visit homeless families all the time - often a family of 4 living in 1 x cheap hotel room while they try and get council housing - often where there are waits of 4-5 years.

People fleeing DV having to rent a tiny room with shared kitchen and toilet.

No one is giving those kids 2k at christmas. of skiing holidays or deposits for houses!

I can’t decide if the OP really is this clueless about how the majority of people live in the UK or this is a wind up.

If you are genuinely serious, spend some time understanding how some of the poorest people live. I work for a charity that supports families living in poverty where kids go to school with shoes two sizes too small and no cost in winter. Where a mum might have fled domestic violence and the whole family only have the clothes they’re wearing. In some parts of my city, 45% of the kids there are living in poverty and you don’t think you’re privileged!

Travel.