AIBU to think my adult life is average rather than privileged?

You’re having a giraffe, mate. Although you no doubt have one of those in your garden, too.

Sadly, I think it is. There really are some people who are this naive.

There is no way this is a real post

thats what happened to us, left a dv relationship and was left homeless

2 of us in a tiny room, not enough room for 2 mattresses, shared a bathroom with 7 other people. we didn't have gas,m electricity, food....we didnt have a way to wash clothes. this was about 25 years ago now, so there wasnt much help. I was on the 4th floor in a wheelchair with a broken lift. Im sure it wouldnt happen today, but it defo happened before

Hmmm on a salary of 71k it seems you are very very average. Not exactly shooting for the stars, are you? The schooling was all for nothing apparently. What a pity. 😉

OP I think the majority of your comments are offensive to most on this thread.

What’s more I think you are being deliberately offensive. Under the guise of
’I didn’t know’, ‘I’m not sure’. I find you disingenuous.

Rather than focusing on wealth or lack of, just get on with your life.

iu am now in an extremely privileged position now, but i grew up homeless after my mother left a dv relationship., I was in a wheelchair and we were put on the 4th floor of a building, we didnt even have a studio, we had a single room, i slept on a mattress and my mum slept on the floor as we couldnt afford anything. we couldnt even afford food. If it wasnt for our kind neuighobur we' of starved.....we had tro share a bathroom with 7 other familes. im surprised you wouldnt thuink a family could share a studio? i just cqant imagine anyone slightly educated wouldnt know that...

because of my past i now volunteer with the homeless and i suggest you do the same, were all pone paycheck away from that.

i do not know a single person who got help for a house. we worked hard for about 7 years and saved whilst renting. we lived off beans and toast to save the deposit etc. my kids do not have a house...nor do they have one left to them. My mother and father had zero....nothing at all apparently

but i do suggest you go and touch some grass, and i don't mean this nasty., I mean go and speak to those on the streets, listen to the heartbreaking stories of your fellow humans

Without meaning to sound like the stereotypical snarky one line and run off MNer, why on earth do you presume that anyone cares whether you are "privileged" or not? Did you want a medal or sympathy, either way? The word is overused and stems from a weird ideology which exalts victimhood. The very question is cringe, IMO.

Of course you are very privileged. I'm amazed that you need to ask. You live in a little bubble if you don't know anyone who hasn't had this level of support.

You're a kn*b

If this is a genuine question, you are living in fairy land.

@Finchell Your post reads like one of those looney articles in the Telegraph about people on £100k salaries who claim to be financially struggling.

You have become completely disconnected from reality and it sounds like you live in your own world.

How can you be so tone deaf? I’ve been lucky to have a pretty comfortable life, and to help out my DC, but I’m certainly aware that very many people are not in that position.

I would consider you to be privileged. You have been given a substantial amount to get on the property ladder, you get thousands for Xmas and birthdays and your child is sorted for property.

you can hand on heart say you’ve done well and everything you have done is through your hard work and determination. Material things help of course but I would bet everything that you have a genuine heart of gold and the world would be a worse place without you. The OP lives in a dreamworld and the fact they do not think they are privileged makes me also think they are a ‘me me me’ person who is clueless about the world around them and probably not a nice person with their clear gloating on the issue.

hold your head high xx

Your posts are rather out of touch @Finchell. But I expect that most truly privileged people can’t recognise their own privilege.

FTR I have been completely financially independent since I was 21 years old. My husband and I have paid for everything, including the deposit and mortgage on our house. Neither my parents nor his were in a position to help us financially. And that is absolutely fine. I think our situation is typical, whereas yours is extremely privileged.

Maybe volunteer to help in a homeless shelter or a food bank

Crying here 😂

If you can’t see your privilege you’re an idiot

or this is a massive windup

There has been loads of these threads lately, im thinking its the same user under different names.

Volunteer at a food bank.

You stated "everyone I know had had financial support to buy a house". You said you only know one family who don’t have provisions to pass onto grand kids, either money or housing.

And you earn 71k, which is more than 96% of the entire population, or more than around 90% of the full time working population - but are claiming you are average . . . .

You genuinely sound bamboozled at other people's struggles where it is coming across as a bit offensive. Many people I know who would eventually get on the property ladder spent their 20s living with their parents in order to save for a deposit.
And as for the council housing, the situation is dire. Families being put in b&b's and hotels because there is no where available. Waiting lists for years. It's not as straightforward as "just go to the council".

I do think you have a very sheltered view of the world!

I do have quite a few friends who have had help with a deposit but it’s been 5-10k to rather than their whole deposit and apart from a couple of higher earners the rest that own homes have just stayed with their parents while they saved.
And plenty are stuck private renting because they’ve not been able to stay with parents and save but it’s very difficult to get a council house here unless you’re already homeless.

I know a couple of people who parents have helped them with their first car but it’s been the deposit on a second ford ka or toyota aygo or similar and even that I wouldn’t say is the norm.

Again I know loads of people that get money from their parents for birthdays and christmas but it’s around £50 or £100 if you’re lucky not in the thousands.

I will try to be balanced in this answer...

I was brought up in a fairly affluent suburb, parents paid my university and also afforded me a beautiful wedding and help for house deposit. I earn >100k and have a reasonably nice lifestyle.

That said, I have friends who earn minimum wage with no help, I have friends earning more than me with help I couldn’t even begin to fathom. I also read the newspaper and keep up with current affairs and so am HUGELY conscious of my privilege. I struggle to understand how you have so little understanding of others???