NC for this. I don't know if I am BU, prepared to be told I am.
Parents live about an hour away, once a week they pick up dc from school, bring them to my house, have a few hours with them, we all eat together then they go home. We never asked them to do this and don't rely on it as childcare.
I find these evenings very stressful as I come home to chaos, they've given the dc crap to eat, don't even try to encourage good behaviour, allow them to stand on the dining table, jump on the sofa etc, it's dangerous and ridiculous. I've talked to them about it a few times and nothing improves.
A few weeks ago I sent them a long message the next day explaining that the way they encourage the dc to behave can't go on, they wouldn't have let me climb on the table/ jump on the sofa etc, and can they please try to support my boundaries and parenting. Just received a thumbs up 😒. A few hours later my Dad emailed my son's sports club to say he'd no longer be helping out there, and that was it, we haven't spoken since.
I feel absolutely releived to have a break from them if I'm honest, but wonder if I should be reaching out. They are stubborn and we never speak again! WWYD?