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How would you deal with a jealous ‘D’SIL

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Easter266 · 05/04/2026 19:37

As above - today has been the final straw. A few past comments, but it was obvious she was making digs over lunch at my DNIL’s.

I have two DC with DH (her brother). They had Easter boxes - fairly tame compared to some of the stuff I’ve seen on Insta today. ‘D’SIL didn’t like my post, and I know she saw my story as she referenced the Easter egg hunt.

Anyway, she made pointed digs about Easter boxes and ‘showing off’, I just rolled my eyes at the time but now regret not saying anything.

Ive told DH that next time she makes a comment, I will not be so restrained.

DH says I need to keep quiet for his sake and to not make things awkward.

IMO - he needs to speak up and say something to her. He disagrees. AIBU?

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Hatty65 · 05/04/2026 20:16

I would have less of an issue with 'Easter Boxes' and 'Christmas Eve boxes' and shite like this if people did it and then did not post a photo of it on SM.

If you are doing it to make your kids happy why does it need to be photographed and posted for other people to see what you have done? The only reason imo to post this stuff is for 'likes' or for people to comment. If you are genuinely doing something fun for the kids why the need to display it to the world?

Screamingabdabz · 05/04/2026 20:10

What are Easter ‘boxes’? Were they full of unnecessary Chinese tat and masses of UHP and sugar? If so I’m team SIL. Model to your children about simple and environmentally sustainable treats. Less is more.

Brewtiful · 05/04/2026 20:07

You think she's jealous because she didn't like a picture you posted on social media... Confused

Statsquestion1 · 05/04/2026 20:04

Get rid of instagram…waste of time!

AyeDeadOn · 05/04/2026 20:04

21ZIGGY · 05/04/2026 19:55

Different values. Not better

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Imo likely better. You are free to disagree. The OP has clearly decided that anyone who thinks performing easter for Instagram is unhealthy for kids is just jealous. I am very not jealous of people who do this, but I do think they are teaching their kids to value the wrong things in life.

ShanghaiDiva · 05/04/2026 19:58

What do you suggest your dh says to her?
please like my wife’s posts?
please don’t make negative comments?
why create all this drama? Be an adult and ignore.

21ZIGGY · 05/04/2026 19:55

AyeDeadOn · 05/04/2026 19:42

Tame compared to insta...
Your SIL probably has different values to you. Perhaps she thinks you are spoiling your children or bringing them up to compare themselves to others on "insta", and is aware the impact this may have on their mental health when they are a bit older. Perhaps she has more sense than you and you should listen to her.

Different values. Not better

Trallala · 05/04/2026 19:49

Just block her on Instagram!

Blimms · 05/04/2026 19:49

She didn’t ‘like’ the photo you posted? So, you’re basically uploading photos to SM for likes. It’s very shallow and I would feel the same as your sil.

LoveMySushi · 05/04/2026 19:46

I think she is trying to get a rise out of you and she will be much more annoyed if you answer with something like “they are such wonderful kids, they just deserve the best” or “i just love seeing them so happy!”
That way your DH cant complain either because you didnt start an argument.

bagsandmags · 05/04/2026 19:46

Why would it be jealously? Why does she have to like your post? Maybe she just didn’t agree with it 🤷🏻‍♀️

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 05/04/2026 19:44

Can you cut back on extended family events? So just your kids, you and DH?

And can you post but make it invisible to her? I don’t know how instagram works really.

Shithotlawyer · 05/04/2026 19:44

People that hint can be ignored or laughed off. Don't give her the satisfaction.

Having said that, Easter boxes are a bit unnecessary but that's just my view and I'm sure it won't change your behaviour. We are all in the thrall of late capitalism one way or another.

springyla · 05/04/2026 19:43

I’ve never heard of an Easter box, what was in it?

AyeDeadOn · 05/04/2026 19:42

Tame compared to insta...
Your SIL probably has different values to you. Perhaps she thinks you are spoiling your children or bringing them up to compare themselves to others on "insta", and is aware the impact this may have on their mental health when they are a bit older. Perhaps she has more sense than you and you should listen to her.

dicentra365 · 05/04/2026 19:41

I can see that this would be annoying, but if she is that petty, I think she would probably like nothing more than to get a rise out of you. It would probably be in your best interests to be supremely unbothered/unaware of what she is getting at - don’t give her the satisfaction of knowing she has bothered you.

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