How would you deal with a jealous ‘D’SIL

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You’re as petty as one another and I’m not sure you’e not the worst. Who cares if she didn’t like your post it’s not mandatory and she’s allowed not to like Easter boxes, get over yourself.

It is completely. How different life would have been if we had got on. It’s very sad.

I'm torn op.. on one hand I totally empathise because its horrible when you know someone is making sly digs at your expense but you don't want to be seen to over react or they're doing it in a cute enough way that they could play it off if you react. It's infuriating.

But then equally I kind of think you're giving your power away by caring so much what she thinks. Because really that's what's happening here - she says something negative, you feel it on a personal level and it makes you feel judged and then you are bothered by that. But if you genuinely didn't care what she thought, you wouldn't be bothered. And what would happen then is you could calmly and respectfully agree to disagree with her. Eg. SIL: urgh Easter boxes are so ott who even does that. Your response could be to smile and say " ah Sharon we'll have to agree to disagree on that one, I think they're lovely to do for the kids but each to their own" change topic.

You know who she is and what she's like so just let her do her and nicely and politely hold your boundaries. If she's genuinely trying to get digs in then it's going to get very boring very fast for her if you genuinely don't give a shit what she thinks! And there's power in that. At no point does it need to be confrontational or awkward as long as you're consistent. My guess is its a bigger issue than it needs to be because you've been biting your tongue over so many little things it's built up. But nipping gently in the bud stops that from happening and you'll probably come away feeling better for it too.

How morbid, is THAT what you gave your kids OP.

A) Easter boxes are silly and unnecessary
B) you put it on social media which invites opinion, if you don't want that, don't post it.

She didn't need to bring it up, I wouldn't have done, but I would have silently judged you for being performatively naff.

And a Gourd, I think
’ follow the gourd’’

An Easter box contains a wooden cross (small replica), some bloodied nails, and a badge saying "Judas betrayed me".

I miss the days of MN when you could just start a thread asking people to discuss something without having to mock up some scenario for it.

Easter box? What’s that all about ?
why would you want to cause an issue between your husband and his brother?
baffled - it’s a social media nonsense non event
you’re being a Wally

Do you want your DH to tell his sister that she ought to like your Instagram posts? I think he's right to not make more drama at family events and if she's rude to you just stand up for yourself.

Jealous? Of what exactly? Does she have any kids? Maybe in future you just message photos of you indulging your ds to family members (excluding her since she is scornful).

THAT’S the final straw? That’s it?? A bitchy comment about Easter boxes? This is so trivial. Let it goooo! Let it gooo!

My SIL is also a twat, but for the sake of the family just don’t rise to it. I thought the final straw was going to be her flashing her tits and coming on to your grandad at the Easter Egg hunt, this is just a slight difference of opinion at a family gathering.

@Rainbowdottie

"Neither of us can be bothered to be unkind, it’s like we both know we’re being childish"

So sad, what a waste 😔

How are you old enough to be married and have children? From your post you sound like you’re about 10.

Are you a competitive person....be honest

Take step back and and breath .

This is small minded and nonsensical ,it will ruin the family atmosphere ...be the mature adult

Well, you are showing off, splashing it on instagram. And oh my god, who cares who likes your posts!! Grow up. You need bigger things to focus on if you need to be restrained from saying something about Easter boxes. Listen to your husband and don’t make a big deal out of nothing.

I’m very old. My SIL and I have hated each other for all my married life which is most of my adult life.

she’s been hurtful and awful to me and I’ve been awful and hurtful back.

tbh it hasn’t gotten either of us anywhere. I was always so hurt when I was young. Why didn’t she like me? What have I done that’s so awful? Why is she so rude to me?

Tbh it affected everyone around us. My husband at one point did get fed up with me bitching about her. That hurt too at the time. Looking back I can see how it upset my my mil and fil. Which I regret really looking back, they didn’t deserve the atmosphere, they were nice people.

men are simple characters. Ive said this only tonight on another post. They want and lead simple lives and everything else is just noise to them. Most women are far too emotional for their liking. I doubt your husband truly understands what is going on.

My SIL and I are now very old. We’re in a weird state of friendship. Neither of us can be bothered to be unkind, it’s like we both know we’re being childish, but we’re both so wary of each other. She speaks to me like I’m a corporate client, I’m always looking out for the sting in the tail so I just grey rock her, pass pleasantries, it’s all too much effort for me.

For a few years in recent years, my husband has passed comments that has made me think he’s finally seen it and understood it. He amazed me only the other day by stating she’s harmless. At his grand old age he still doesn’t see it. I can’t be bothered to tell him different. He’ll never get it.

so back to your situation. Block her from your socials. You don’t need to unfriend her. Personally I’d grey rock her and let everyone else, including your husband ( as hard as it is) how nice you are to her and what a butch she is to you!

I would much, much, much prefer a whole box of those penny sweet, gummy crocodiles over chocolate eggs/bunnies any day!

I guess I know what to do next year!

She sounds mean. It’s much nicer to say nothing at all if you don’t like something. You buy your kids what you want as one day of chocolate treats etc in a box isn’t hurting anyone.

I wouldn't have liked your post, because I just find stuff like that a bit empty.

Getting yourself wound up over something so petty is ridiculous.

What in god's green earth is an Easter box?

Well, she's right, you are showing off, that's the point of Instagram surely. Why do your children need Easter boxes, the world's resources used on plastic crap, how much do you children need to know you love them? Where does it end, all this consumerism.
She doesn't sound jealous to me, just sick of your Instagram bullshit.

If she says anything loaded or with contempt again - just keep asking “what do you mean? I don’t understand?”. Make ir super painful for her to wriggle out of.

Easter boxes are excessive show off bs