How would you deal with a jealous ‘D’SIL

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Sorry but this has got to be a windup posted keyboard warrior for

Imagine how much more peaceful life would be without social media.

D’SIL didn’t like my post

I genuinely read this as "SIL didn't enjoy my post" rather than "SIL didn't click like on my post" because who the fuck cares whether she clicks like or not?

It isn't clear why you think she's jealous? It's that leap of logic that makes me think YABU, along with asking DH to talk to her so she clicks like on your posts.

It sounds like you have normalised Insta performance parenting to such an extent you assume it's normal and desirable for everyone, everyone will "like," it and nobody sees anything weird about it. It's not normal and you should see it as your particular taste or interest rather than universal. It's okay to have a hobby but it sounds like it's become the equivalent of someone taking up running and expecting praise for every tiny metric, every hill they go up etc.

She shouldn't have criticised you, but for your sake I'd step away from Insta for a week or two and see if you feel a weight lifted.

You entitled to make and post about Easter boxes, she's entitled to express her opinion. Don't give the fire oxygen by caring or turning into some big thing. Easter is meant to be a celebration not a battlefield. Be the mirror you want the world to reflect.

To add...the reason I don't 'like' posts about Easter boxes etc, is not to make a point, it's because it feels disingenuous and that's not me. I always assume the poster won't notice either way so I scroll on.

I wouldn't be so arrogant as to put someone down in person over it. It's nothing to do with me. Do whatever you want.
Your sil does sound a bit shitty tbh. There's no need for her to comment like that.

I think you are getting a hard time op and I suspect it is the easter boxes as many do not like them.

Rather than soeaking out or dh saying something I would take a nonsense approach when she makes about easter boxes and showing off briskly state. "Well each to their own." Or " you do your way we will do ours" don't make it a thing but do make it clear you will comment if she comments. If she escalates pushing her agenda stick with. Like I said each to their own. We parent as we see fit and you can parent as you wish.

Honestly, if you are making easter boxes and posting them in social media expecting your whole family you like them or you get upset.. I would suggest you are the one with the problem!

I agree it's not jealousy. It's more likely just sneering, which is just nasty.

It doesn't sound like she's jealous from the original post. Jealous of what?

I strongly suspect the op and her sil dislike each other intently and the op is itching to have a go and cause some drama.

OP, DO NOG start drama over this! It’s not worth it. You’re being sensitive and she’s trying to get a rise out of you.
I suspect DIL and DBIL know I think their kids are spoiled and that I don’t agree with a lot of how they parent but the have no evidence! I keep my opinions to myself - and my face on neutral!

Yes this - simple.

@Easter266 Don’t drag your DH into this. It’s too minor to bring someone else into it and it won’t end well (for you, most likely) if you force your DH to pick a side.

Handle it yourself. Restrict Insta access and ignore digs.

One memorable Xmas together when their kids were teens and our 2 were around 8 the teens had so many presents they didn’t even open them all. They literally had new laptops each a new game console each, new games to go with them, clothes, jewelry, new trainers etc and just went ‘oh this is my Xbox? And put it to the side still wrapped’.
Me and DP swore we would never do this with our kids - so much stuff that they didn’t even open or play with or set up the new things they’d been given. Our kids main present that year was the trip to the US to see said cousins so they got littler things and were fine about it.

"Anyway, she made pointed digs about Easter boxes and ‘showing off’, I just rolled my eyes at the time but now regret not saying anything."

Have to say, I wouldn't do that. As much as I am cynical and sour, I do recognise that others may do as they please. I don't set the bar. I might not 'like' your Easter box post but I wouldn't be the prick that wants to put you down either.

Your SIL is allowed to disagree with your parenting style. You are allowed to dislike her expressing her opinions. You are even allowed to dislike each other.

if you rise to her digs it will cause an argument and it won't change anytthing for the better so I agree with your DH - just ignore her. Rise above it, not just for his sake but for the sake of your in-laws and your children. Show your children that disagreeing with another person needn't cause conflict.

My kids asked why we don’t do the when Suzie and Billy get $300 headphones at Easter and I just said that we don’t and that they have enough stuff for birthdays and Xmas and that they’d have to just have Eggs. They were fine about it! Even at 8 they could see that it was over the top. Their cousins are SPOILED and it’s not made them particularly nice people TBH.

I would "deal with" anyone I didn't like, and who didn't like me, in the same way. Decrease social contact as much as possible (both online and off) and be civil but no more on the occasions I did have to see them. I would get over the fact that they don't like me and ignore any digs, because there's no reason to care what she thinks of you. You know she doesn't like you so you don't need to take fresh offence every time she reveals that. Move on.

It is ridiculous to ask your husband to involve himself in this at all. This isn't a drama and doesn't need to be a drama so don't make it a drama.

Ah thank you. I see! Glad my children are too old for that as it sounds unnecessarily time consuming. A Mini Eggs easter egg does them just fine and they should think themselves lucky.

Block her on instagram and problem solved.

My SIL does these. It’s a gift box full of treats like chocolate, cuddly toys, Easter themed gifts though ring American they also put AirPods in one year. Eye roll from us as the last thing her kids need is more stuff, but theirs kids, their money and their choice.

I wouldn’t give it the air. You aren’t going to change her mind. I don’t particularly like SIL and therefore don’t value her opinion on anything! We get along fine, just doing things our own way and not paying much attention.
if you really want to get in her goat, say nowt.

OP please can you put everyone out of their misery and reveal what an "Easter box" is?

I don’t think she is jealous. There is too quick an assumption made that if someone is critical it is because they are jealous. It sounds like she thinks Easter boxes and Instagram sharing of them is stupid. I’m afraid I do too, and I suspect many would agree.

I wouldn’t say anything (out loud) if my sister-in-law or anyone I knew did it, so perhaps she isn’t very polite for not keeping it in, but if you are comfortable with your choices, I think it’s fine to say that to her as you are reacting to her comments and you don’t need to hold your tongue. You probably shouldn’t suggest it is jealousy though, because it is unlikely to be that and that might make things blow up unnecessarily.

Then she wasn't impressed by your Easter boxes, whatever they are. And so what?

Personally I hate the lavish show-offery that Easter and other occasions have become. I don't enthuse about it either.

You want praise for being a consumer. Sorry to be blunt.