Are most kids like this?

What about implementing a bored jar? Have heard of it working well. Get a load of lollipop sticks and write (together with DC or on your own) a mix of chores and nice things on there. You have to be willing to carry out the nice things there and then if they require parental involvement.

Examples

• clean your bedroom
• bake together
• vacuum the stairs
• paint a picture
• clean out the fish
• go to the garden centre, buy a new plant and plant it together
• learn a new skill of your choice (how to use a sewing machine, how to drill a hole). This one was always very popular!
• fold the laundry
• Wash the windows
• Practice instrument
• Empty the draining board
• Mop a floor
• play a board game together
• go to the library

If they say they're bored you ask them if they'd like to take something from the jar or find something to do for themselves. If they take something from the jar they have to do it or pay a penalty for not doing it (this could be a chore or put £2 in the family fun fund). Good way to suss out how bored they are. Are they willing to risk being told to tidy their room? Also mostly if they pick out a chore stick they disappear quietly for a good amount of time regardless so it's a win win from a parenting perspective as either way the whining stops and it isn't your responsibility.

Could she also be overstimulated?

She seems so busy, that when the days are less active it send her into a boredom.

If she’s an only child that could play a role. My DD was an only at that age and I remember her always wanting me to play with her. But at the same time if she’s was bored I’d either find something we can both do, or she can play with her toys while I’m also in the room doing something else so she has the company, or get her into something that she can do alone at home like a craft or a sport.

That is a hard age in once sense as when I look at my friends kids that age I remember how much they want to play.

I was just going to say this. Only ever once moaned that I was bored and my Mum gave me a duster! Never did it again! 🤣

At that age, I was outside all day every day until dinner time with neighbourhood kids. Not structured play dates. Obviously that's a thing of the 90s, and not the done thing anymore. Not sure if the solution but I don't think it's a surprise, she has a ton of energy and brain power and what's to go out.

Find her a sport or a hobby.

You have to parent the child you have, not the one you think they ought to be.

My dc are all different from each other.
One could happily occupy herself from quite a young age.
One would rarely settle to anything. They also had to go out every day and spend a good couple of hours running about or swimming or hiking to give them 1/2 a chance of being able to regulate themselves later.
The third one always had 2 others to play with, which makes life easier.

It might help if you have more 'fixed boundaries' about how much computer time (for example) she is allowed, so she knows that 'when it's gone, it's gone' rather than knowing if she pesters you enough, you might let her ?

But mine did understand that if they were bored, I could always offer them some jobs to do around the house. They tend to learn pretty quickly not to tell you they are bored, if that ends up washing up or tidying a toy box out.

So if she just goes on and on and on, can't you either ignore her, go somewhere else or take yourself off?
If she gets angry just leave the room?

I'm old enough and grew up somewhere where there was a gang of friends and cousins at our disposal at all times...

Also plenty of boring car journeys.

When I was a child, if I said I was bored, I was handed a bottle of flash and some marigolds. I soon learned to never show any sign of boredom.

I am a bit old school but I would gather up all the toys and do a 'reset' as somebody said. She probably has too much stuff and cant pick out one thing to do. Streamline what she has and tell her to play with the toy, draw or read as long as she occupies herself and that she wont be getting any device time until she can consistently prove over time that she can occupy herself.

I suspect my 10 year old son has 'something' and my husband started a kind of 'learn to be bored' digital detox on him, gave him chores, a homework schedule and nightly instrument practise (he also does sport 3 times a week). When he has done those things he can read, write or draw but he is not to make himself a nuisance and the longer he moans or plays up, the longer we keep the device.

It worked and he became a much nicer person, at home and at school. We are now extending it to his 8 year old sibling who has started slipping into these habits.

When they get like this they are crying out to have all of their stimulants stripped way back or removed, device to be removed and to have some structure. Expect crying to begin with but dont budge. I do not want whingeing, entitled teenagers and am doing my best to mitigate it. It may well happen anyway but not for my lack of trying.

I also feel a bit sorry for kids these days- if we were bored we called for a friend and played out. They're stuck with us for entertainment and we have to do adult things.
im not sure if this is entirely true. Sure, we could call on a friend, but often they’d be not in and you’d be sent home again. But I do remember things like 5 hour car journeys where your only entertainment was watching the raindrops race down the window.

My DD can be like this, audiobooks are the solution. She needs to always have an audiobook on the go while she is drawing, building etc.

No mine is def not like that. She is constantly crafting and making things or reading etc. she takes very little entertainment. Get your daughter to look on YouTube and find crafts she would like to try. Mine lives making masks and anything paper mache

I think that these days, parents feel pressure to be occupying their children all the time, whether it’s clubs, activities, play dates, days out etc etc. And the result is that they don’t know how to occupy themselves. And this isn’t a criticism btw - I know lots of parents who do this and worry about their children getting bored. But I think being bored can be a good thing - it allows children the opportunity to be creative, think for themselves etc. I know I could easily fall into this trap but due to having a baby, I can’t occupy my older DC all the time so they need to occupy themselves!

DD9 can be like this. She is dyslexic and we think possibly has ADHD as well (her sister is autistic and is never like this and will happily special interest on something for hours). The dyslexia has made it particularly difficult because she finds it hard to access things that are written e.g. comics, books, anything with instructions (although this has improved lately).

She has loads of hobbies and clubs because it cuts down the whining. I really want her to be able to occupy herself but she is so so bad at it. One thing that works a bit is sitting down and doing 10 minutes of the thing with her and then withdrawing- e.g. a craft or painting. I also feel a bit sorry for kids these days- if we were bored we called for a friend and played out. They're stuck with us for entertainment and we have to do adult things.

Do we have the same 8 year old!? You have my sympathy

Same. Being bored resulted in chores to do

You could be describing me at her age.
I was very content to sit and colour or play independently until about her age and since then I’ve needed and still do need a lot of physical activity or my mind just races. I struggle if I have too many options a lot of the time too.

I would say have a good declutter and cut down on the amount of toys and things she has so picking something to do herself doesn’t feel so overwhelming.

People suggesting giving her jobs to do might not be massively off the mark too. My dad very quickly started enlisting me in helping with the garden and other jobs around the house whenever I started complaining about being bored and I ended up really enjoying it.
Even now as adult I usually find a good heavy job in the garden or if I’m having a particularly restless day.

I find this unacceptable op. Tough if she gets angry/upset; that’s on her to sort out. You have needs too. She’s 8. If you need space, tell her no, go somewhere and lock the door, and put noise cancelling headphones phones on. Tell her when you’ve had 2 hours of peace, you will do whatever she wants, but you won’t if you don’t get your 2 hours first.
I know all kids are different, but if memory serves I chanted ‘play, chore, me time’ very early on, I think when my girls were around 2yo. I would play with them, like set up a train track, then wash up or whatever, then have a cup of tea or whatever. They actually quite liked to see me with my tea as it meant it was their turn next.

Unfortunately this is the result of modern parenting where it seems children must be entertained all the time. Boredom as a young child is actually helpful as it teaches the ability to entertain ourselves and also resilience. You are the parent you need to set firm boundaries about the amount of entertaining you are prepared to do and the limits of whinging you are prepared to accept. You don’t have to be the entertainments committee 24 x 7 your DC needs to learn how to entertain herself using the large amount of resources you have provided - adhd / ASD or similar is not a get out clause. Set boundaries , it will be tough at first but they will get the hang of it

Is she an only child?

It sounds like she is lonely. Can you arrange playdates, or play with her more? It's normal that children this age want to have company for play.

As mentioned by @PottingBench our mum used to say there was plenty of cleaning to do if we were bored and we’d said it to our eldest who is five. He occupies himself after being given lots of jobs he’s wasn’t very interested in, could you try this

DD10 is similar at times, it drives me mad.

We take her out, do activities etc but I’m also very firm in telling her she needs to entertain herself. Sometimes we have stuff to do or need a break.

I might reel off a few suggestions to get her thinking then tell her very firmly that I won’t tolerate listening to her whinge so she needs to choose something to do and keep herself busy.

I have twins, one is excellent at entertaining herself and not bothered with screens or devices – though does like a film. The other constantly complains of being bored and can’t seem to do anything without a companion. I’d say they only get along well enough to play together once a fortnight.