Can't your mum help ?

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Alltgetreesarebrown23 · 05/04/2026 13:07

aibu to ask people please not to casually say 'can't your mum help out' or 'go stay with your mum' when women have problems, usually with babies and partners. Not everyone has a living mum, a healthy mum, a mum in the same country etc. And if it was that simple, chances are the OP would have done it! We don't all have the same lives

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VoltaireMittyDream · 05/04/2026 13:15

I think you’d be amazed by how many people fundamentally don’t understand that their experience is not universal.

I work in workplace mental health and have supported thousands of people over the years, and it is fascinating how many people casually assume that everyone has their life set-up, or that everyone thinks like they do, or that everyone believes and values the same things.

LadyKenya · 05/04/2026 13:14

youalright · 05/04/2026 13:08

I think most people say have you got a mum, family or friends who can help. I think people are fully aware not everyone has family

Why ask though, do those posters asking that question honestly think that the OP would not have thought to ask them, if they could, before asking a bunch of strangers on the net?

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Alltgetreesarebrown23 · 05/04/2026 13:11

It's literally on a thread today, I just didn't want to derail it

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youalright · 05/04/2026 13:08

I think most people say have you got a mum, family or friends who can help. I think people are fully aware not everyone has family

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