AIBU for blowing out my nephew’s birthday candles as a joke

Sneering at a birthday party as "organised fun" is the sort of thing a thirteen-year-old would do. And blowing out a six-year-old's candles, and then complaining that his mum "had a strop" and relit them for him, and then saying you won't go his next birthday party... frankly, that sounds like the sort of thing a four-year-old would do.

Exactly.

@AliceNotInChains

What relevance are your health issues to you blowing out your nephew's birthday cake candles? Your health issues are nothing to do with this, so why on earth would anyone mention this?

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So because you've been told to get back in your box you're going to refuse to go to your nephew's next birthday party? Who's the six year old here?

What an attention seeking, twatty, selfish and mean think to do. Not even remotely funny

Not every event has to be all about you OP. To steal a 6 year old child's moment is awful.

I mean a parent normally helps blow a child candles out if they are struggling but realising which poster this is why do you bother spending with her. You clearly don’t like your sister.

Im on your sisters side though.

You want a personal toilet only use that toilet. Don’t blow out other people’s candles unless your own child requiring help.

i blow my son’s candles out but he can’t blow them out himself. I always give him a chance to blow himself but he just can’t do it. I wouldn’t blow another child’s candles out.

Omg 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I’m watching that one too!

Let me guess - it's only a fucking biscuit 😂😂

Just out of curiosity OP, what are your thoughts on eating biscuits on the shop floor as an employee. Yay or nay?

I think maybe your sister is still pissed with you over the toilet issue and finds you a little hard work.

You insist that you must have your own toilet, therefore getting the ensuite which traditionally will be the nicer of the bedroom options (and no doubt not paying extra for the privilege). You then insist that no one can use that toilet however you can use any bathroom you wish.

Not a huge issue in the scheme of things but I get the impression that you bandy your medical issue like a badge - so people are playing you at your own game. You absolutely HAVE to have your ensuite, so they think "fair enough, we have given in.Use your bloody ensuite and leave our bathroom alone". But that's not acceptable to you - you can dictate terms but others can't.

So, your nephew is the centre of attention, it's his birthday party and his cake. Along you come and jump into his limelight. Again, not a huge issue in the scheme of things but I would imagine, to your sister its just another example of you making sure that you are the one seen and/or heard and maybe she just finds that rather tiresome?

I imagine there are many other incidences of this behaviour.

"Organised fun"? OP it's pretty standard to have a cake with candles for a child to blow out on their birthday, there's nothing weird or excessive about that.

You shouldn't have blown them out, but since your nephew didn't mind your sister did also overreact a bit by making a fuss. Maybe if you have form for making things about yourself she's just had enough though.

Can someone please link the 'toilet thread'
Sounds like it could be an interesting read!

I do think it’s interesting that you didn’t want to be there but somehow made it right in front of the cake at the most important moment of the party…

Have you always been this impatient and entitled? Are you OK?

And I'm sure his mum's are too.....

In what way was it supposed to be a joke? You must have a strange sense of humour to muscle in on a 6-year old’s birthday moment.

You shouldn't have done that but I'm sure nobody thought you meant harm, it was just an instant reaction. Your sister has gone OTT about it. We all make mistakes.

Try to leave it behind now and enjoy the day. She'll get over it.

Imagine having MCS to the degree that you would do this at a child's birthday. Complete dick move. I hope your threads are made up because your entitled attitude is embarrassing.

Wow, you sound like you have some issues! Stupid thing to do. You sound like you want everything to revolve around you, and yes I did see your other thread about the toilet. Yes you have a health problem but you also seem to have a “main character energy” problem. Grow up and stop being such a silly arse.

@Mrspenguinsschoolforfreaks well, you're not a child, are you? It's a special moment for a kid. But even if it wasn't, no need for an adult to be barging in and taking over.

What a mean thing to do. Do you struggle when the attention is on people other than you?

"Organised fun" is what a six-year-old's birthday celebration should be, really, isn't it?

Unless your health condition causes spontaneous and uncontrollable puffs of air to erupt from your mouth in the vicinity of candles, it’s irrelevant 🙄

You were trying to wind your sister up and it’s backfired. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

Are you 6 years old?

I dont think you should have jumped into the limelight and taken over from your nephew. However you're insisting that you were "being helpful and nephew didn't mind" and that you did nothing wrong

And yet you started a thread about it .....I'm not sure you're capable of seeing yourself as others do

HTH