Page 4 | AIBU for blowing out my nephew’s birthday candles as a joke

HitMePlease34 · 06/04/2026 18:44

SENcatsandfish · 06/04/2026 18:38

These threads are always funny. OP asks AIBU? Nearly everyone says YABI. And the OP comes back with "no I'm not"

Exactly, why ask if you don't want people to have a different opinion than your own?

SENcatsandfish · 06/04/2026 18:38

These threads are always funny. OP asks AIBU? Nearly everyone says YABI. And the OP comes back with "no I'm not"

HitMePlease34 · 06/04/2026 18:38

Hilarious. 🫩

WonderingWanda · 06/04/2026 18:27

I don't really get why this would be a joke?

NovemberMorn · 06/04/2026 18:27

AJLOAL · 06/04/2026 18:18

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You implied the OP had a mental illness, can you imagine if she did, how all the vitriol in this thread would make her feel?
Calling people names whilst hiding behind your keyboard doesn't make you clever....it makes you a coward, well done.

JennyBG · 06/04/2026 18:20

AliceNotInChains · 05/04/2026 12:34

My nephews 6th birthday party yesterday. He was struggling to blow all the candles out so I jokingly blew the remaining ones out for him. My sister went on a full on strop over it saying I ruined his moment. AIBU to think she’s completely over reacting?? She ended up relighting the candles for him to “have another go” making it a much bigger deal than it needed to be.

How old are you…7?
What a childish, nasty, 'me me me', thing to do!!
Grow up. And apologise!!

Futuremrsdyer · 06/04/2026 18:20

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AJLOAL · 06/04/2026 18:18

NovemberMorn · 06/04/2026 18:03

This thread is nasty.

Not the OP, who said at the beginning she wouldn't do it again, and agreed with me ages ago that she had made a faux pas,
Nope, the nastiness has come from the pile-on she has had to read over the last day, being called all the horrible names under the sun.

You would think she had eaten her nephew, not helped him blow his bloody candles out.🙄
Some of the bullies on here really need to get a life.

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Buckfastburps · 06/04/2026 18:10

What kind of idiot does this to a kid on their birthday?!

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This thread is nasty.

Not the OP, who said at the beginning she wouldn't do it again, and agreed with me ages ago that she had made a faux pas,
Nope, the nastiness has come from the pile-on she has had to read over the last day, being called all the horrible names under the sun.

You would think she had eaten her nephew, not helped him blow his bloody candles out.🙄
Some of the bullies on here really need to get a life.

HereWeGo1234 · 06/04/2026 18:01

I don’t see where the joke is. I wonder are you trying to downplay what you did by using the word ‘jokingly’…?

Hopefully your grovelling apology and promise to never to do it again will suffice.

Endorewitch · 06/04/2026 17:59

AliceNotInChains · 05/04/2026 12:39

Just to add nephew wasn’t even bothered, he laughed

Did he really laugh?Or are you feeling guilty and making excuses?If he laughed ,his Mum wouldnt have been annoyed.
Such a thoughtless thing to do. Not funny.

southcoastsammy · 06/04/2026 17:59

So OP, you got the attention at a child’s birthday party, now what?

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BeddysMum · 06/04/2026 17:54

Not cool. He is six years old. That wasn't a "joke" that was mean. Shame on you! You should know better
These things are important to children!

LilyBunch25 · 06/04/2026 17:32

Get the feeling that OP may not be returning.

Jackiepumpkinhead · 06/04/2026 17:31

AliceNotInChains · 05/04/2026 13:39

How ridiculous, funny how nobody who has mentioned the toilet thread have bothered to also mention that I have health issues

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You have IBS, extremely common, not some life limiting bowel disease. I too have IBS. You were a twit.

StormGazing · 06/04/2026 17:30

It’s a dickish thing to do, think your other responses are very
combative too … I think it’s best you grow up a bit

SaintHildegard · 06/04/2026 17:10

ThatCyanCat · 06/04/2026 16:13

And if you don't, it's your fault for not keeping the peace when they make a scene as a result.

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“Why CAnT YOu TaKE a JoKe??”. Ugh.

Tryagain26 · 06/04/2026 17:10

Of course you were unreasonable, how on earth could you think that was a joke?
I had to keep reminding my 9 year old GS to let his 7 year old sister finish blowing out her own birthday candles but I wouldn't expect to have to tell an adult!

MargaretThursday · 06/04/2026 16:55

SaintHildegard · 06/04/2026 15:02

Yes, agree with this. I’ve known families with difficult members that they’re supposed to just tolerate because “You know what they’re like, don’t cause a scene”. OP sounds exactly like one of those people: bullies, essentially, who expect everyone else to kowtow to them, and laugh along at their various cruelties.

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Agree. We have someone in the family like this. When they say something everyone sighs but if anyone objects then everyone just says " oh that's just M". They have to be the centre of attention, make "witty (read unkind) comments etc. They would think blowing out their nephew's candles on their cake the height of them being funny and that everyone would be saying how wonderful they are.

I've come across recently a few people (independently) who have worked with them. They are described as a bully, who continues being "funny" after they've been told that they're upsetting people. And still people say "oh that's just M".

I always think that they'd be a far nicer person if they'd been told forcibly as a small child that they weren't funny and to let others speak too. Because the way they behave is an attention seeking toddler who doesn't understand how their behaviour is inappropriate.
They think that everyone is envying them...

ThatCyanCat · 06/04/2026 16:13

SaintHildegard · 06/04/2026 15:02

Yes, agree with this. I’ve known families with difficult members that they’re supposed to just tolerate because “You know what they’re like, don’t cause a scene”. OP sounds exactly like one of those people: bullies, essentially, who expect everyone else to kowtow to them, and laugh along at their various cruelties.

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And if you don't, it's your fault for not keeping the peace when they make a scene as a result.

SaintHildegard · 06/04/2026 15:02

AntiqueBabyLoanSmurf · 06/04/2026 13:27

I have no evidence for this other than my readings of what OP has said herself in her threads; but I do wonder whether she is a 'known quantity' and the whole family are used to 'putting on a brave face' at whatever she might do next.

For those of us old enough to remember Some Mothers Do 'Ave 'Em, Betty frequently had an awkward strained smile and laughed nervously at discovering what new caper Frank might have got up to... I really don't think she was guffawing along at what a smashing hilarious joke it all was.

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Yes, agree with this. I’ve known families with difficult members that they’re supposed to just tolerate because “You know what they’re like, don’t cause a scene”. OP sounds exactly like one of those people: bullies, essentially, who expect everyone else to kowtow to them, and laugh along at their various cruelties.

rainbowstardrops · 06/04/2026 14:50

I remember the en-suite down the spooky corridor thread. That was bonkers.
You’re either a wind up merchant and enjoy laughing at MN posters getting whipped up, or you’re a bit of a dick and can’t see when you’re being totally unreasonable.
I hope it’s the former because otherwise, your family must be absolutely exasperated with you.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 06/04/2026 14:12

It’s funny how OP now claims it was part of a game because people pointed out that blowing out candles isnt like tying shoelaces - it isn’t something that children need help with.