AIBU to want a friend to stop dropping by unannounced?

YABU. You need to tell him! Woman the hell up and say it’s not ok!

Then he just walks in HOW???

So he jumped over a locked gate then just walks in? Do you mean into your home? Do you not have a front door lock?

Is it a cultural norm in the country you are in? I know this divides mumnetters but I would absolutely hate it. You've already asked him to text, yet he jumps over your locked gate and has no boundaries.

Lock you door and when he next arrives, don't open it. Talk through the door and explain once again, its not a good time and he should text beforehand! Go back inside and ignore! TBH- I wouldn't be bothered if I'd never heard from someone so rude, entitled and oblivious.

‘Mate. You need to message before you come over. It’s not always convenient’.
Then if he doesn't, have a word.

We have asked him to text first but he doesn’t. So we started locking the front gate. He started jumping over it. Then he just walks in. Then he will just stay for ages.

He ignores your boundaries. He hops the gate. Talk about fucking rude. I'd tell him the gate is locked for a reason, that would be him and to get stepping and he'd better wait for an invite next time. Don't let this asshole stay when he hasn't been invited and trespasses. Jerk.

He jumps over your locked gate?

This man has no manners. Or awareness.

You need to booby-trap the gate.

Oh lord, even our adult DC (who have keys) always text first if they're ‘popping round’ for any reason.

We do the same for them.

No-one wants to be ‘surprised’ like that just in case they’re doing something that deserves privacy, which can be anything from having a shower to intense personal conversation to shagging.

Too bad if he is devastated if you tell him. You tried the polite approach, now you have to be blunt and turn him away if he didn’t text first.

It's good to have friends

But they do need to respect your boundaries. You've asked him to text. And jumping over the garden gate is just rude

Have a word with him. It doesn't have to end the friendship!