Page 3 | Adult daughter cannot have an Easter egg because she needs to lose weight.

Motheroffive999 · 2026-04-03T17:28:59+00:00

Daughters mother in law bought Easter eggs for her son and each of the children , but not for my daughter, because she needs to lose weight. Her mother in law told the oldest Grandchild this in confidence , who then told me. My daughter is not overweight by much , maybe a stone. I am absolutely fuming . Should I say something ?

Mogbiscuit · 04/04/2026 18:40

What a nasty thing to say,, and in no way helpful. People don't change their diet at Easter because they have not been officially given an easter egg.

Anne635 · 04/04/2026 18:40

I think you should just see to it that she gets an Easter egg and a nice one too.

TheChosenTwo · 04/04/2026 18:36

Poppyfie1ds · 04/04/2026 18:27

I can’t believe all the people saying stay out of it??! WTF is wrong with people?

We all need to speak up when someone we love is on the receiving end of bad behaviour. DD needs to see that you support her to the hilt and mother-in-law needs to reflect on her passive-aggressive body shaming, it’s not okay on any level.

I think the issue here is taking a child’s word as gospel without any other information or context.
so no I would go mouthing off to the mil or bitching to the sil without full facts if I was invested enough to want to know more.
it’s pretty silly to go in all guns blazing without 2 sides of the story. Especially over something as petty as an Easter egg got an adult!

JoBrandsCleaner · 04/04/2026 18:35

I’m not for the ‘body positivity’ movement tbh. I think if someone is overweight they should stop eating crap like chocolate, cake, biscuits etc
People seem to accept their extra weight as part of them, that’s why they get all upset when people mention it instead of thinking to just get rid of it

Sunburstclocklover · 04/04/2026 18:33

AgnesMcDoo · 03/04/2026 18:30

MIL is rude. But stay out of it. Not your battle. It’s your adult daughter’s battle.

If someone did that to one of my adult daughters they would have their "heid in their hauns tae play wi"! What a nasty sneaky mare for saying that to a child as well. Not interfere? I'd got nuclear!

HappyNannie · 04/04/2026 18:30

Mean girl behaviour, take your grandkids out to the shop and buy the biggest egg you can afford teach them that no-one should be left out especially their beautiful mum xx

Poppyfie1ds · 04/04/2026 18:27

I can’t believe all the people saying stay out of it??! WTF is wrong with people?

We all need to speak up when someone we love is on the receiving end of bad behaviour. DD needs to see that you support her to the hilt and mother-in-law needs to reflect on her passive-aggressive body shaming, it’s not okay on any level.

Scruffysquirrels · 04/04/2026 18:09

Of course you can't wade in, but I'd also be wary about what you've heard. It's entirely possible your DD has told MIL she "can't" have chocolate because she wants to lose weight and that MIL is trying to comply woth her wishes.

MILs of DILs can never win, and I'd imagine it's even harder when the DIL's mother is prone to sticking her oar in.

Mijoed · 04/04/2026 18:05

Overweight or not, Easter is a special occasion for kids and an easter egg at Easter is a one-off.

Jools67 · 04/04/2026 18:03

What a nasty woman

Sennelier1 · 04/04/2026 17:56

It's very rude for that MiL to decide for your daughter if she can have an easter egg or not. I think that if your daughter thinks she needs to lose some weight, she is strong enough to not eat that easter egg and f.i. share it with her children? Glad her husband will talk to his mother.

DearDenimEagle · 04/04/2026 17:48

Isittimeformynapyet · 03/04/2026 19:21

Fuck. You know how to turn something into a feud don't you!

And what if the daughter asked her MIL not to get her an egg? Best to find out first, surely.

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Then wouldn’t she have told her mother not get her an egg, too?

Mummyof32023 · 04/04/2026 17:46

Absoutely. Nasty mother in law.

Changednameagain999 · 04/04/2026 11:46

BiscoffCheesecakes · 04/04/2026 07:47

Fair enough. I hope you didn't rise to the bait. Some people just love attention

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I didn't say a word but the kids were very vocal when they realised lol .....

UniquePinkSwan · 04/04/2026 08:57

MustWeDoThis · 03/04/2026 22:27

Take the b*tch to the cleaners. Don't enable her to get away with that. It's narcissistic behaviour around the children, manipulative, and causes risky eating behaviours. Your daughter also needs to be told. No way would I let this woman anywhere near my children again.

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Ffs. Any excuse to go no contact with the MIL on here

estrabet · 04/04/2026 08:15

user7463246787 · 04/04/2026 08:00

When our kids started school many years ago, the headmasters speech - (and I heard it two years running)was along the lines of “if you only believe half of what your children tell you about us, we will only believe half of what they tell us about you!)
The point being you can’t entirely trust the kid has got the right end of the stick if you wern't there to hear the conversation. Quite likely that your DD is fed up of people sabotaging her diet and has asked for no junk food.

That must be a long time ago as it would be a safeguarding flag if her teachers said this now.

Elektra1 · 04/04/2026 08:04

What a rude bitch! I bet that’s the tip of the iceberg of her poor behaviour too.

user7463246787 · 04/04/2026 08:00

When our kids started school many years ago, the headmasters speech - (and I heard it two years running)was along the lines of “if you only believe half of what your children tell you about us, we will only believe half of what they tell us about you!)
The point being you can’t entirely trust the kid has got the right end of the stick if you wern't there to hear the conversation. Quite likely that your DD is fed up of people sabotaging her diet and has asked for no junk food.

BiscoffCheesecakes · 04/04/2026 07:47

Changednameagain999 · 03/04/2026 21:01

Kids and her son. Basically everyone but me. I didn’t notice until the kids pointed it out and yes, i didn’t want an egg!

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Fair enough. I hope you didn't rise to the bait. Some people just love attention

BiscoffCheesecakes · 04/04/2026 07:41

SheSaidHummingbird · 04/04/2026 05:40

@Motheroffive999 My children all adults always get an egg ,a tradition that my late mother started and I continued

Thank you for starting this tradition. I had previously believed this to be of early 19th century origin, but I stand corrected.

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Brilliant 🤣

estrabet · 04/04/2026 06:01

VividPinkTraybake · 03/04/2026 22:45

What a great first sentence. What an unhelpful second one

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why? revenge is best served cold.

SheSaidHummingbird · 04/04/2026 05:40

Motheroffive999 · 03/04/2026 18:46

My children all adults always get an egg ,a tradition that my late mother started and I continued, they also have advent calendars too , I know that's a bit over the top , but work colleagues complain to their parents if they don't get one of those , so I obviously do that too.
My boss gives out Easter eggs to staff.
I think it is a nice treat.

@Motheroffive999 My children all adults always get an egg ,a tradition that my late mother started and I continued

Thank you for starting this tradition. I had previously believed this to be of early 19th century origin, but I stand corrected.

gostickyourheadinapig · 04/04/2026 05:07

Callmebubblesdarlingeverybodydoes · 03/04/2026 21:17

I have a very short fuse and absolutely no filter so I’d be giving her an absolute earful and not giving a shit about any future relationship.

Are you a real person or have you escaped from an ITV soap opera?

Dontlletmedownbruce · 03/04/2026 23:46

This possibly relates to a private conversation between Dd and MIL. You don't know how it went. Maybe DD said she is desperate to lose weight but her family keep sabotaging her efforts and buying her junk food and telling her she is fine as she is. Or maybe this is all on MIL, you don't know. Either way don't get involved but it might be worth trying to figure out where this all came from. So you can support DD in future.

Fwiw my MIL on occasion would offer the kids a biscuit then quickly move the box away and put the lid on before I could take one. It only happened a few times but I became convinced it was because she believed I need to lose weight. She wasn't wrong. It annoyed me but I'd be absolutely furious if my mum or dh had gone in all guns blazing making a thing of it. She's entitled to her opinion, you are all entitled to disagree with it. No need to act like you are on Eastenders.

Hohumitsreallyallthereis · 03/04/2026 23:38

You know your daughter and son in law have it in hand. Why on earth would you get involved?