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Would you follow this rule?

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Knickerbockergrolia · 03/04/2026 11:44

Staying at a holiday house, the rules mention 'no food or drink to be taken upstairs' - would you follow it?

YABU - I'm on holiday, I'm having a cup of tea in bed and I'm old enough not to make a mess

YANBU - rules are rules, I'll do as I'm told

OP posts:
RappelChoan · 03/04/2026 13:18

Like fuck would I.

What kind of holiday doesn’t include coffee in bed in the morning.

AgeingBanana · 03/04/2026 13:17

Poppinjay · 03/04/2026 12:12

If the rule was communicated pre-booking, it's on me and I would follow it.

If the rule was only communicated once we had arrived, I'd follow it if it wasn't too disruptive.

We once arrived at a dog-friendly cottage to find a sign that said no dogs upstairs. That would have been a deal breaker if we'd known at booking because one of our party has an assistance dog that they need in the same room. The dog slept in the bedroom and we vacuumed carefully before leaving.

We had the same once, except the house was “upside down” with the lounge/kitchen upstairs so was essentially saying no dogs in the living areas. And there was an extra rule about dogs in the bedrooms too. No way we’d have booked such a house if it was clear before! So we ignored them and don’t feel bad about it.

BIossomtoes · 03/04/2026 13:16

Hobnobswantshernameback · 03/04/2026 13:13

Yet another one post bitch plop and run op

The first post was two hours ago. 🤷‍♀️

youbizarrehorse · 03/04/2026 13:16

I would absolutely follow the rule. It’s not your house. If you had to have a cup of tea in bed so badly, you should have made it a priority and found someone who was ok with that. I’m an adult too and I have spilt plenty of food and drink over the years. Accidents happen and there’s no way of knowing when or how. That’s why they’re accidents. Nobody deliberately spills a cup of tea on the upholstery or carpet. FFS wise up🙄

hazelberry · 03/04/2026 13:14

I wouldn't follow the no drinks upstairs rule.

Hobnobswantshernameback · 03/04/2026 13:13

Yet another one post bitch plop and run op

ItsNotMeEither · 03/04/2026 13:12

I'm on the fence. Tea and toast for me, I'd break the rule.

Kids, I'd tell them no food upstairs, but I would allow them water by the bed.

PuzzledObserver · 03/04/2026 13:11

It wouldn’t occur to me to take food or drink upstairs in holiday accommodation, because I don’t do it at home.

weirdoboelady · 03/04/2026 13:10

Rule advised when booking, or rule which came as a surprise on arrival?

If a, then yes - I signed up for this.
If b - you have to be fucking joking!

AirborneElephant · 03/04/2026 13:09

No, of course not. I have a water by my bed at night and a coffee in bed in the morning before getting up. I’m not going to stop that on holiday. I’d keep food downstairs, but then I’d do that anyway.

zingally · 03/04/2026 13:08

I've never been a one for taking a hot drink to have in bed away, so that wouldn't bother me.
I would however be taking a glass of water up to bed, regardless of rules. I often wake up in the night, parched, and I need something. That being said though, I'd probably be more likely to take my water bottle up, rather than a glass, as less likely to knock that over when fumbling in the dark in an unfamiliar room.

2026onwardsandup · 03/04/2026 13:08

Problems with editing my post - kept crashing . Radioactive rather than a “hyperactive “ sauce Blush

Theredjellybean · 03/04/2026 13:05

If it was stated in description that I could see pre booking i would not book it.
If it was a rule in a handbook after i had booked and arrived I would cheerfully ignore it.
I am paying to rent the house and expect to be able to use it fully, if that means I want coffee and croissant in bed then so be it.
If people are that precious about their holiday homes don't rent them out.
As for damage to carpets etc - well that is what you pay a deposit for

Franpie · 03/04/2026 13:05

We stayed in an Airbnb in Scotland once with the rule. I ignored it completely as I can’t actually get out of bed before I have my morning tea!

Thepeopleversuswork · 03/04/2026 13:02

Glass of water/cup of tea = yes
Food = no

EBearhug · 03/04/2026 13:01

I'd take water up, but nothing else, which is about the same at home. It's not a rule as such at home - I just don't drink tea or coffee. Although I was brought up with a strict no food upstairs rule, because it was an old farmhouse with a risk of mouse infestations.

Happyjoe · 03/04/2026 13:01

Probably would obey for the most part as am a guest, paying or otherwise. I would take a bottle of water up though. Has a lid on it so no accidental spills.

2026onwardsandup · 03/04/2026 13:00

Stayed in tons of holiday rentals / over the years . I would of course forego my usual red wine and vindaloo curry taken upstairsGrin. Or even the hyperactive kebab sauce or luminescent cheese sauce from cheesy nachos ( from my younger years - but always eaten when heading back home rather than in bedrooms .
(Not a red wine drinker anyway ) .

No I wouldn’t follow this rule . I always do my upmost to leave the place clean and tidy when I check out ( but not spotless ) . Have glowing reviews on air bnb etc .

I am mindful and respectful that I am staying in someone else’s property .

If I am on holiday I would like to relax and not be governed by lots of rules . If I knew this in advance , I wouldn’t book and I absolutely hate laminated signs everywhere .

Does this also mean that you can’t take a glass of wine with a bubble bath / read a book .

I think if you airb’n’b etc your property you have to accept that not everyone will treat it exactly the same as you would . There will unfortunately always be those ( a small minority hopefully ) who will leave the property in far from an ideal condition . I don’t think they would “ obey “ these rules anyway even if triple laminated …

Wildgoat · 03/04/2026 12:59

Blushingm · 03/04/2026 12:36

That’s quite reasonable - food and drink spills can cause damage to beds and bedding etc

It can also cause damage to carpets, soft furnishings, cushioned chairs etc. it’s not unique to a bedroom. So where does it end, you need to stand over the sink and eat and drink? No wine or chocolate on the sofa.

if you rent a property out you take the risk and can have things professionally cleaned.

WonderingWanda · 03/04/2026 12:58

That's quite an extreme rule and like you I would probably ignore it for water bottles and maybe a cup of tea in bed or a glass of white wine if there's a nice bath. If I knew about the rule prior to booking then I wouldn't book it.

LadyWiddiothethird · 03/04/2026 12:56

I wouldn’t take food up,I don’t at home,but I would take tea and coffee up,same as I do at home.

I owned a holiday home and wouldn’t dream of having a rule like that,imagine trying to control where people eat and drink on holiday,bloody ridiculous.

No doubt they didn’t send you a list of the rules before you arrived!

LittleCrumblyBiscuit · 03/04/2026 12:55

Depends on whether it was made clear before booking. If I’d arrived to a list of infantalising rules after booking and paying in good faith, I’d be less
than pleased.

Dozer · 03/04/2026 12:55

Yes, would follow the rule. Would be annoyed if the rule wasn’t clear in the ad for the property, and seeing it would make me less likely to book it as it’s nice to have a hot drink in bed on holiday.

Makemineacosmo · 03/04/2026 12:52

MaidOfSteel · 03/04/2026 12:43

What about people who are bedbound sometimes? They can’t be left to starve or go thirsty.

I would ignore the rule, OP. I wake up often during the night with a raging thirst so I always have my insulated bottle by the bed.

If you’re renting out second (even third, fourth, fifth….) homes like this, you have to accept a degree of risk is involved. I’d be insulted at being treated like a child and wouldn’t give my money to someone so petty.

Posts like this make me laugh. You don't really think that the poster is suggesting that someone who is bed bound is left to starve in their bed. It's so pointless saying something like this. 🤣

Deata · 03/04/2026 12:52

I’ve never stayed somewhere that has such a rule. I’m wondering what experiences have led to this rule, by the owners. Some seriously messy/dirty guests? But why.

OP is the accoomm either very expensive or very cheap? Wondering if maybe it’s a case of entitled guests (apparently the former prince andrew was a messy bastard) and owners wanting to preserve their luxury stuff, or guests taking piss in cheapy accomm? Still, it’s odd. Then again, seems from this thread that posters have experienced people who create mayhem, so maybe the owners have been burned.

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