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Would you follow this rule?

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Knickerbockergrolia · 03/04/2026 11:44

Staying at a holiday house, the rules mention 'no food or drink to be taken upstairs' - would you follow it?

YABU - I'm on holiday, I'm having a cup of tea in bed and I'm old enough not to make a mess

YANBU - rules are rules, I'll do as I'm told

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BIossomtoes · 03/04/2026 15:52

DoraSpenlow · 03/04/2026 15:50

The amount of liquid in a cup of mug of tea/coffee goes a long way. Yes, you can get stain remover but are you going to leave the owner with a damp bed/carpet to sort out before the next guests arrive?

No hairdryer?

Itsmetheflamingo · 03/04/2026 15:52

DoraSpenlow · 03/04/2026 15:50

The amount of liquid in a cup of mug of tea/coffee goes a long way. Yes, you can get stain remover but are you going to leave the owner with a damp bed/carpet to sort out before the next guests arrive?

What do you think happens when someone spills something downstairs?

Itsmetheflamingo · 03/04/2026 15:51

Friendlygingercat · 03/04/2026 15:50

The UK Consumer Rights Act 2015 states that all rules and regulations in online transactions must be available for perusal no more than one click away from the main page. This is so that purchases may make an informed purchasing decision before clicking the PAY button. Any terms and conditions which are not available in this manner are not legal and cannot be enforced. So all those shitty little rules and regulations which you find on a laminated care on arrival can be ignored.

It also doesn’t matter if it is in the t&cs since it’s such an unreasonable expectation it can’t be enforced

DoraSpenlow · 03/04/2026 15:50

Rileysp · 03/04/2026 14:24

What exactly are you expecting them to be drinking? Cooking oil?

worst case scenario just get a stain remover😂

The amount of liquid in a cup of mug of tea/coffee goes a long way. Yes, you can get stain remover but are you going to leave the owner with a damp bed/carpet to sort out before the next guests arrive?

Friendlygingercat · 03/04/2026 15:50

The UK Consumer Rights Act 2015 states that all rules and regulations in online transactions must be available for perusal no more than one click away from the main page. This is so that purchases may make an informed purchasing decision before clicking the PAY button. Any terms and conditions which are not available in this manner are not legal and cannot be enforced. So all those shitty little rules and regulations which you find on a laminated care on arrival can be ignored.

IglesiasPiggl · 03/04/2026 15:44

I would take a cup of tea and a biscuit upstairs, I wouldn't eat a meal up there. But I don't generally eat upstairs anyway so it would essentially be the same as I do at home anyway.

HopeFor2026 · 03/04/2026 15:41

No I wouldn't follow this rule, however I get thirsty at night so would mainly be water on the bedside table.
I wouldn't be bringing a curry up to bed anyway or even a tea as I think that's common sense when you are staying somewhere. When I'm up for the day I'm not usually hanging around the bedroom.

Conniebygaslight · 03/04/2026 15:39

No I wouldn’t miss my coffee in bed for anyone. I wouldn’t eat in bed though. We’re always very careful to leave accommodation really clean afterwards, our friends rent out an Airbnb and have some absolutely horrendous problems. Things stolen, pulled off walls, smeared walls in the loo….absolutely awful.

Boustany · 03/04/2026 15:36

youbizarrehorse · 03/04/2026 15:29

To be honest, if I did run an Airbnb, that wouldn’t be a rule I’d have. But I respect other people’s right to decide on their own rules. I suppose I can’t imagine being so determined to have my tea and toast in bed at all costs. Maybe I should try it😅

I think most people have no issue with rules provided they are flagged upfront. It's trying to impose a rule after you've pocketed the cash that's unreasonable.

Elphamouche · 03/04/2026 15:33

I’d be taking water, but at home we don’t have anything other than water or squash upstairs. Not as a rule, we just don’t.

CoastalCalm · 03/04/2026 15:30

Seeing how common it seems to be among young people to eat takeaways in bed on social media I can understand the rule but I would have to have water by my bed regardless

youbizarrehorse · 03/04/2026 15:29

Boustany · 03/04/2026 15:18

It's this sort of hospitable mindset that would make you an absolutely cracking amateur Airbnb host 😂

To be honest, if I did run an Airbnb, that wouldn’t be a rule I’d have. But I respect other people’s right to decide on their own rules. I suppose I can’t imagine being so determined to have my tea and toast in bed at all costs. Maybe I should try it😅

NoSoupForU · 03/04/2026 15:28

I'd have a bottle of water because I often wake up during the night thirsty.

But otherwise, yes I'd follow it. I don't take food and drink to bed at home so wouldn't be doing it elsewhere.

pinkspeakers · 03/04/2026 15:27

99victoria · 03/04/2026 15:19

All you posters who say you would never eat in bed or have food upstairs, have your children never made you breakfast in bed for Mother's day or your partner never brought you a cup of tea and some toast on your birthday? 😬

Breakfast in bed on Mothers Day did happen a handful of times when the kids were small. DH would never bring me food in bed for my birthday as neither of us like it. I have very very very occasionally got myself tea and gone back to bed, but I honestly can't remember the last time. I genuinely just prefer to have it at the kitchen table. It has a better view!

It's something I did in my room as a teen/student when I didn't have a whole place to myself. But it the last 30 years of being an independent adult with my own house, it's been a once a year event, if that.

Aquamarineteal · 03/04/2026 15:24

I wouldn't take food upstairs, but no drink is too harsh. I always take a drink to bed with me and never spill it.

Moonlightfrog · 03/04/2026 15:24

99victoria · 03/04/2026 15:19

All you posters who say you would never eat in bed or have food upstairs, have your children never made you breakfast in bed for Mother's day or your partner never brought you a cup of tea and some toast on your birthday? 😬

No. My children are now adults and they have never made me breakfast in bed. I don’t have a partner so no one brings me a cup of tea. I would never consider eating or drinking in bed other than when I have been unwell and needed water next to my bed. We have a ‘no food upstairs rule’ though to be fair….I am the only one that sticks too it, my dc definitely eat and drink in their rooms.

Aiming4Optimistic · 03/04/2026 15:23

No I wouldn't follow that rule. People who want to profit from renting out their houses, have to understand that people are paying them a significant amount of money, so they can enjoy their holiday. It isn't the guest's responsibility to do housework or behave as if the owner is doing them some huge favour by allowing them to be there!
Bow obviously a guest should not cause damage to a property, but normal wear and tear and a bit of spilled coffee, comes with the territory of leading out a holiday home. Owners who can't cope with that, shouldn't put their property to this use.

pinkspeakers · 03/04/2026 15:23

Yes i would, other than water. It's their house and you need to respect their rules.

I never take any food or drink other than water into my bedroom anyway, so it's not exactly an issue for me.

paddyclampofthethirdkind · 03/04/2026 15:23

Drinks (water only for kids) I would do but I don’t have food in the bedroom.

99victoria · 03/04/2026 15:19

All you posters who say you would never eat in bed or have food upstairs, have your children never made you breakfast in bed for Mother's day or your partner never brought you a cup of tea and some toast on your birthday? 😬

Boustany · 03/04/2026 15:18

youbizarrehorse · 03/04/2026 15:00

Surely if that’s a possibility for someone, one of the things on their list of requirements would be the option of eating in bed. Always good to check ahead if it’s a need rather than a want.

Otherwise, can’t believe all the pathetic whining on here about HAVING to drink tea/eat toast in bed. Ooo, I simply MUST! Seriously, grow up.

It's this sort of hospitable mindset that would make you an absolutely cracking amateur Airbnb host 😂

Moonlightfrog · 03/04/2026 15:04

I would follow the rule but I am not a person that feels the need to have a cup of tea in bed and definitely wouldn’t eat in bed.

BennyHenny · 03/04/2026 15:03

Nope, I’d ignore that rule without a second thought, unless it had been disclosed before I booked it.

99victoria · 03/04/2026 15:02

youbizarrehorse · 03/04/2026 15:00

Surely if that’s a possibility for someone, one of the things on their list of requirements would be the option of eating in bed. Always good to check ahead if it’s a need rather than a want.

Otherwise, can’t believe all the pathetic whining on here about HAVING to drink tea/eat toast in bed. Ooo, I simply MUST! Seriously, grow up.

No desire to 'grow up' if that means I can't have a lovely cup of coffee in bed while I do my Wordle, Quordle and Xordle before getting up to face the day 😊

Mumandcarer80 · 03/04/2026 15:02

Yes I would though I have this rule in my own house anyway with the exception of a water bottle I take up to bed with me.