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Would you follow this rule?

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Knickerbockergrolia · 03/04/2026 11:44

Staying at a holiday house, the rules mention 'no food or drink to be taken upstairs' - would you follow it?

YABU - I'm on holiday, I'm having a cup of tea in bed and I'm old enough not to make a mess

YANBU - rules are rules, I'll do as I'm told

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ILoveDaffodills · 06/04/2026 10:16

TrashHeap · 04/04/2026 11:43

How would you feel if someone came into your home and ignored a rule, even if they found it ridiculous?

I don't set rules for my guests, let alone ridiculous ones.

ILoveDaffodills · 06/04/2026 10:15

Floatlikeafeather2 · 03/04/2026 15:57

So, if you were a smoker and you were asked not to smoke indoors, you'd do it anyway, just because, well, how dare they?

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Ridiculous comparison, as you well know.

ILoveDaffodills · 06/04/2026 10:12

FaceIt · 06/04/2026 10:05

YANBU it’s not your home.

Would you have replaced the bedding or the carpet if you’d accidentally poured a cup of tea all over it?

I’ve done it myself over a cream linen bedroom chair. Accidents do happen.

If you were an airbnb host why wouldn't you have mattress protectors on the bed?

Carpet might need cleaning if my hand cleaning didn't work, it wouldn't need replacing! 🙄

in 57 years I've managed not to make a mess, so not sure why I would in a HH. But if I did I'd pay to remedy any problems.

Rileysp · 06/04/2026 10:11

FaceIt · 06/04/2026 10:05

YANBU it’s not your home.

Would you have replaced the bedding or the carpet if you’d accidentally poured a cup of tea all over it?

I’ve done it myself over a cream linen bedroom chair. Accidents do happen.

But it is your home for that period you’re staying in it, isn’t it? That’s what you pay for.

clearly that doesn’t extend to trashing it etc. but if you’re renting out your home for financial gain then letting people live in it as they see fit (within reason) comes with the territory

this is well within reasonable use as well. To drink or eat upstairs.

FaceIt · 06/04/2026 10:07

Should have been YABU

FaceIt · 06/04/2026 10:05

YANBU it’s not your home.

Would you have replaced the bedding or the carpet if you’d accidentally poured a cup of tea all over it?

I’ve done it myself over a cream linen bedroom chair. Accidents do happen.

ILoveDaffodills · 06/04/2026 10:04

CeciliaMars · 04/04/2026 10:00

Take a travel cup up with you! A cuppa in bed is one of the great pleasures of holiday, surely.

Nah. If I knew in advance I just wouldn't book it. If I didn't know in advance, I'd carry on as I woukd at home. I'm 57 & have never made a mess, so I doubt I'm suddenly going to.

ILoveDaffodills · 06/04/2026 10:00

GivesYourHosieryaFright · 03/04/2026 22:25

We brought our daughter up to eat at the dining table. She has never expressed a wish to eat a meal in bed.

Why do people drink tea in bed? If you're awake, why wouldn't you get up to drink your tea? You can just as easily (probably more easily) drink tea sitting in a chair.

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In the winter while the house warms up. I don't set it to turn on before I'm awake as it wakes me up. In summer I prefer to open the French doors and sit in the morning sun.

ILoveDaffodills · 06/04/2026 09:56

TheBlueKoala · 03/04/2026 12:06

Me too. Except drinking water or having a mint I can't see why people would like to eat in bed. Unless they change the sheets every day?

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I have yogurt in bed every morning (medication & long term health issues) why would I need to change the sheets?? I'm not 2 years old.

MemorableLlama · 06/04/2026 07:23

We rent holiday properties all the time. (We’re in an Airbnb at the moment). I’ve never seen that rule. It’s ridiculous.

LikeGolddust · 06/04/2026 04:05

As this seems to be an AirBnB - it's a completely ridiculous request.

They hire out a property for money. The cost of damages is part of business.
If they don't want their property subject to wear and tear or run the risk of damage - do not let it out.

EBearhug · 06/04/2026 01:02

Flamingojune · 05/04/2026 18:24

No fluids allowed upstairs apart from sex ones?

I expect if their rules are so stringent, you shouldn't be doing that, either.

Flamingojune · 05/04/2026 18:24

No fluids allowed upstairs apart from sex ones?

BIossomtoes · 05/04/2026 18:20

sallymonella · 05/04/2026 16:39

I'd feel peachy if they'd handed over close to a grand for the privilege of staying in my home.

I'd happily go out and buy new sheets.

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They can have ours for a week and do anything they like for a grand.

sallymonella · 05/04/2026 16:39

TrashHeap · 04/04/2026 11:43

How would you feel if someone came into your home and ignored a rule, even if they found it ridiculous?

I'd feel peachy if they'd handed over close to a grand for the privilege of staying in my home.

I'd happily go out and buy new sheets.

BlakeCarrington · 05/04/2026 14:24

Completely agree @HRTQueen. Why are these people renting their homes and demanding all that lovely cash and then imposing stupid rules that are not mentioned upon booking. Fuck em, they are happy to hoover up the available property and rent it out at great expense. If you don’t stipulate these rules when I book them I will not be following them. False advertising.

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HRTQueen · 05/04/2026 13:15

No

I would be having a cup of tea in bed and my morning biscuit

why are you renting out your home if you are expecting people to be so ridged while staying there

patooties · 05/04/2026 13:05

I would take a hot drink or glass of water up - you pay handsomely for the rental.
i would not have kids with cans of pop and bags of sweets and crisps though. That does take the piss.

sallymonella · 05/04/2026 13:02

GivesYourHosieryaFright · 04/04/2026 22:05

No. I don't either.

If you can be arsed to go downstairs to make a drink (I can't bring myself to call it a "cuppa"), why would you take it upstairs?

Obviously there are people who do it regularly, but no one in my extended family does, so it's a bit of a mystery to me.

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It's really simple, I make a cup of tea and take it back to bed with me because my bed is soft, squishy, warm, and has an amazing view looking out over the surrounding countryside, from which I can watch the sunrise. Compared to downstairs, which is cold and dark at that time of the morning.

It's really not that mysterious, I'm sure other people have got equally compelling reasons.

Allonthesametrain · 04/04/2026 23:40

I don't eat or drink in the bedroom so this is an easy yes for me to follow the rules.

However, if I did want to and didn't make a mess, no harm done. Xx

Doingtheboxerbeat · 04/04/2026 23:26

Grendel7 · 04/04/2026 23:06

Which is why we all have to pay so much to stay in places where damage has previously been caused by inconsiderate people.
Some of the places we have stayed,and paid handsomely, had frankly stunk of various foods and drink when we arrive,please remember it is NOT your own and someone has to stay there after you!

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Shop lifters cause prices of items to be more expensive than they need to be but have you tried to reason with them not to shop lift? No , because that's not how things work usually - you can only do your best but asking strangers on the internet not to drink tea in bed might be a waste of time.
I agree with you btw.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 04/04/2026 23:19

It wouldn’t even cross my mind that this included a cup of tea in bed, or a glass of water to take to bed.

Grendel7 · 04/04/2026 23:06

LastNightMyPJsSavedMyLife · 03/04/2026 12:04

No I wouldn’t. I’m not paying for a house to be told where I can eat or drink.

Which is why we all have to pay so much to stay in places where damage has previously been caused by inconsiderate people.
Some of the places we have stayed,and paid handsomely, had frankly stunk of various foods and drink when we arrive,please remember it is NOT your own and someone has to stay there after you!

Grendel7 · 04/04/2026 23:00

Ellie1015 · 03/04/2026 11:56

I probably would have a coffee upstairs, but would limit it to one morning coffee and I would not allow kids to have anything upstairs. Also would be prepared to clean and pay if I did spill.

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So you wouldn't spill the first,guaranteed,but may do the second hahaha!