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Would you follow this rule?

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Knickerbockergrolia · 03/04/2026 11:44

Staying at a holiday house, the rules mention 'no food or drink to be taken upstairs' - would you follow it?

YABU - I'm on holiday, I'm having a cup of tea in bed and I'm old enough not to make a mess

YANBU - rules are rules, I'll do as I'm told

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Indianajet · 03/04/2026 12:19

If I want to drink my coffee in bed I will - if I am on holiday I want to relax and for me that would be part of it.

99victoria · 03/04/2026 12:19

applescentedcandle · 03/04/2026 12:17

Wow this is eye-opening, I'm genuinely surprised at the fuck you attitudes. I had thought about hosting out my house when I'm away but I definitely won't now.

Disrespectful in the extreme.

Well, good job you found out before you let your house out to awful people who like to have a cup of tea in bed eh? 😂

applescentedcandle · 03/04/2026 12:17

Wow this is eye-opening, I'm genuinely surprised at the fuck you attitudes. I had thought about hosting out my house when I'm away but I definitely won't now.

Disrespectful in the extreme.

OhFuckyNell · 03/04/2026 12:15

I'd be completely ignoring it based on the face that it's bat shit crazy

glass of wine whilst showering/getting ready? ✔️
cup of tea when I get back whilst getting for bed? ✔️
herbal tea whilst getting ready to go out for the day? ✔️

and no I can't just 'go without' either

I'm responsible and would of course clean up/replace whatever etc etc in the 1 billion percent chance it could/should/may happen

✔️

GreenLemonade · 03/04/2026 12:14

NotMajorTom · 03/04/2026 12:07

paying to borrow something does not give you the right to treat that thing however you like.

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The owner is not lending the house out of the kindness of their heart. It's a business, guests presumably pay good money for it.

CallingOnTheMegaphone · 03/04/2026 12:14

I'd ignore it.

Boustany · 03/04/2026 12:14

Nope, not following that one unless it had been specifically flagged pre-booking. Amateur Airbnbers really are the worst.

AllFours · 03/04/2026 12:12

Our home has rooms other than bedrooms that are ‘upstairs’. When people claim to not take any food or drink ‘upstairs’ in their own homes, does this just refer to bedrooms? Or would this blanket ban of ‘no food/drink upstairs’ include living areas and offices on upper floors? Purely out of curiosity, what does ‘upstairs’ actually mean in this food/drink context?

(Typed while enjoying a coffee in bed at noon)

gannett · 03/04/2026 12:12

UnhappyHobbit · 03/04/2026 12:05

This is why I hate the idea of air bnbs. I don’t pay good money to go somewhere and have to follow rules probably imposed for someone else’s stupidity. I’d ignore personally.

Hotels are famously rule-free, of course.

I consider myself to have a problem with authority in general but it's quite extreme to stamp your foot about a perfectly normal holiday accommodation rule.

Poppinjay · 03/04/2026 12:12

If the rule was communicated pre-booking, it's on me and I would follow it.

If the rule was only communicated once we had arrived, I'd follow it if it wasn't too disruptive.

We once arrived at a dog-friendly cottage to find a sign that said no dogs upstairs. That would have been a deal breaker if we'd known at booking because one of our party has an assistance dog that they need in the same room. The dog slept in the bedroom and we vacuumed carefully before leaving.

Doingtheboxerbeat · 03/04/2026 12:11

Whilst I agree with my house my rules in principle, I think it's risky to assume that everyone will follow them and you should factor that into the price/take a deposit.

This is why I despise Airbnb type of lettings because a hotel would allow you to eat a dominos pizza in bed and im paying for that privilege - the fact that it's your home is not a me problem and you chose to rent out your home out to strangers.

NotMajorTom · 03/04/2026 12:07

LastNightMyPJsSavedMyLife · 03/04/2026 12:04

No I wouldn’t. I’m not paying for a house to be told where I can eat or drink.

paying to borrow something does not give you the right to treat that thing however you like.

TheBlueKoala · 03/04/2026 12:06

Chickadiddy · 03/04/2026 12:01

I would have no problem following it because the idea of eating or drinking in bed makes me boak. 🤢

Me too. Except drinking water or having a mint I can't see why people would like to eat in bed. Unless they change the sheets every day?

Mulledjuice · 03/04/2026 12:06

ShetlandishMum · 03/04/2026 11:49

Yes. Or good luck explaining after spilling the tea. It does happen.

Pretend it's poo.

gannett · 03/04/2026 12:06

LastNightMyPJsSavedMyLife · 03/04/2026 12:04

No I wouldn’t. I’m not paying for a house to be told where I can eat or drink.

Did you stamp your foot while typing this?

Fends · 03/04/2026 12:06

I have water through the night so no I wouldn’t follow the rule

UnhappyHobbit · 03/04/2026 12:05

This is why I hate the idea of air bnbs. I don’t pay good money to go somewhere and have to follow rules probably imposed for someone else’s stupidity. I’d ignore personally.

gannett · 03/04/2026 12:05

I would take my bedside water up (though on holiday would be using my water bottle rather than a glass, so less chance of spillage) and I would not really think about taking a non-messy snack upstairs (like an energy bar). Other than that I'm happy to follow this extremely unobjectionable nothingburger of a rule and not find myself having to clean up juice stains or crumbs.

MrsTravelBug · 03/04/2026 12:04

I would break the rule for my morning coffee but wouldn’t take any other food or drinks upstairs.

If I spill it, I clean it/pay for it.

LastNightMyPJsSavedMyLife · 03/04/2026 12:04

No I wouldn’t. I’m not paying for a house to be told where I can eat or drink.

Duvetdayneeded · 03/04/2026 12:04

It’s an un reasonable rule. Yes to a tea or coffee, but use common sense and not have a curry sitting on the white carpet!

GreenLemonade · 03/04/2026 12:02

If I was a paying guest I wouldn't follow it. I wouldn't eat anything messy in bed but I would take a snack or a drink upstairs if I felt like it. It sounds like the owner of the holiday let is in the wrong business if they can't cope with perfectly normal behaviour.

ConstitutionHill · 03/04/2026 12:02

Well, you say "Holiday Home" so I'm guessing you are paying for the privilege? In which case I would be having a cup of tea upstairs.

7238SM · 03/04/2026 12:01

I don't take food/hot drinks up to my bedroom so wouldn't do it in someone else's house either!

Chickadiddy · 03/04/2026 12:01

I would have no problem following it because the idea of eating or drinking in bed makes me boak. 🤢

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