The more youre kind to ppl the more they think they can treat u like shite.

Op- I knew you would be talking about a hospital.

Does this relate to OPs situation? Who is mediocre here and who is successful? Sounds to me as if the difference in her work place is to do with levels of common politeness, not success.

Are you on glue?

In your rather bleak sounding world… perhaps.

Sure as heck not in my world thankfully.

I can relate to the question about the job being in the public sector. It got me thinking.

I do agency work so work at a variety of places. I have done this for a few years and whilst 99% of the places I work, the staff members are lovely and welcome agency staff.

The only places I have experienced outright rudeness and what could constitute assault and had disablist and racist comments have been all public sector places that I refuse to return to.

Good God.

Kind doesn't mean you let people take the piss.

Well, unfortunately not much practical advice to give from it, it's more of a revenge fantasy. You'll get the gist from the trailer, enjoy!

Not my experience either. In fact the opposite. The people you work with sound rude.

@ThatWildHedgehog You sound nice do not lower your standards because of rude people

But I don’t think you’re being ‘kind’, you’re just operating on ordinary levels of civility and good manners, while unfortunately some of your new colleagues are rude. I don’t see in what you’ve said any basis for thinking that the more polite and well-mannered you are, the worse they behave, though. Or are you suggesting that if you let doors slam in people’s faces and snarked if anyone asked you to move a box, you’d get better behaviour in response?

Not something I've ever come across but if I did it wouldn't bother me, if they want to behave like that it's on them. I don't let anyone take advantage of me though

From what I hear hospitals seem to attract staff whose default is nasty

I read a Forbes article yesterday, about workplace culture. Very interesting.

The author quoted an American football coach, saying 'Mediocre people don't like successful people and successful people don't like mediocre people.'

I take this as, successful people face challenges and work out how to resolve them. They try, struggle, face fear, face their own issues and work to improve.

But nt everyone does that. So if you are like that, people might find that you show them up and they want to roll their eyes and be unfriendly, and generally wish you gone.

The article went on to say that it is your duty to establish who is who at work, and how to play things, in order that you are successful.

Already this approach has helped me, as I've been decorating at home and have mentioned it at work, but not everyone at work will bother to decorate so it is be better for my work relationships to not mention it and I'm not going to. I'm a go getter, not everyone else is.

I think you're kind and friendly, but not everyone is and it is now on you to flex, for your happiness and future. All the best with it.

I was surprised at the unfriendliness of staff when I started volunteering at a hospital. I would say hello to admin and nursing staff whom I saw regularly and mostly they would just ignore me. I was taken aback at the blatant rudeness. It wasn't just me, as when the volunteers met up it was a common topic of conversation. We wondered if they resented us for some reason. I think some people are just rude. I stuck it for a few years then moved on to volunteering with a charity, where people act normally.

Your workplace sounds awful, if people
are truly like this. Kindness though is what makes the world go around, and I really believe that if you treat others well then in general you will also be treated well.

I am polite, have good manners, and have a soft voice. People tend to treat others better because they think I won't kick off.

There's nice and decent people and not nice, rude and awful people. The trick is to remain in the nice group while not letting yourself be bothered, annoyed or upset by the other group. Takes practice. Make like a duck and let their awfulness go like water off your ducky back. 🐤

Or an unfriendly and perverse person.

Either way give em a wide berth.

Keep doing what you're doing. Always come from a place of kindness. However don't judge those who don't return your kindness. It is as it is! Karma is already at play here. "what kind of mind, doesn't acknowledge kindness?" A troubled one!!

@ThatWildHedgehog they're not treating you like shit. Just lacking manners and too busy to bother being polite.

Just carry on being polite and if people can't be bothered to be polite back then leave it to karma...

I find some people the same. I mentioned in a meeting once that the software we use can search for specific things. This person was really interested as it was something useful. I took the time later to send him and email showing him how to do the searches with screenshots showing the menu options. Not even a thumbs up acknowledgement, let alone a thank you. Rude! I won't bother doing him a favour again.

Manners cost nothing and mean a lot. Its a shame some can't remember that.

Im interested to watch this, is it on netflix

Ah well too bads
Please give me some pointerS till i can get the dvd. Please!

I can’t say I’ve experienced this at all. I’m pretty decent and people almost invariably respond in kind; I also see the people around me who are kind and thoughtful having that acknowledged and responded to in return.

However, the year I spent working NHS-adjacent taught me that the workplace culture suffers from hierarchical attitudes and petty power plays from a significant minority of staff for whom the hospital environment is just an extension of the school environment they never grew up from. It doesn’t surprise me at all that you say you work in a hospital.

I think gracious behaviour like saying good morning and holding oprn doors IS nice and civilised.

Defo something I've experienced.Think (usually people with poor upbringing view it as weakness) my new policy is to check observe their worldviews v carefully before deciding who yr dealing with.