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wiw212 · 02/04/2026 17:47

Title: Is this weaponised incompetence or am I being unfair?

Asked DH to make pizzas with our toddler – something LO has been asking for for five days. Also (selfishly!) meant to be a bit of a break for me as they’ve both been off school/nursery all week and I’ve been on duty 24/7.

I’d already made the dough, so it literally just needed rolling out. Gave very simple instructions: pick up pepperoni and mozzarella.

He gets back, immediately comments on the mess 🙄 and then announces he forgot the mozzarella. Takes eldest back out to get it.

They come back, I finally sit down thinking great, 5 mins peace. Nope.

I’ve now been called in FOUR times:
– “Do I take the baking paper off the dough?”
– “Which tray do I use?”
– “Is the oven hot enough?”
– etc etc

At this point our toddler is basically supervising him.

Genuine question – is this weaponised incompetence or am I expecting too much? Because I’m struggling to believe an adult can’t manage basic pizza assembly without this level of input…

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Brightbluesomething · 02/04/2026 17:53

Yes this is weaponised incompetence. If you’ve worked out how to make a pizza then he can too.
Leave the house and switch your phone off next time. Go for a coffee and some peace. Sounds like your toddler has this under control…

wiw212 · 02/04/2026 17:52

Dunnocantthinkofone · 02/04/2026 17:51

No actually I think Yabu
If you want peace and quiet, you don’t get the right to also insist on which activity is being undertaken while you do!
My OH is as hands on as it comes but pizza making? He’d deffo be asking questions

Edited

Fair but I didn’t dictate - DD did!

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Dunnocantthinkofone · 02/04/2026 17:51

No actually I think Yabu
If you want peace and quiet, you don’t get the right to also insist on which activity is being undertaken while you do!
My OH is as hands on as it comes but pizza making? He’d deffo be asking questions

Sunseed · 02/04/2026 17:49

Has your DH ever made pizza before?

Hankunamatata · 02/04/2026 17:48

Depends. My dh can be quite anxious that he isn't going to get it right. (Still does my head in though)

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