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To be upset that I have to cancel my plans for DH’s plans?

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Cinai2 · 02/04/2026 15:25

DH mentioned a couple weeks ago that he’s made plans to see a friend on a certain date. At the beginning of this week, I told him that I want to go to the theatre and asked him if Wednesday or Thursday is better for him (we have a DC, so one can go out and the other one looks after DC) to which he replied ‘either‘. I booked my ticket for Thursday. This morning he tells me that he’s seeing his friend tonight. He acknowledged that he’d forgotten about it when I discussed my theatre plans earlier this week, but said that he had already plans in place for the 2nd April at the time I booked my theatre ticket and did mention this to me a couple of weeks ago, so his plans have priority. I kind of see his point but I’m also gutted, I don’t often go out and I’ve wasted the money on the theatre ticket now. I find it very hard not to be upset with DH. We don’t have childcare available unfortunately.

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BarbiesDreamHome · 02/04/2026 15:33

He'd forgotten his plans, it led to a double booking, he cancels, simple as.

Alicorn1707 · 02/04/2026 15:29

mis-communication @Cinai2, could he invite friend to your home to spend time?

BiddyPopthe2nd · 02/04/2026 15:27

Has he spent any money on his plans with DF yet?

as he did clear it that you could go tonight. So he either needs to enjoy a quiet beer at home with DF or rearrange for another night, to my mind, as HE messed up when YOU pre-checked before booking.