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I’m heart broken, and I’m on my own crying.

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mumstheword1x · 02/04/2026 06:12

I’m away with work on a business trip, I’m heading home today… but my childhood dog has been put down over night, my mum told me as he got very poorly and he had a horrendous turn. I’m on my own in a hotel room, 200 miles away from home and I’m so sad, I can’t even hug my husband because he’s not here. He’s also a sleep as he’s at home with my kids ( my post is at 6am ) and he doesn’t even know. I feel so sad and I’ve got to face work colleagues at breakfast in 2 hours.

am I being silly?

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Villanellesproudmum · 02/04/2026 07:54

So sorry, if a colleague told me I’d understand and say just go home, it is hard. I had to take a few days off work when my dog died years ago. You weren’t to know.

Daftypants · 02/04/2026 07:53

I am so very sorry for your loss OP xx
The death of a beloved dog is utterly heartbreaking 💔
Big hugs coming your way xx

loislovesstewie · 02/04/2026 07:48

I'm so sorry for the loss of your lovely and loved Milo. He was a member of your family and it's natural to feel the loss. Try to remember that Milo knew he was loved and he loved you in return. He had the best life with you and was happy. Sending hugs to you. Fly high, Milo over the rainbow bridge to meet your friends. 💔💔💔

EyeLevelStick · 02/04/2026 07:41

Oh, look at his beautiful little face. I’m so sorry OP. If you’re travelling by public transport, come back and tell us more about him during your journey.

One of my cats was called Milo. Absolute nutter, and I still miss him.

Booboobagins · 02/04/2026 07:36

Big hugs @mumstheword1x how awful. I'm so sorry, but at least with our non human family, we can be kind and prevent pain and significantly reduced quality of life. I am so sad for you 😢

Some people who don't have non human family might not understand the grief is the same as losing a family member, but it is because they are your family. So, in the main, your colleagues will empathise. Tell at least one of them. X

KnewYearKnewMe · 02/04/2026 07:27

Oh my goodness, what a beautiful boy. I’m so, so sorry, OP.

Our dogs are our family 💕💕💕

Lilactimes · 02/04/2026 07:18

He's a beautiful boy it's such a heart breaking thing to go through. Nothing ever prepares you and you definitely aren't being silly.

I think if you could tell a colleague or even skip the breakfast , they would understand xx

sending love xx x

FoolOfShips · 02/04/2026 07:18

I'm so sorry - an awful thing happening at the worst time for you. Milo was a beautiful boy, he looks like a picture of 'the perfect Westie' in your photo. Do share this sad news with your colleagues if you can - mine were very supportive when I lost my beloved doggie.

Pancakeorcrepe · 02/04/2026 07:14

It’s heartbreaking when they go. They are family 💐💐💐

ThatFlightyTemptressAdventure · 02/04/2026 07:14

Not silly at all. Dogs are wonderful companions and take a very special place in our hearts.

He was beautiful, with so much character in that face. I hope you get a hug soon 💐

CrikeyMajikey · 02/04/2026 07:12

What a beautiful boy he was, I’m sure he was your very best friend when you were younger. It’s heartbreaking when our doggies pass away, my girl went over the rainbow bridge 5 years ago, she’s buried in my garden and I’m still not sure I could move house and leave her behind. Have a safe journey home to your loved ones.

ThoughtsOnLife · 02/04/2026 07:11

I am so sorry, they are so special and a special part of our lives.

I lost 2 dogs within 24 hours (I think the 2nd was heartbroken as well as having a medical condition) This was over 20 years ago ...I still think of them every day their unconditional love was so special to me.

Esperanza25 · 02/04/2026 07:06

Aw, I’m so, so sorry. He was just beautiful. Sounds like your Mum had to act very quickly, so the shock must be awful.
You are not being silly, you obviously loved Milo very much. Maybe just tell one collleague initially if you can?
I really am sorry and I understand completely 💐

Pricelessadvice · 02/04/2026 07:05

Oh OP, I’m so sorry.
He was a beautiful boy xxx

shellyleppard · 02/04/2026 07:04

Sending hugs op 🫂🙏❤️

Roomforapony · 02/04/2026 07:03

@mumstheword1x Oh what a wonderful fluffy boy😍 Milo was gorgeous🤍

Lennonjingles · 02/04/2026 07:03

So sorry for the loss of your beautiful boy. I was on holiday when my family dog died, my family didn’t tell me till I got home, whilst I could see their reasons for not telling me, I would have wanted to grieve for her when she died. This was over 40 years ago, I still miss her.

ChristmaslightsuptilJanuary · 02/04/2026 07:02

Oh he’s beautiful. I’m so sorry. They are family 😢

SortingItOut · 02/04/2026 07:00

Sending love ❤️

When my dog was put to sleep it was booked a few days in advance and I took the day and the next day off work and wallowed in my bed for the whole day afterwards.
The grief consumed me and I've never cried so much.

Even now 2 months on so much sets me off including this post 😢

Be kind to yourself and accept your feelings.

Motnight · 02/04/2026 06:55

Milo was beautiful, Op.

limetrees32 · 02/04/2026 06:55

He will have had a lovely life with you and your family.

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mumstheword1x · 02/04/2026 06:54

Springandaprayer · 02/04/2026 06:52

Oh a westie! Let's see a picture of your handsome friend. Drive safe.

My Milo xxx

I’m heart broken, and I’m on my own crying.
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Springandaprayer · 02/04/2026 06:52

Oh a westie! Let's see a picture of your handsome friend. Drive safe.

limetrees32 · 02/04/2026 06:50

Of course you're devastated .
I think you should tell your work colleagues.
Sending virtual hugs xx
And I'm sorry that the news was given to you while you're away on a work trip.
xx

LumpyandBumps · 02/04/2026 06:50

All of us who know how important dogs are to us will empathise.
Look after yourself today. I hope you get to speak to DH soon.

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