Well, it's a bit like when you're working in a project team. Some people have a specific role within that team with pre-defined tasks associated with it. Their responsibility is to complete the tasks to the deadline given to them, but they don't require having oversight of the whole project to complete the task.
But the project manager and project director need to have oversight of the whole project to be able to assign the tasks and consider the impact of unforseen disruption, and they need to consider and take action on all of the other tasks when new information arrives. This is what ensures the entire project is successfully completed on-time and under budget.
The team member just gets told the task deadline has changed. They just get the outcome of the thinking and decision making behind it.
Anticipating things means stop waiting to be told the output that's expected of you all the time. If you wait for someone to tell you, you've not had to engage your brain to think about what needs doing and what impact that has on all the other team members and their required tasks.
For a woman, having a DH who is a team member is like having a kitchen tool which will make a certain amount of a specific task easier, but is limited to that specific task - like having a electric blended instead of using a fork. You're just a tool, not another person who can double up the resources you have a successfully operating household.
E.g. my DH will do a food shop if I tell him all the food which needs buying. But to do that I have to plan a weeks worth of meals and lunches, plus check no special arrangements for kids, check the fridge to see what we already have, work out if we have bin liners, toilet bleach etc. I have to think about the overall picture of what's needed to keep things on track- I'm the project manager. You're just the kitchen blender, accelerating a specific part of the task. You're just given the output and then implement it.
The kitchen tool does part of the job, but the engaged person writes loo roll on the list on the worktop, checks the kids schedules and fridge, comes up with meal ideas and makes the shopping list, clears the old food out of the fridge, then runs the plan past the other person to see if they've anything else to add. Then they go do the shopping.
The last part of that task is very small. That's the part which is currently being done in every job. It's just the final execution, not the thought behind it requiring fully engaging in the overall plan. The overall plan requires storing an enormous amount of information inside your head, retrieving it and reassessing it throughout the day. It is exhausting.
Be the project manager, not the electric blender.
Apologies for my mixed metaphors, I feel like they worked out OK in the end.