AIBU to stop singing around my family after their comments?

It’s fine to tell you to sing a bit less around others, but not singing at all is bonkers! I hope you’ve told him to never breathe loudly or cough or chew loudly!!

I find people singing really annoying. Maybe I just haven’t heard enough people singing well in real life. My mum used to waken me when I was a child by throwing the curtains open and singing ‘Oh what a beautiful morning’. I honestly wanted to scream. DP sings tunelessly around the house and I have to bite my tongue not to offend him. His mum is the worst. She sings really loudly in a broad Belfast accent and gets all the words wrong, which produces a disproportionate amount of rage in me. If you’re going to pollute my lugs with your singing, at least get the words right. And the tune while you’re at it. I would say though, that I fully recognise this is a ‘me’ problem. I do sing myself when I’m alone. I sang to both my children when they were small. DS1 would say ‘again’ and I would sing the same song umpteen times. DS2 used to put his hands over his ears and order me to stop making that noise🤣🤣 Clearly takes after his mum.

The voice of reason!

When I'm listening to a song I love, I hate it when my husband starts singing along. His voice is fine but I want to listen the original singer!

I think this is it. Someone singing along spoils the enjoyment of music for everyone else.

It does seem very self absorbed to always be making noise of any sort when your with company, especially if that company have expressed dislike for it.

Same. We are always singing, I am crap but I don't care. I can't NOT belt along to a power ballad on the radio etc

Yeah, good voice or not I’d find singing all the time incredibly irritating and think you need to take your family’s views into consideration.

It also seems very petty not to sing happy birthday (which is entirely different to singing all the time).

Whether you can sing or not isn't the point. It makes you happy and they have been mean and hurtful. I would struggle too OP

We all sing round the house - parents and adult children. To me it’s just part of being human. The only time there’s no singing is when someone is feeling really down. I’d hate to be in a “no singing” household.

Your family sound rather unkind, op.

Doing something badly or not very well doesn't mean you should stop doing it. Keep singing OP if you want to..

Do you do it in public?

Please don't stop singing.

I sing all the time. I don't have kids at home, just my partner and dogs, and they are well used to it. Especially if an 80s song comes on, I will sing along to the whole thing. I can also tell a song by its first few seconds of being played, and will sing along to that, too.

My voice is terrible but I know I'm no Mariah Carey. It's literally for fun. Honestly, so many people are so stuck up and tightly wound.

Like I say though, I don't have kids around to consider, and am sometimes alone if my partner works away so I do appreciate I don't have many or any people to consider.

My young adult DD lives at home and sings along to whatever she's listening to. Always loud and always out of tune. Sadly she cannot carry a tune. What makes it worse is that she listens to her music through headphones, so we don't even have the background music to help disguise her voice. It's maddening.

Come on OP, sing if you want to - I miss my late Mum who used to sing along, DH just laughs, he says its part of me - join a choir Rock Choir or Tuneless Choir both meet local to me.... and so much fun !!

My DH is a ‘singer’. He was a choir boy back in the day and sung on several well known film soundtracks. He does often sing the same songs on repeat, change words and humm the incorrect tune. But this is his home too, I would never tell him not to sing! Please do not let anyone- loved one or nor, control your natural expression of your happiness within! Yes it may be annoying to them at times but NEWSFLASH ! I am sure they are annoying too! Please never stop being you. You only walk this way once, why walk it at someone else’s way??? And yes, it was not nice that he said that especially as you have sung for years! I would explain how hurt you feel.

Oh gosh, I’m in two minds here. I voted YABU because I think you’re being a bit oversensitive and passive aggressive about the birthday thing. I think it’s quite healthy as a family to point out when things irritate us about each other. We can either choose to be sensitive to others’ irritants or we can just say ‘yeah well tough it’s the way I am’. Neither is right or wrong, but I do suspect that there’s a middle ground here.

Op, I do understand that you may feel humiliated over this but perhaps take some heed that you must have been doing it a lot in order for your family to bring this up. No one likes to criticise (and I’m assuming they are perfectly decent people in other ways) so I can only imagine that the singing has been a little too incessant.

Even if you have the best voice in the world, singing over the top of tunes on the radio can be deeply annoying for those around you. Sometimes you just want to hear the goddamn song as it was meant to be sung. I remember driving a friend home on a two and a half hour journey and she sang along to every song on the radio (admittedly really badly). I still remember that journey thirty years on 🤣

I sing. I sing a lot, and often dh will sarcastically say ‘hmm that’s lovely’ or, ‘that’s enough now’ and I’ll either playfully flick him the bird and sing louder, or I’ll chuckle and stop. My voice isn’t the best these days (and I too was in a select choir for a prestigious school once upon a time), but I don’t take it sensitively when asked not to. The dog doesn’t seem to mind so I’ll sing when alone mostly!

Nothing more cringy that a person bursting into random song all the time. The fact it’s unusual to not sing for one day suggests you’ve been doing it too much.

I HATE it when dh sings. His voice is crap and he can't hold a tune. So I do tell him to please stop it when he's in the same room as me. My 12 year old ds loves singing and I love to hear him sing because he's happy even though he can't hold a tune 😅.

I'm on the fence because it does my head in when someone can't hold a tune- and the problem is they don't hear it. Can you ask someone who is objective @Situationallystuck ?

Even if you know others don’t like it?

It’s the old dilemma isn’t it - the right to free speech ends at shouting fire in a crowded theatre. Maybe the Right to sing and “let it all out” ends if it disturbs and annoys others.

This….
it can be very annoying when someone is always singing, and hurtful as it is your whole family have agreed. Nothing worse than someone bursting into an out of tune song, they’ve probably been longing to say something for years, it’s probably very embarrassing too if you do it in public.
Just restrict your singing to when you’re in the house alone, and yes, do sing for his birthday, there’s really no point in making this whole thing into a mountain and sulking.
Sometimes we just have to accept that something we do totally aggravates others and it’s best to stop.

The entire tone of the Op is high drama and very emotional al and overwrought.

I imagine her family are just a bit tired of the overblown tendencies

But not so good for their mental health by the sounds of it!

You can’t possibly have kids @BeanQuisine

because to sit there when everyone’s singing happy birthday to your child, with your mouth clamped shut to make a point… well, unfathomable

That’s mean of them and very negative.
Singing is amazing for your mental health and respiratory health so continue to sing 🎵 of you want to .
I love singing , I used to be a bit better than I am now ( I have allergies and asthma )
I was in a small girls ensemble at school, encouraged by one of the popular girls there who was very musical and said my voice had a nice tone .
I am from a poorer family who didn’t have the £ for me to have music lessons or singing lessons so I can’t read music .
Sometimes my girls loved me singing 🎵 and other times when they were in a rotten mood ( teen girls 🙁) they’d tell me to shut it down it was annoying.
i mainly sing alone in the house to favourite music ( detached thank goodness 😅😂 )