AIBU to stop singing around my family after their comments?

It’s up to you. Sing if you want but know others don’t appreciate it.

some people whistle when they are happy. I hate the sound though - I’d struggle to live with someone who did it.

It’s maybe a ‘not you it’s me’ situation. It’s not that your singing is particularly bad - just that they don’t enjoy listening to singing v often.

I think it all depends on the context. I usually sing along in the car to the radio, but I don’t do it loudly. And I’d sing in church but again not loudly. So maybe they think you’re just too loud and it’s annoying.
not singing happy birthday is just childish.

My ex husband would moan about me singing. Said it was horrific. Then the kids joined in when they were old enough. Weirdly enough, at this point I started getting compliments from strangers if I was singing along (quietly) at work, in the shop or my car.

I've now left him, and my youngest and I spend so much time singing! We spend many a night with close friends singing in their house too. I've never been happier! Just a little thought. Some people just like to suck the joy from you!

Just the fact you mention you thought they meant just singing in public makes me think it's pretty bad. Most of us know not to sing in public. Doesn't matter how good you are, no one wants a one woman concert going on at the next table when they're eating dinner.

Fuck them all. If singing makes you feel good keep doing it (singing is good for you -it stimulates the vagus nerve) I’m a terrible singer - but I sing all the time. If people told me to stop doing something that made me happy I’d just assume they were a wanker!

Oh and try and join a choir, leave your DH snd kids to fend for themselves whilst you enjoy doing something that makes you happy away from their miserable arses.

I think it would be quite pathetic to refuse to sing happy birthday.

Being with someone that makes noise all the time is so annoying. Some people just can't be quiet. I'm sure people would like to have the radio on and listen to the actual radio instead of you singing over the top. You don't have to be a terrible singer , making noise all the time is bloody annoying.

I can sympathise. I have a friend and SIL who both sing around the place. I think both of them think they have good voices but that’s not the point. I find it quite attention seeking and it drives me mad - it’s like a dripping tap!

There's nothing wrong in singing along to a song on the radio when you are going about your day at home but if you are talking one minute then burst into song like you are Doris Day in a musical then that is irritating. My niece sings along to anything and it's just bits of a song at a time and although she has a lovely voice and I love her a lot it gets on my nerves.

Are you singing quietly to yourself as you make dinner, for example, or is it more performative? Do you intend for your family to hear? Because that is annoying, regardless of how good your voice is.

I think younger children would enjoy you singing but teenagers could find it embarrassing and a bit annoying a bit like living in a Mary Poppins musical. Were you breaking into song several times a day or just a couple of times a week?
You could still sing Happy Birthday and sing on your own. Why not join a choir and express yourself that way. I sing in a Gospel Choir and look forward to the sessions.

People random singing really annoys me too, I don’t know why. I’d never ask them to stop though, or be rude about it.

DH sings, he had singing lessons as a kid and will randomly sing alone to like shop background music, or music while in the queue and it gives me such bad embarrassment it’s unreal. My skin crawls and I’ll try to interrupt with conversation 🤣 but I’d never tell him not to or give him a complex about it.

Gosh this is so sad, and all the people saying you shouldn’t sing if you’re not good at it. WHAT? Go tell the birds.

sing because you feel joy. Sing because you feel pain. Sing because it’s spring. Sing because your heart needs it in a world of misery.

i live with my three teenagers and we all sing, none of us have any talent, or desire to show off, but we sing because we’re free to, it’s as instinctive as breathing, I’ve never given it a second thought.

my mum was told as a child that she couldn’t sing, and now at nearly 80 she’s spent her life not enjoying music like she’d like to, being too uncomfortable and shy to sing at birthday parties. What a fucking tragic waste of joy.

Ok now THAT is cringe, fair enough 😂

My mum likes to sing and reckons she has a great voice. Yeah, it is deeply annoying and we do eye roll behind her back sometimes but wouldn't dare comment.

I think there can be a middle line - tone down the public singing, you've been told how irksome it is. That isn't the same as singing happy birthday or hymns in church etc - there is a time and a place.

I think you’d be petty to not sing happy birthday. Not everyone enjoys listening to others randomly sing around the house. If someone is telling that you can’t sing it’s horrible and terrible and others are nodding along in agreement then I’d say you probably don’t have the voice you think you do. I wouldn’t let that stop me singing at home though if that’s what I enjoyed doing

Especially when that’s concluded with “that’s what I’m not singing so there! Have a great birthday…”

I actually think your family have been quite forbearing. Mine would have cracked years ago and said something if I’d been warbling round the house.

Don't think you should sulk and refuse to sing ever ever again. Bit manipulative.
Just accept that they don't always want to hear your singing voice and behave normally.

"It’s not whether your voice is good or bad it it’s just bloody annoying."

It's this. Truly. Unless your voice is of an exceptional standard, no one wants to hear you sing on the regular...and even then, it would grate eventually.

Singing out of context can be quite jarring whether it's a nice voice or not. If you thought they liked it you're understandably upset to realise that they don't.

I'm a decent enough singer and get told to stop as well. It's fine...I get annoyed by stuff myself. I sing in the car.

Not at all "petty", and she doesn't have to "sit there".

Her kids have explicitly told her they don't like it when she sings, and that she should never sing around them.

If anything, it would be a petty protest to ignore their wishes and join in.

I also sing much of the time - only silently and in my head as I see how annoying it is when my dad does it out loud.

How big is your house, how repetitive is the singing (bits of songs over and over is very different to a whole song once through), and what proportion of the time are you doing it? My mother has a lovely voice and I enjoy signing with her but it’s like torture hearing her repeat the same bar of a song that she sings the same few notes of every day in a house that you can’t escape from other people’s noise in.

It’s not whether your voice is good or bad it it’s just bloody annoying.

My dad does it he has a really good voice but it drives DH and our teens mad. We don’t say anything as it would hurt his feelings but fear if we lived with him all the time we might have to.

So you don’t think petty for the op to sit there with her mouth clamped whilst the family sing happy birthday for one of her children? On come on!!

If you're singing enough that after one day they ask if you're ok, then no wonder they want you to give it a rest. That must be so annoying.