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Work won’t let me cancel leave

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centregems · 01/04/2026 20:46

I work on a small team and only a few can be off at any one time. As soon as the holiday booking period opened in January I booked next week off as for 4 days leave you get 10 days off. Others also booked up too to the max allowed off. I don’t want that leave now as my plans have changed. My colleague is grumbling as they are saying they would have booked a holiday if they could have had the leave but I got in first. He complained to our manager who says I can’t cancel as such short notice. Is this allowed?

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wombat1a · 03/04/2026 02:33

I think for team morale if I was the manager I would not allow it either. Having someone book the 'prime' leave, doing it as early as possible so to ensure to get it and thus blocking others from doing so and then cancelling it at such late notice so no-one else can use it would have a negative effect on the team.

I realise it would also have a negative effect on OPs morale but that is one person vs the rest of the team.

Miaminmoo · 03/04/2026 01:06

You need to read up on Working Time Regulation- yes they can do this. However, I have employees and have never stopped anyone cancelling leave and would give it to the other person who wanted it at short notice - because I can. Other businesses will follow the rules to the letter of the law.

shhblackbag · 02/04/2026 23:39

manysausages · 01/04/2026 22:58

Bagsying holidays that everyone else wants then cancelling at the last minute is a dick move.

This. YABVU.

tachetastic · 02/04/2026 23:01

NoWordForFluffy · 02/04/2026 09:46

Surely the colleague could've booked this week off if OP had booked next week? Sounds like they were just slow off the mark if they didn't manage to book one of the two short weeks off, tbh.

Both weeks give you 10 days off for 4 days (assuming Mon-Fri working pattern with BHs off) so she hadn't blocked them from benefiting from this.

But this week wasn’t school holiday for a lot of schools, so not necessarily as useful for anyone who wants to spend those 10 days with their kids.

WheretheFishesareFrightening · 02/04/2026 21:19

shuggles · 02/04/2026 20:10

I'm sorry but that makes absolutely no sense.

Why? … it makes perfect sense to me. People need a break when they are well, so it doesn’t seem good for anyone’s wellbeing to use up annual leave on days they are too sick to work.

shuggles · 02/04/2026 20:10

WheretheFishesareFrightening · 01/04/2026 22:01

Most people do? Every where I’ve worked it’s been strictly prohibited to take annual leave when you’re sick, it’s cancelled and reclassified as sick leave so you still have an actual legally mandated break from work through the year.

I'm sorry but that makes absolutely no sense.

shuggles · 02/04/2026 20:06

@ISpyNoPlumPie What??!!! No. Sick leave, emergency leave, unpaid leave. Who said don’t show up? Bizarre.

Sick leave is a negative reflection on the employee. I avoid it at all costs.

I've never heard of "emergency leave."

You must be very rich if you can take unpaid leave.

Dugongs · 02/04/2026 19:22

In the UK there is no automatic right for an employee to unilaterally cancel pre-booked annual leave.
The employer decides whether to agree to the cancellation request — and they can refuse if it doesn't suit business needs.

Frillysweetpea · 02/04/2026 19:17

Without knowing what the industry is or what roles you and your colleague have it's impossible to say if the manager is being unfair or not. If they've planned around a particular skill mix it may well be far too late to change.

whatcanthematterbe81 · 02/04/2026 18:52

Pretty twatty to put it in as a placeholder so no one else can. I would be fuming if I was your colleague

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 02/04/2026 12:34

Paveparadiseputupaparkinglot · 01/04/2026 21:17

Pretty sure you can legally cancel any leave you want.. contact HR. However it’s a shame someone else wanted it and you haven’t given them enough notice!

No she can't under UK employment law

Starlight1979 · 02/04/2026 12:29

This is what happens when we live in a world of social media lemmings who can't think for themselves.

Every year we get these "book these days off for maximum leave!" posts and people go "Wow! I get 10 WHOLE DAYS OFF if I just book 4" and do it to block others having them off.

If they actually stopped and engaged their brain then they'd realise that you already get 9 days off if you book 5 (presuming you work Mon - Fri anyway) so it's nowhere near as amazing as they think it is.

Fends · 02/04/2026 12:14

I don’t know about the policy and I imagine if someone actually agreed to swap now then they’d allow it.

However, I can’t abide piss takers who grab the best slots “just in case” then think it’s ok to just cancel. We missed the opportunity for an amazing trip a couple of years ago thanks to DH’s colleague who had booked just 2 of the days for a stag weekend. Then decided he couldn’t be arsed and admitted he’d never really wanted to go anyway. Hate people like that, so yes, not surprised your colleague is “grumbling”.

caringcarer · 02/04/2026 12:09

Whenisitmyturntorest · 01/04/2026 20:55

I think that is fair enough, given you blocked prime leave time and it is too late now for colleagues to make plans in that time.

This. If you were allowed to swap at this late notice you would want more leave later and that might deprive another colleague. You grabbed it now it's yours. Maybe you will let a colleague have Easter off next year.

grumpygrape · 02/04/2026 11:49

NoWordForFluffy · 02/04/2026 09:46

Surely the colleague could've booked this week off if OP had booked next week? Sounds like they were just slow off the mark if they didn't manage to book one of the two short weeks off, tbh.

Both weeks give you 10 days off for 4 days (assuming Mon-Fri working pattern with BHs off) so she hadn't blocked them from benefiting from this.

But it was the OP who wanted the 10 for the price of 4 offer that Easter gives. The colleague might just have wanted next week, not this week.

Ashkrevon · 02/04/2026 11:04

Paveparadiseputupaparkinglot · 01/04/2026 21:17

Pretty sure you can legally cancel any leave you want.. contact HR. However it’s a shame someone else wanted it and you haven’t given them enough notice!

Nope

And your employer can cancel your leave with twice the notice as the length - and they can tell you when to take it in the first place (UK)

NoWordForFluffy · 02/04/2026 09:46

Surely the colleague could've booked this week off if OP had booked next week? Sounds like they were just slow off the mark if they didn't manage to book one of the two short weeks off, tbh.

Both weeks give you 10 days off for 4 days (assuming Mon-Fri working pattern with BHs off) so she hadn't blocked them from benefiting from this.

rwalker · 02/04/2026 08:39

Yes this is on you next week is too short notice for a number of reasons
but also if you did this and I worked with you rightly so I’d be well pissed off with you

Whaleandsnail6 · 02/04/2026 08:28

I can see why your manager has refused the cancellation, as other have pointed out above.

Its a bit selfish to book the "best weeks" annual leave just in case, leaving the not-so-prime-weeks for people who didn't get in quick enough, and then 2 days before deciding that because you didn't make any exciting enough plans, you don't want the leave any more.

Its probably too late for colleagues to plan anything for this time, and you cancelling would make more work for management, in them having to sort out the leave for when you wanted to take the days later in the year. They have already planned for you being off next week.

Just enjoy the time off work and make the best of it

Dancingsquirrels · 02/04/2026 07:02

Ablondiebutagoody · 01/04/2026 21:27

You can't bag the best leave so that nobody else can have it just in case you feel like taking it when the time comes......and then back out. That's really shitty.

Agree with this

Straightomyhead · 02/04/2026 06:48

Where I work now is really flexible and as long as business is covered most of the team can be off, we just need to work it around our own projects.

However I can totally see that it would be unfair to book a prime week where only a certain number of people can be off and then cancel it at the last minute. Others will have made arrangements, family booked annual leave to match you, childcare booked and potentially paid for whic often isn’t changeable at the last minute.

Take the leave as you have too and be aware that if you are going to cancel it then next time you need to do it much much further in advance.

NoWordForFluffy · 02/04/2026 06:27

Blushingm · 02/04/2026 06:26

This is about using AL when they’re sick nothing to do with this situation as OP isn’t sick she just bagsy’d the prime leave so others couldn’t have it and has not changed her mind

It's a side conversation. RTFT!

TinyMouseTheatre · 02/04/2026 06:26

We can change a week’s leave with a week’s notice but not all teams are like that. What’s the usual policy?

Blushingm · 02/04/2026 06:26

NoWordForFluffy · 02/04/2026 04:58

Not true: https://www.gov.uk/taking-sick-leave

This specifically says that employees can ask to take holiday where, for instance, they don't qualify for paid sick leave (a fair way down the page):

An employee can ask to take their paid holiday for the time they’re off work sick. They might do this if they do not qualify for sick pay, for example. Any rules relating to sick leave will still apply.

Employers cannot force employees to take annual leave when they’re eligible for sick leave.

You just can't be forced to take it. It wouldn't make sense if you couldn't ask, but also didn't qualify for anything other than SSP (which had a 3 day waiting period until this month). The ethics of forcing somebody to take unpaid / very low paid sick leave are fairly dubious!

This is about using AL when they’re sick nothing to do with this situation as OP isn’t sick she just bagsy’d the prime leave so others couldn’t have it and has not changed her mind

Blushingm · 02/04/2026 06:24

I think you were really selfish

and yes - employers can make you take AL