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AIBU over chair?

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Undertheviaduct · 01/04/2026 17:10

Hi, grateful for any perspectives. Son is home from Uni, and wants to sit in his 'usual' chair in the living room. This is the one he has always tended to sit in. However, since he went to Uni, husband has taken to sitting in that chair. Husband wants me to support that it is now 'his' chair, and is angry that I'm not supporting him in that. Son is in halls with only a desk chair and I want him to feel comfortable and welcomed for the short time he is back. Husband says this particular chair has better view of TV etc. I have offered him the chair where I usually sit, with good view of the TV etc, but that didn't help. Husband feels that I am not prioritising him. AIBU to think son should be able to sit in his usual chair when he is back?

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TerrysCIockworkOrange · 01/04/2026 17:14

Is there some reason why your son would be uncomfortable or unwelcome in a different chair?! You getting dragged in to something trivial like this is just mollycoddling the pair of them. Whoever gets the seat first sits in it and if they want to squabble about it, let them. They’re both adults ffs

Namechangetheyarewatching · 01/04/2026 17:13

Why is it your issue

Tell him to grow up and sort his own shit out, manchild

Agripinanowweseeher · 01/04/2026 17:13

Spare10k · 01/04/2026 17:12

They don’t have or own a chair. Like with my kids if they don’t play nicely they don’t play at all.

Tell them to agree - you’ll not be an arbiter. You’re supporting this dysfunctional dynamic. If it starts say - you’re both adults please address this with each other and you walk away.

This definitely

Spare10k · 01/04/2026 17:12

Undertheviaduct · 01/04/2026 17:10

Hi, grateful for any perspectives. Son is home from Uni, and wants to sit in his 'usual' chair in the living room. This is the one he has always tended to sit in. However, since he went to Uni, husband has taken to sitting in that chair. Husband wants me to support that it is now 'his' chair, and is angry that I'm not supporting him in that. Son is in halls with only a desk chair and I want him to feel comfortable and welcomed for the short time he is back. Husband says this particular chair has better view of TV etc. I have offered him the chair where I usually sit, with good view of the TV etc, but that didn't help. Husband feels that I am not prioritising him. AIBU to think son should be able to sit in his usual chair when he is back?

They don’t have or own a chair. Like with my kids if they don’t play nicely they don’t play at all.

Tell them to agree - you’ll not be an arbiter. You’re supporting this dysfunctional dynamic. If it starts say - you’re both adults please address this with each other and you walk away.

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