AIBU over chair?

Givingmytwocents · 07/04/2026 10:07

Guess they have to do 'rock, paper. scissors' to see who gets it - they can do that on a nightly basis. Hopefully one of them will just see how silly it is and give it to the other person.

Elsvieta · 04/04/2026 17:08

takealettermsjones · 01/04/2026 17:18

Tell them you're having the chair. Problem solved.

This. Tell them you've got a solution and damn well sit in it. Then tell them they can sort out between them who's bringing you a cup of tea.

Merida46 · 03/04/2026 23:20

Make them fight to the death for possession! 😈

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 03/04/2026 12:23

SynthEsjs · 03/04/2026 12:22

But why is a grown man having a pissing competition with his own son???

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Because his son expects everything to revolve around him?

SynthEsjs · 03/04/2026 12:22

Nothung · 03/04/2026 11:45

Lock them both out of the room till they stop having a territorial pissing competition. Sit on the disputed chair yourself and turn the tv up so loudly you can’t hear them kvetching.

But why is a grown man having a pissing competition with his own son???

SynthEsjs · 03/04/2026 12:22

I think your husband’s being selfish.

This is pathetic behaviour.

BarbiesDreamHome · 03/04/2026 11:47

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 03/04/2026 11:04

Because he no longer lives at home and doesn’t pay the bills so waltzing in every few months and expecting to get his own way is not on.

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Do you know how much I desperately hope my dc waltzes home and feels the weight lift from her shoulders because she's home, she's safe and the world can pause for a few weeks?

Nothung · 03/04/2026 11:45

Lock them both out of the room till they stop having a territorial pissing competition. Sit on the disputed chair yourself and turn the tv up so loudly you can’t hear them kvetching.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 03/04/2026 11:41

OneLimeDuck · 03/04/2026 11:40

Given that the OP says this chair was usually used by her son prior to him going to university but now is used by her husband I have an image of her husband,, prior to her son going to university, looking enviously at the chair thinking soon my beauty soon you will be mine, whilst twiddling his moustache in the manner of the villain in a Victorian melodrama.

The OP could turn this petty dispute to her advantage, the chair becomes a prize in a competition between her son and her husband to see who can do the best at housework.

Or the son could accept that the house no longer revolves around him?

OneLimeDuck · 03/04/2026 11:40

Given that the OP says this chair was usually used by her son prior to him going to university but now is used by her husband I have an image of her husband,, prior to her son going to university, looking enviously at the chair thinking soon my beauty soon you will be mine, whilst twiddling his moustache in the manner of the villain in a Victorian melodrama.

The OP could turn this petty dispute to her advantage, the chair becomes a prize in a competition between her son and her husband to see who can do the best at housework.

YourJoyousDenimExpert · 03/04/2026 11:19

Best way to settle would be‘Rock, Paper, Scissors’ clearly.

JLou08 · 03/04/2026 11:10

icouldholditwithacobweb · 01/04/2026 17:24

YABU. First, it's not your job to sort ths out. Second, your husband owns the chair (jointly with yoiu I assume) and it's his/both of your house - of course he gets to sit where he wants! Pandering to your son like this is not exactly going to do him any favours in terms of teaching him to grow up, not be a selfish idiot and to respect what others may want. Your son does not need to have 'his' chair to feel welcomed and comfortable. It's just his preference.

And bending to the whims of the father/husband in the house will definitely teach him well. Way to create a man who will be a dominating husband and father who thinks his needs and wants come above everyone else as 'man of the house'.

JLou08 · 03/04/2026 11:05

Why does your husband think you should prioritise him? Why does anyone need to be prioritised? It's a chair. They could both have time in the chair. I couldn't be doing with such ridiculousness over a chair. There's an ideal chair in my lounge, whoever gets their first sits there. If there was a guest, which your DS kind of is now he's at uni, I definitely wouldn't be moving them out of the best chair. I'd want them to feel comfortable, knowing I can have the chair when they're gone. If my DH was acting like yours is it would put me off him.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 03/04/2026 11:04

BarbiesDreamHome · 03/04/2026 10:59

I'll bet your husband isn't his dad because a dad wouldn't push his sonnout pike thst and push you to choose between them by asking for back up. It's absolutely pathetic.

Edited can see he is and actually that's worse. His son is home periodically, why woulndt he want to make him feel at home.

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Because he no longer lives at home and doesn’t pay the bills so waltzing in every few months and expecting to get his own way is not on.

BarbiesDreamHome · 03/04/2026 10:59

I'll bet your husband isn't his dad because a dad wouldn't push his sonnout pike thst and push you to choose between them by asking for back up. It's absolutely pathetic.

Edited can see he is and actually that's worse. His son is home periodically, why woulndt he want to make him feel at home.

Slowlyslowlysurely · 03/04/2026 10:59

Move your feet lose your seat?

DarmokAndJaladAtTenagra · 03/04/2026 10:58

If it's the best chair in the house, you should have it

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Sit in it and tell your son to bring you tea, and your husband to bring you toast

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 03/04/2026 10:56

CoastalCalm · 03/04/2026 10:08

Do they argue over who gets to sit in the front seat of the car too ? Pathetic - sit in the seat yourself or put it in the garage if they can’t sort as adults

Doubt it - that will be granted to the son automatically I expect

CoastalCalm · 03/04/2026 10:08

Do they argue over who gets to sit in the front seat of the car too ? Pathetic - sit in the seat yourself or put it in the garage if they can’t sort as adults

Gherkinslice · 03/04/2026 10:07

Undertheviaduct · 01/04/2026 17:10

Hi, grateful for any perspectives. Son is home from Uni, and wants to sit in his 'usual' chair in the living room. This is the one he has always tended to sit in. However, since he went to Uni, husband has taken to sitting in that chair. Husband wants me to support that it is now 'his' chair, and is angry that I'm not supporting him in that. Son is in halls with only a desk chair and I want him to feel comfortable and welcomed for the short time he is back. Husband says this particular chair has better view of TV etc. I have offered him the chair where I usually sit, with good view of the TV etc, but that didn't help. Husband feels that I am not prioritising him. AIBU to think son should be able to sit in his usual chair when he is back?

Surely they won't always want to sit in it at the same time much? I would say whoever gets there first, a bit like parking spaces on the road?!

Ukefluke · 03/04/2026 01:29

I would sit in the chair and tell to both fuck off.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 03/04/2026 01:22

To be clear I don’t think the chair should be reserved for the son either. I think it should be a first come, first served chair. Or the OP should just get it.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 03/04/2026 01:21

Hellohelga · 01/04/2026 18:48

My DH has his own chair - recliner with best view of the telly. Kids each have a lower ranking chair/tv position. That’s because he pays for every damn thing and they pay for eff all. Seems fair.

And what do you get? For looking after them all?

I mean I don’t agree with adults getting the best of everything because they pay, but I even less agree with men taking the best over women!

2026Y · 02/04/2026 23:39

Like father like son, it seems. Leave them to it.

Ladygardenerinderby · 02/04/2026 23:16

Jesus wept omg !!! I’d take the bloody chair n sit in it myself