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AIBU to think nursery staff should not cordon off a public playground?

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mumofboysinlondon · 01/04/2026 13:04

I took my almost 3-year-old and baby to a small playground this morning, and while we were there a nursery group came along. So far so normal.

The staff with the group then added chains to the two gates to stop their kids from escaping, and roped off some of the climbing frame.

I was a bit annoyed by this - the roped off areas included the fireman’s pole and a rope ladder which my kid loves. Obviously this is a space designed for small children so it is inherently pretty safe… The locks on the gates also confused a number of other parents trying to get in, although they could be opened relatively easily by an adult.

I did speak to the member of staff and asked if they really needed to do it and she said it was the health and safety policy of the nursery. I didn’t want to kick up a fuss and we left after a bit.

AIBU in thinking this was a bit out of order - it’s a public playground.

OP posts:
Laserwho · 04/04/2026 18:54

Nat375 · 04/04/2026 18:44

Look let's just agree to disagree on this one yes because its getting tiring having to keep explaining myself over and over. Btw rolling eyes emoji real mature!

You are missing the point that this is actually a serious situation involving children, the safety of the nursery children and other children. But yes let's agree to disagree and your point is not even a point in this discussion.

Nat375 · 04/04/2026 18:44

Laserwho · 04/04/2026 18:36

You have completely missed the point of the thread 🙄

Look let's just agree to disagree on this one yes because its getting tiring having to keep explaining myself over and over. Btw rolling eyes emoji real mature!

Laserwho · 04/04/2026 18:36

Nat375 · 04/04/2026 18:35

Go report my comment then if it offends you so much!

You have completely missed the point of the thread 🙄

Nat375 · 04/04/2026 18:35

Laserwho · 04/04/2026 18:34

It's an OP to find out what the OP can do about this. You should be concerned the ropes are actually a hazard for children and should be reported, the fact ropes are used proves the fact the nursery children aren't being properly cared for while playing. This is actually a serious matter and you have tried to railroad it with things that are no concern to this thread.

Go report my comment then if it offends you so much!

Laserwho · 04/04/2026 18:34

Nat375 · 04/04/2026 14:54

Its got to do with the fact that some people actually think that missing out on a day in the park is like the end of the world i just pointed out that there are lot worse things going on in this world than that and no need for the attitude if you don't like my comment then just move on!

It's an OP to find out what the OP can do about this. You should be concerned the ropes are actually a hazard for children and should be reported, the fact ropes are used proves the fact the nursery children aren't being properly cared for while playing. This is actually a serious matter and you have tried to railroad it with things that are no concern to this thread.

Nat375 · 04/04/2026 14:54

whynotwhatknot · 03/04/2026 21:23

bloody hll what has other children being abused got to do with this

Its got to do with the fact that some people actually think that missing out on a day in the park is like the end of the world i just pointed out that there are lot worse things going on in this world than that and no need for the attitude if you don't like my comment then just move on!

Nat375 · 04/04/2026 14:50

Laserwho · 04/04/2026 07:30

The purpose of this op is not about abuse.

Right ok so this site is supposed to be about voicing an opinion one of which not everyone will like but ultimately everyone's right to do so, so unless you are running the site yourself then you don't get to tell me what I can and can't post id say that's up to who to admins or whoever runs it wouldn't you? 🙄

Zanatdy · 04/04/2026 07:34

They cannot do this so i’d he firing off some emails to the council & nearby nurseries. I’d have told them my child wanted to use certain equipment so ask them to remove the chains etc.

Laserwho · 04/04/2026 07:30

Nat375 · 03/04/2026 21:08

Right ok if you can read something like that about other children being so much worse off and im talking abuse of a high level here and still go on about a missed day at the playground like it's the end of the world then im wasting my time and you need to get a grip

The purpose of this op is not about abuse.

JMSA · 04/04/2026 01:36

Talk about entitlement!
They shouldn’t have done this.

whynotwhatknot · 03/04/2026 21:23

bloody hll what has other children being abused got to do with this

Nat375 · 03/04/2026 21:08

Laserwho · 03/04/2026 20:40

Oh, hello nursery owner. Taking over play equipment in a public place is not ok despite how you see it.

Right ok if you can read something like that about other children being so much worse off and im talking abuse of a high level here and still go on about a missed day at the playground like it's the end of the world then im wasting my time and you need to get a grip

DreamTheMoors · 03/04/2026 20:59

mumofboysinlondon · 01/04/2026 13:15

Thanks all, I feel vindicated! I totally get how it happens - they’ll have risk assessed a trip there and thought those bits were too high, and the gates are a risk, so they’ve taken action to mitigate that. But it seemed way over the top to me.

If they were locking the gates and roping off a fireman’s pole, etc etc, then this playground is obviously too inappropriate and dangerous for the children at their daycare.
You should go back a few times and see if you can’t run into them again and find out their particulars - then take whatever action you feel is appropriate.
I’m in California and this would get shut down in about 5 minutes, although I’ve never heard of it happening here before. Ever.

Arran2024 · 03/04/2026 20:48

Nat375 · 03/04/2026 19:47

Yeah she probably would be upset about it but I wouldn't be pissed off about it though she would just have to go another day. Id teach her that these things happen and find something else to do just as fun .Im sorry but i just don't see why anyone would make such a big deal out of this like i said it's not the end of the world there's children out there with nothing and nobody to care for them and I've seen that for myself first hand and trust me it's awful, so missing out on a day in the park im sorry compared to the problems some people have it's kind of minor isn't it

You can't support unreasonable behaviour on the basis that some people have it worse!

Laserwho · 03/04/2026 20:40

Nat375 · 03/04/2026 19:47

Yeah she probably would be upset about it but I wouldn't be pissed off about it though she would just have to go another day. Id teach her that these things happen and find something else to do just as fun .Im sorry but i just don't see why anyone would make such a big deal out of this like i said it's not the end of the world there's children out there with nothing and nobody to care for them and I've seen that for myself first hand and trust me it's awful, so missing out on a day in the park im sorry compared to the problems some people have it's kind of minor isn't it

Oh, hello nursery owner. Taking over play equipment in a public place is not ok despite how you see it.

Sirzy · 03/04/2026 19:50

I have seen plenty of suffering of children but that’s irrelevant here.

the nursery don’t own the playground so they can’t dictate who uses it.

Nat375 · 03/04/2026 19:47

Sirzy · 03/04/2026 19:33

So if you had said to your child “let’s go to the park” and got there and found someone else had decided to take it all over you wouldn’t be pissed off?

it’s a public space and nobody can claim it as their own

Yeah she probably would be upset about it but I wouldn't be pissed off about it though she would just have to go another day. Id teach her that these things happen and find something else to do just as fun .Im sorry but i just don't see why anyone would make such a big deal out of this like i said it's not the end of the world there's children out there with nothing and nobody to care for them and I've seen that for myself first hand and trust me it's awful, so missing out on a day in the park im sorry compared to the problems some people have it's kind of minor isn't it

Sirzy · 03/04/2026 19:33

Nat375 · 03/04/2026 19:24

You're entitled to your opinion as am i im sure its not the end of the world if the child can't use the playground for one day most people would realise that and get over it it's hardly world problems is it 🤦

So if you had said to your child “let’s go to the park” and got there and found someone else had decided to take it all over you wouldn’t be pissed off?

it’s a public space and nobody can claim it as their own

Nat375 · 03/04/2026 19:24

You're entitled to your opinion as am i im sure its not the end of the world if the child can't use the playground for one day most people would realise that and get over it it's hardly world problems is it 🤦

Laserwho · 03/04/2026 18:44

Nat375 · 03/04/2026 15:15

Depends how long they were there for i understand they needed to safeguard the children and that may have caused some inconvenience to you but unless they were there all day i don't see what the problem is couldn't you have just waited until they were gone? Im pretty sure if it was one of your children in that particular nursery they were safeguarding you would have been more than fine with it 🤷

Why should OP have waited until they have gone? They shouldn't have been roping off equipment anyway. No I wouldn't have been ok for my child to be in this nursery group., if the playground isn't safe for them without roping off they shouldn't have gone. In this situation I would have removed my child from the nursery and reported them for not providing safeguarding for my child.

Sirzy · 03/04/2026 15:23

If the place wasn’t safe for the children they shouldn’t have taken them. They can’t just decide to restrict access for others!

Nat375 · 03/04/2026 15:15

Depends how long they were there for i understand they needed to safeguard the children and that may have caused some inconvenience to you but unless they were there all day i don't see what the problem is couldn't you have just waited until they were gone? Im pretty sure if it was one of your children in that particular nursery they were safeguarding you would have been more than fine with it 🤷

Cuwins · 03/04/2026 13:01

What they are doing seems very unreasonable to me.
My daughters pre school sometimes take them to the public playground just outside their building and before she went there we have been along a couple of times when they have been there. They do put something over the gate latches to stop the kids being able to open them but the staff kept an eye out and as soon as they saw us approaching (before I had even seen the latches) they came over and opened the gates for us so it was clear they were making sure everyone knew they could come in. There are some parts in that playground for much older children and at no point did they see the need to close off any of it though, staff just kept an eye and encouraged the kids away from some things or supported them if they wanted to try.
If you can’t keep the kids safe in a playground built for kids I would be pretty concerned about the staff’s ability/numbers to be honest.

Arran2024 · 03/04/2026 12:45

viques · 02/04/2026 20:38

My point is that they are using a public area to run their business for free and potentially damaging it/ causing inconvenience to other users. Just as the nursery were using a public space for their own ends, and the boot camp were taking over a public space. Public spaces are not up for commercial gain otherwise every park in the country would be plastered with hot dog stalls, people selling kids toys, home made cakes, hand knitted tea cosies, t shirts etc………..

Round here you need a licence to walk dogs professionally in most of the parks and there is a limit to how many. Most people don't personally own loads of dogs that the number is a problem - the rules were brought in because of the dog walkers.

Seeline · 03/04/2026 11:32

XenoBitch · 02/04/2026 20:40

I know people who have lots of dogs that they own.
How is walking a big pack of your own dogs different to someone who is doing it as a business?

Can you post what legislation bans dog walkers from using public parks? Or just admit you are making things up.

This is what a council near to me require

AIBU to think nursery staff should not cordon off a public playground?