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To think that people should be quiet in the quiet coach of the train?

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HighlandTERF · 01/04/2026 11:44

I have autism. When traveling, I always pick the quiet coach to avoid getting overstimulated.

However, the quiet coach always seems to attract those that are performatively loud! Phone calls, music, and chit chat seem are drawn to it like a magnet! If you sit there and aren’t quiet, why are you there? There are seven other carriages where you can make as much noise as you like!

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EmpressaurusKitty · 01/04/2026 12:43

HighlandTERF · 01/04/2026 12:30

If you were assigned there though, and you wished to talk, why not move to another coach?

The risk of not being able to find a seat / seats elsewhere?

Ideally people would only get put in the quiet coach on request, or at least be able to specify that they didn’t want it.

And they should also be able to select a noisy coach which would be the only place on the train where it was ok to have phone noise without headphones.

Then anyone whose phone was being noisy anywhere else on the train could get kicked off at the next station.

XenoBitch · 01/04/2026 12:43

It is not the silent carriage. People can talk in them if they are considerate.

icouldholditwithacobweb · 01/04/2026 12:37

Yep, but we currently have a culture of complete lack of consideration towards others, and total disregardment of rules where possible in favour of the 'what I want is what matters' mentality. Many people are selfish arseholes.

newornotnew · 01/04/2026 12:33

People should respect it, but they don't.

If you can, it's easier to lower expectations and not anticipate quiet.

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HighlandTERF · 01/04/2026 12:30

If you were assigned there though, and you wished to talk, why not move to another coach?

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AlcoholicAntibiotic · 01/04/2026 11:49

This is exactly why I try and avoid the quiet carriage - it annoys me too much when people ignore it; it’s better for me to sit in a non quiet carriage with noise cancelling headphones.

Being charitable, on trains where seats are reserved people sometimes just get seats assigned there. But otherwise, I think it’s just a lot of people are inconsiderate arseholes.